COMPARISON
OF THE PRE-PUBLICATION MANUSCRIPT
OF THE BOOK ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS
AND ITS 3RD EDITION
Following
is a comparison between the portions of the pre-publication
manuscript of the book Alcoholics Anonymous and the
way it is printed in the third edition.
1.
Pre-publication
Shows
how the text as it appeared in the pre-publication manuscript
of our Big Book, Alcoholics Anonymous in late 1938 when
it was circulated among the first members (about 100)
in Akron, Cleveland, and New York. Certain nonalcoholic
friends of A.A.--physicians, clergymen and newspaper
editors--were also asked for their comments and suggestions.
There were at least two editing of this draft before
it went to the printer, Cornwall Press, Cornwall, New
York.
2.
Third edition
Shows
how the text appears in the third edition. The portions
of the text which were modified are underlined. There
are places in which commas were used or not used, some
words were capitalized and some not, some grammar errors,
and other miscellaneous ways of highlighting text which,
for the sake of brevity, are not shown.
page
information references the 3rd edition
1.
FOREWORD
2.
FOREWORD TO THE FIRST EDITION
This
is the Foreword as it appeared in first printing of
the first edition in 1939.
page
xiii, heading
1.
To show other alcoholics PRECISELY HOW THEY CAN RECOVER
is the main purpose of this book. For them, we think
these pages will prove so convincing that no further
authentication will be necessary. We hope this account
of our experiences will help everyone to better understand
the alcoholic. Many do not yet comprehend that he is
a very sick person. And besides, we are sure that new
our way of living has its advantages for all.
It is important that we remain anonymous because we
are too few, at present to handle the overwhelming number
of personal appeals which will result from this publication.
2.
To show other alcoholics precisely how we have recovered
is the main purpose of this book. For them, we hope
these pages will prove so convincing that no further
authentication will be necessary. We think this account
of our experiences will help everyone to better understand
the alcoholic. Many do not comprehend that the alcoholic
is a very sick person. And besides, we are sure that
our way of living has its advantages for all.
It is important that we remain anonymous because we
are too few, at present to handle the overwhelming number
of personal appeals which may result from this publication.
page
xiii, paragraph 1, lines 4-12 & paragraph 2, lines
1-4
1.
We would like it clearly understood that our alcoholic
work is an avocation only, so that when writing or speaking
publicly about alcoholism, we urge each of our Fellowship
to omit his personal name, designating himself instead
as "A Member of Alcoholics Anonymous".
2.
We would like it understood that our alcoholic work
is an avocation.
When writing or speaking publicly about alcoholism,
we urge each of our Fellowship to omit his personal
name, designating himself instead as "a member
of Alcoholics Anonymous".
page
xiii, paragraph 2, lines 6,7 & paragraph 3
1.
We shall try to contact such cases.
2.
We should like to be helpful to such cases.
page
xiv, paragraph 1, lines 3,4
1.
(This multilith volume will be sent upon receipt of
$3.50, and the printed book will be mailed, at no additional
cost, as soon as published.)
2.
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page
xiv
1.
About four years ago I attended a patient who, though
he had been a competent businessman of good earning
capacity, was an alcoholic of a type I had come to regard
as hopeless.
2.
In late 1934 I attended a patient who, though he had
been a competent businessman of good earning capacity,
was an alcoholic of a type I had come to regard as hopeless.
page
xxiii, paragraph 4
1.
I personally know thirty of these cases who were of
the type with whom other methods had failed completely.
2.
I personally know scores of cases who were of the type
with whom other methods had failed completely.
page
xxiii, paragraph 6
1.
These facts appear to be of extreme medical importance;
because of the extraordinary possibilities of rapid
growth inherent in this group they mark a new epoch
in the annals of alcoholism.
2.
These facts appear to be of extreme medical importance;
because of the extraordinary possibilities of rapid
growth inherent in this group they may mark a new epoch
in the annals of alcoholism.
page
xxiii, paragraph 7, lines 1-4
1.
(Signed) - - - - - M.D.
2.
William D. Silkworth,M.D.
page
xxiv, paragraph 2, line 2
1.
In this statement he confirms what anyone who has suffered
alcoholic torture must believe--that the body of the
alcoholic is quite as abnormal as his mind. It does
not satisfy us to be told that we cannot control our
drinking just because we were maladjusted to life, that
we were in full flight from reality, or were outright
mental defectives.
2.
