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Biography:
"Our Southern Friend"
John H. F. (Fitz) M., Cumberstone,
Maryland.
(p.
226 in 1st edition, p. 460 in 2nd edition, p. 497 in 3rd
edition, and p. 208 in 4th edition. In the first three editions
it appeared under the section "They Nearly Lost All.")
They
Lost Nearly All
"Pioneer
A.A., minister's son, and
southern farmer, he asked,
'Who am I to say there is
no God?'"
Fitz'
date of sobriety was October
1935. He was Bill's second
or third success at 12th stepping
after he returned from Akron
in 1935. The first was Hank
P. ("The Unbeliever" in the
1st edition), and the second
probably William R., "A Business
Man's Recovery" in the 1st
edition.)
Fitz
has been described as a blue
blood from Maryland. Alcoholism
may have run in his mother's
side of the family. Fitz was,
reportedly, quite handsome,
with chiseled features. He
had the quiet, easy charm
of the landed gentry. Indeed,
he was quite the Southern
gentleman. Lois W. said Fitz
was an impractical, lovable
dreamer. His intellectual,
scholarly qualities gave him
common ground with Bill who
- like Fitz - was also a dreamer.
He
was the son of an Episcopalian
minister. Alcoholism may have
run in his mother's side of
the family. They never drank
at home, but when Fitz took
his first drink when at college,
he discovered that it removed
his fear and sense of inferiority.
He
attempted to enlist during
World War I, but could not
pass the physical. This added
to his sense of inferiority.
He
had a good job with a large
corporation until the Great
Depression. Later he worked
at various jobs: traveling
salesman, teacher and farmer.
But he couldn't stop drinking.
He was drunk when his mother-in-law
died, when his own mother
died, when his child was born.
His
wife had heard of Towns Hospital
in New York and urged him
to go there. Finally he agreed.
Another
patient told him about a group
of men who were worse than
he was but who didn't drink
any more. This patient had
tried the program but had
slipped. He knew it was because
he hadn't been honest. He
asked Fitz if he believed
in God. Fitz did not. Later,
in his bed, the thought came:
"Can all the worth while people
I have known be wrong about
God?" He took a look at his
own history and suddenly a
thought like a Voice came:
"Who are you to say there
is no God?"
Bill
& Lois W. and Fitz M.
and his wife became devoted
friends, and visited one another
often. Fitz frequently came
up for the Tuesday night meeting
at the Wilson home in Brooklyn.
It was while Bill and Lois
were visiting Fitz in Maryland
in the summer of 1936 that
Bill C., committed suicide.
(See page 16 of the Big Book.)
And Fitz, as well as Hank
P. often joined Bill and Lois
at Oxford Group house parties
before A.A. broke away from
the Oxford Group.
During
the writing of the Big Book,
Fitz insisted that the book
should express Christian doctrines
and use Biblical terms and
expressions. Hank and Jim
B. opposed him. The compromise
was "God as we understood
Him."
When
the group was trying to decide
on a name for the book, Fitz,
because of his close proximity
to Washington, was asked to
go to the Library of Congress
and find out how many books
were called "The Way Out."
His sister, Agnes, came to
the their assistance when
the printer refused to release
the book he was holding -
the first printing of Alcoholics
Anonymous. Agnes loaned A.A.
$1,000, the equivalent of
nearly $12,000 today.
Fitz
later started A.A. in Washington.
Florence R. ("A Feminine Victory"
in the 1st edition) joined
him in Washington. It was
Fitz who was called on to
identify her body when she
died. He sent one of his early
sponsees (who never recovered)
to see his old friend Jim
B. in Washington ("The Vicious
Cycle") when Jim was just
coming off a binge.
In
World War II, Fitz at last
was able to join the Army,
where he was found to be suffering
from cancer. He died October
4, 1943, eight years after
he stopped drinking. Fitz
is buried on the grounds of
Christ Episcopal Church at
Owensville, MD, where his
father had once been pastor.
He is buried just a few feet
from Jim B.
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