When I uncovered my need for approval in the Fourth Step,
I didn't think it should rank as a character defect.
I wanted to think of it more as an asset (that is, the desire
to please people). It was quickly pointed out to me
that this "need" can be very crippling. Today I still enjoy
getting the approval of others, but I am not willing to pay
the price I used to pay to get it. I will not bend myself
into a pretzel to get others to like me. If I get your
approval, that's fine; but if I don't, I will survive without
it. I am responsible for speaking what I perceive to
be the truth, not what I think others may want to hear.
Similarly, my false pride always
kept me overly concerned about my reputation. Since
being enlightened in the A. A. program, my aim is to improve