138 Finding The Core Of Perfectionism

138 Finding The Core Of Perfectionism

If we are into perfectionism, and we fail even at the smallest way, we forget all the good we have done and focus only on the failure. We judge others the same. For example, at the slightest rejection we forget all the love we have shared with someone and obsess on this one breach of love. Our judgments come from our habits of thoughts and feelings, in other words our personal "reality." This process is designed to identify the core of perfectionism. We judge by such high standards that no one could live up to them, this will insure failure, focusing only on the failure. If you have never done this little profile, we suggest that you do so as part of your inventory or as a stand-alone. It will give you some important insights. Then write your imaginary wildest failures. List examples of what it "takes" to be ideally successful in the area you are working the Program on. Let your imagination go wild, movie time stuff. What are the rules, rituals and generalizations for becoming successful? If you know someone who is successful in this area, what did they have to do, be, give up, learn, or know? In other words what did it cost them to "make it?" Go to the extremes with this profile. This includes things you may have just heard about.

1. ACTION: WRITE OUT YOUR WILDEST IMAGINARY SUCCESS PROFILE - Now list examples of everything you associate with failing. Everything you can imagine, including the extremes. Use the same format as you did for being successful. In both cases stay focused in one important area in your life.

2. ACTION: WRITE OUT YOUR WILDEST IMAGINARY FAILURE PROFILE

3. ACTION: Write your examples where you judged others or yourself for those successfully extremes.

4. ACTION: Write your examples where you judged others or yourself for those failure extremes.

Within these simple actions you are likely to find the core of perfectionism.

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