In this statement he confirms what we who have suffered
alcoholic torture must believe--that the body of the
alcoholic is quite as abnormal as his mind. It did not
satisfy us to be told that we could not control our
drinking just because we were maladjusted to life, that
we were in full flight from reality, or were outright
mental defectives.
page
xxiv, paragraph 2, lines 3-9
1.
The doctor's theory that we have a kind of allergy to
alcohol interests us.
2.
The doctor's theory that we have an allergy to alcohol
interests us.
page
xxiv, paragraph 3, lines 1,2
1.
But as ex-alcoholics, we can say that his explanation
makes good sense.
2.
But as ex-problem drinkers, we can say that his explanation
makes good sense.
page
xxiv, paragraph 3, lines 3-5
1.
Though we work out our solution on the spiritual plane,
we favor hospitalization for the alcoholic who is very
jittery or befogged.
2.
Though we work out our solution on the spiritual as
well as an altruistic plane, we favor hospitalization
for the alcoholic who is very jittery or befogged
page
xxiv, paragraph 4, lines 1-3
1.
About four years ago one of the leading contributors
to this book came under our care in this hospital and
while here he acquired some ideas which he put into
practical application at once.
2.
Many years ago one of the leading contributors to this
book came under our care in this hospital and while
here he acquired some ideas which he put into practical
application at once.
page
xxv, paragraph 6
1.
We feel, after many years of experience, that we have
found nothing which has contributed more to the rehabilitation
of these men than the community movement now growing
up among them.
2.
We feel, after many years of experience, that we have
found nothing which has contributed more to the rehabilitation
of these men than the altruistic movement now growing
up among them.
page
xxvi, paragraph 3, lines 8-11
1.
Though the aggregate of recoveries resulting from psychiatric
effort is perhaps considerable, we physicians must admit
we have made little impression upon the problem as a
whole.
2.
Though the aggregate of recoveries resulting from psychiatric
effort is considerable, we physicians must admit we
have made little impression upon the problem as a whole.
page
xxvii, paragraph 3, lines 5-8
1.
I do not hold with those who believe that alcoholism
is entirely a mental condition.
2.
I do not hold with those who believe that alcoholism
is entirely a problem of mental control.
page
xxvii, paragraph 4, lines 1,2
1.
There are, of course, the constitutional psychopaths
who are emotionally unstable.
2.
There are, of course, the psychopaths who are emotionally
unstable.
page
xxviii, paragraph 2, lines 2,3
1.
Then there are those who are never properly adjusted
to life, who are the so called neurotics. The prognosis
of this type is unfavorable.
2.
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page
xxviii, paragraph 3, lines 1-3 omitted from the printing
1.
Perhaps I can best answer this by relating an experience
of two years ago.
2.
Perhaps I can best answer this by relating one of my
experiences.
page
xxix, paragraph 1, lines 1,2
1.
More than three years have now passed with no return
to alcohol.
2.
A long time has passed with no return to alcohol.
page
xxix, paragraph 2, lines 17,18
1.
He has not had a drink for more than three years.
2.
He has not had a drink for a great many years.
page
xxx, paragraph 1, line 2
1.
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2.
William D. Silkworth, M.D.
page
xxx
1.
I was staring at an inch of the tape which bore the
inscription PKF-32.
2.
I was staring at an inch of the tape which bore the
inscription XYZ-32.
page
4, paragraph 1, lines 5,6
1.
My brother-in-law is a physician, and through his kindness
I was placed in a nationally-known hospital for the
mental and physical rehabilitation of alcoholics.
2.
My brother-in-law is a physician, and through his kindness
and that of my mother I was placed in a nationally-known
hospital for the mental and physical rehabilitation
of alcoholics.
page
7, paragraph 1, lines 1-4
1.
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2.
Despite the living example of my friend there remained
in me the vestiges of my old prejudice. The word God
still aroused a certain antipathy. When the thought
was expressed that there might be a God personal to
me this feeling was intensified. I didn't like the idea.
I could go for such conceptions as Creative Intelligence,
Universal Mind or Spirit of Nature but I resisted the
thought of a Czar of the Heavens, however loving His
sway might be. I have since talked with scores of men
who felt the same way.
My friend suggested what then seemed a novel idea. He
said, "Why don't you choose your own conception
of God?"
That statement hit me hard. It melted the icy intellectual
mountain in whose shadow I had lived and shivered many
years. I stood in the sunlight at last.
It was only a matter of being willing to believe in
a Power greater than myself. Nothing more was required
of me to make my beginning. I saw that growth could
start from that point. Upon a
foundation
of complete willingness I might build what I saw in
my friend. Would I have it? Of course I would!
