I remember my sponsor's answer when I told him that
the Steps were "suggested." He replied that they are "suggested"
in the same way that, if your were to jump out of an airplane
with a parachute, it is "suggested" that you pull the ripcord
to save your life. He pointed out that it was "suggested"
I practice the Twelve Steps, if I wanted to save my life. So
I try to remember daily that I have a whole program of recovery
based on all Twelve of the "suggested" Steps.