Thus was I convinced that God is concerned with us humans
when we want Him enough. At long last I saw, I felt,
I believed. Scales of pride and prejudice fell from
my eyes. A new world came into view.
page
12, paragraphs 1-4
1.
Treatment seemed wise, for I showed signs of delirium
tremens. I have not had a drink since.
2.
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page
13, paragraph 1, line 3
1.
I ruthlessly faced my sins and became willing to have
my new-found Friend take them away, root and branch.
2.
I ruthlessly faced my sins and became willing to have
my new-found Friend take them away, root and branch.
I have not had a drink since.
page
13, paragraph 2, lines 5-8
1.
I have seen one hundred families set their feet in the
path that really goes somewhere; have seen the most
impossible domestic situations righted; feuds and bitterness
of all sorts wiped out.
2.
I have seen hundreds of families set their feet in the
path that really goes somewhere; have seen the most
impossible domestic situations righted; feuds and bitterness
of all sorts wiped out.
page
15, paragraph 2, lines 4-8
1.
In one Western city and its environs there are eighty
of us and our families. We meet frequently at our different
homes, so that newcomers may find the fellowship they
seek. At these informal gatherings one may often see
from 40 to 80 persons.
2.
In one western city and its environs there are one thousand
of us and our families. We meet frequently so that newcomers
may find the fellowship they seek. At these informal
gatherings one may often see from 50 to 200 persons.
page
15, paragraph 2, lines 13-17
1.
God has to work twenty-four hours a day in and through
us, or we perish.
2.
Faith has to work twenty-four hours a day in and through
us, or we perish.
page
16, paragraph 2, lines 4,5
1.
Most of us feel we need look no further for Utopia,
nor even for Heaven.
2.
Most of us feel we need look no further for Utopia.
page
16, paragraph 3, line 1
1.
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2.
Bill W., co-founder of A.A. died January 24, 1971
footnote
1.
We, of ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, know one hundred men who
were once just as hopeless as Bill. All have recovered.
2.
We, of ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, know thousands of men and
women who were once just as hopeless as Bill. Nearly
all have recovered.
page
17, paragraph 1, lines 1-3
1.
We are ordinary Americans.
2.
We are average Americans.
page
17, paragraph 2, line 1
1.
This volume will inform, instruct and comfort those
who are, or who may be affected. They are many.
2.
We hope this volume will inform and comfort those who
are, or who may be affected. There are many.
page
18, paragraph 2
1.
Highly competent psychiatrists who have dealt with us
(often fruitlessly, we are afraid) find it almost impossible
to persuade an alcoholic to discuss his situation without
reserve.
2.
Highly competent psychiatrists who have dealt with us
have found it sometimes impossible to persuade an alcoholic
to discuss his situation without reserve.
page
18, paragraph 3, lines 1-3
1.
But the ex-alcoholic who had found this solution, who
is properly armed with certain medical information,
can generally win the entire confidence of another alcoholic
in a few hours.
2.
But the ex-problem drinker who had found this solution,
who is properly armed with facts about himself, can
generally win the entire confidence of another alcoholic
in a few hours.
page
18, paragraph 4, lines 1-4
1.
That the man who is making the approach has had the
same difficulty, that he obviously knows what he is
talking about, that his whole deportment shouts at the
new prospect that he is a man with a real answer, that
he has no attitude of holier than thou, nothing whatever
except the sincere desire to be helpful; that there
are no fees to pay, no axes to grind, no people to please,
no lectures to be endured-these are the conditions we
have found
necessary.
2.
That the man who is making the approach has had the
same difficulty, that he obviously knows what he is
talking about, that his whole deportment shouts at the
new prospect that he is a man with a real answer, that
he has no attitude of Holier Than Thou, nothing whatever
except the sincere desire to be helpful; that there
are no fees to pay, no axes to grind, no people to please,
no lectures to be endured-these are the conditions we
have found most effective.
page
18, paragraph 5, lines 1-9
1.
None of us make a vocation of this work, nor do we think
its effectiveness would be increased if we did. We feel
that elimination of the liquor problem is but a beginning.
2.
None of us make a sole vocation of this work, nor do
we think its effectiveness would be increased if we
did. We feel that elimination of our drinking is but
a beginning.
page
19, paragraph 1, lines 1-4
1.
Our very lives, as ex-alcoholics, depend upon our constant
thought of others and how we may help meet their needs.
2.
Our very lives, as ex-problem drinkers, depend upon
our constant thought of others and how we may help meet
their needs.
page
19, paragraph 4, lines 10-12
1.
Then comes the days when he simply cannot make it and
gets drunk all over again. Perhaps he goes to a doctor
who gives him a dose of morphine or some high-voltage
sedative with which to taper off.
2.
Then comes the day when he simply cannot make it and
gets drunk all over again. Perhaps he goes to a doctor
who gives him morphine or some sedative with which to
taper off.
page
21, paragraph 2, lines 29-32
1.
Psychiatrists and medical men vary considerably in their
opinion as to why the alcoholic reacts differently from
normal people. No one is sure why, once a certain point
is reached, nothing can be done for him.
2.
Opinions vary considerably as to why the alcoholic reacts
differently from normal people. We are not sure why,
once a certain point is reached, little can be done
for him.
page
22, paragraph 3, lines 2-5
1.
Therefore, the real problem of the alcoholic centers
in his mind, rather than in his body.
2.
Therefore, the main problem of the alcoholic centers
in his mind, rather than in his body.
page
23, paragraph 1, lines 3,4
1.
The tragic truth is that if the man be a real alcoholic,
the happy day will seldom arrive.
2.
The tragic truth is that if the man be a real alcoholic,
the happy day may not arrive.
page
23, paragraph 4, lines 1,2
1.
We are unable at certain times, no matter how well we
understand ourselves, to bring into our consciousness
with sufficient force the memory of the suffering and
humiliation of even a week or a month ago.
2.
We are unable, at certain times, to bring into our consciousness
with sufficient force the memory of the suffering and
humiliation of even a week or a month ago.
page
24, paragraph 1, lines 4-6
1.
When this sort of thinking is fully established in an
individual with alcoholic tendencies, he has probably
placed himself beyond human aid, and unless locked up,
is certain to die, or go permanently insane.
2.
When this sort of thinking is fully established in an
individual with alcoholic tendencies, he has probably
placed himself beyond human aid, and unless locked up,
may die or permanently insane.
page
24, paragraph 4, lines 1-4
1.
But for the grace of God, there would have been one
hundred more convincing demonstrations.
2.
But for the grace of God, there would have been thousands
more convincing demonstrations.
page
24, paragraph 4, lines 6-8
1.
If you are seriously alcoholic, we believe you have
no middle-of-the-road solution. You are in a position
where life is becoming impossible, and if you have passed
into the region from which there is no return through
human aid, you have but two alternatives: one is to
go on to the bitter end, blotting out the consciousness
of your intolerable situation as best you can; and the
other, to find what we have found. This you can do if
you honestly want to, and are willing to make the effort.
2.
If you are as seriously alcoholic as we were, we believe
there is no middle-of-the-road solution. We were in
a position where life was becoming impossible, and if
we had passed into the region from which there is no
return through human aid, we had but two alternatives:
One was to go on to the bitter end, blotting out the
consciousness of our intolerable situation as best we
could; and the other, to accept spiritual help. This
we did because we honestly wanted to, and were willing
to make the effort.
page
25, paragraph 3
1.
Then he had gone to Europe, placing himself in the care
of a celebrated physician who prescribed for him. Though
bitter experience had made him skeptical, he finished
his treatment with unusual confidence.
2.
Then he had gone to Europe, placing himself in the care
of a celebrated physician (the psychiatrist, Dr. Jung)
who prescribed for him. Though experience had made him
skeptical, he finished his treatment with unusual confidence.
page
26, paragraph 1, lines 4-8
1.
The distinguished American psychologist, William James,
in his book "Varieties of Religious Experience,"
indicates a multitude of ways in which men have found
God. As a group, we have no desire to convince anyone
that there is only one way by which God can be discovered.
2.
The distinguished American psychologist, William James,
in his book "Varieties of Religious Experience,"
indicates a multitude of ways in which men have discovered
God. We have no desire to convince anyone that there
is only one way by which faith can be acquired.
page
28, paragraph 3, lines 1-6
1.
We think it no concern of ours, as a group, what religious
bodies our members identify themselves with as individuals.
2.
We think it no concern of ours what religious bodies
our members identify themselves with as individuals.
page
28, paragraph 4, lines 1,2
1.
There is a group of personal narratives. Then clear-cut
directions are given showing how an alcoholic may recover.
These are followed by more than a score of personal
experiences.
2.
Further on, clear-cut directions are given showing how
we recovered. These are followed by forty-three personal
experiences.
page
29, paragraph 1
1.
Each individual, in the personal stories, describes
in his own language and from his own point of view the
way he found or rediscovered God.
2.
Each individual, in the personal stories, describes
in his own language and from his own point of view the
way he established his relationship with God.
page
29, paragraph 2, lines 1-3
1.
The delusion that we are like other people, or presently
may be, had to be smashed.
2.
The delusion that we are like other people, or presently
may be, has to be smashed.
page
30, paragraph 2, lines 3,4
1.
We know that no real alcoholic ever recovered this control.
2.
We know that no real alcoholic ever recovers control.
page
30, paragraph 3, lines 2,3
1.
Here are some of the methods we have tried: Drinking
beer only, limiting the number of drinks, never drinking
alone, never drinking in the morning, drinking only
at home, never having it in the house, never drinking
during business hours, drinking only at parties, switching
from scotch to brandy, drinking only natural wines,
agreeing to resign if ever drunk on the job, taking
a trip, not taking a trip, swearing off forever (with
and without a solemn oath), taking more physical exercise,
reading inspirational books, consulting psychologists,
going to health farms and sanitariums, accepting voluntary
commitment to asylums--we could increase the list ad
infinitum.
2.
Here are some of the methods we have tried: Drinking
beer only, limiting the number of drinks, never drinking
alone, never drinking in the morning, drinking only
at home, never having it in the house, never drinking
during business hours, drinking only at parties, switching
from scotch to brandy, drinking only natural wines,
agreeing to resign if ever drunk on the job, taking
a trip, not taking a trip, swearing off forever (with
and without a solemn oath), taking more physical exercise,
reading inspirational books,
going
to health farms and sanitariums, accepting voluntary
commitment to asylums--we could increase the list ad
infinitum.
page
31, paragraph 2
1.
It will be worth a bad case of jitters if you get thoroughly
sold on the idea that you are a candidate for Alcoholics
Anonymous.
2.
It may be worth a bad case of jitters if you get a full
knowledge of your condition.
page
31, paragraph 3, lines 6-8
1.
We have heard of a few instances where people, who showed
definite signs of alcoholism, were able to stop because
of an overpowering desire to do so.
2.
We have heard of a few instances where people, who showed
definite signs of alcoholism, were able to stop for
a long period because of an overpowering desire to do
so.
page
32, paragraph 1, lines 5-8
1.
Then, gathering all his forces, he attempted to stop,
and found he could not.
2.
Then, gathering all his forces, he attempted to stop
altogether and found he could not.
page
32, paragraph 2, lines 18-20
1.
Several of our crowd, men of thirty-five or less, had
been drinking only a few years, but they found themselves
as helpless as those who had been drinking twenty years.
2.
Several of our crowd, men of thirty or less, had been
drinking only a few years, but they found themselves
as helpless as those who had been drinking twenty years.
page
33, paragraph 2, lines 6-9
1.
Whether such a person can quit upon a non-spiritual
basis depends somewhat upon the strength of his character,
and how much he really wants to be done with it. But
even more will it depend upon the extent to which he
has already lost the power to choose whether he will
drink or not.
2.
Whether such a person can quit upon a nonspiritual basis
depends upon the extent to which he has already lost
the power to choose whether he will drink or not.
page
34, paragraph 2, lines 3-6
1.
Whatever the precise medical definition of the word
may be, we call this plain insanity.
2.
Whatever the precise definition of the word may be,
we call this plain insanity.
page
37, paragraph 1, lines 1,2
1.
To us it is not far-fetched, for this kind of thinking
has been characteristic of every single one of our group.
Some of us have sometimes reflected more than Jim upon
the consequences.
2.
To us it is not far-fetched, for this kind of thinking
has been characteristic of every single one of us. We
have sometimes reflected more than Jim upon the consequences.
page
37, paragraph 2, lines 1-4
1.
That may be true of certain nonalcoholic people who,
though drinking foolishly and heavily at the present
time, are able to stop or moderate, because their brains
and bodies have not been warped and degenerated as ours
were.
2.
That may be true of certain nonalcoholic people who,
though drinking foolishly and heavily at the present
time, are able to stop or moderate, because their brains
and bodies have not been damaged as ours were.
page
39, paragraph 1, lines 1-5
1.
We told him about alcoholism.
2.
We told him what we knew about alcoholism.
page
39, paragraph 2, lines 20,21
1.
They piled on me heaps of medical evidence to the effect
that an alcoholic mentality, such as I had exhibited
in Washington, was a hopeless condition.
2.
They piled on me heaps of evidence to the effect that
an alcoholic mentality, such as I had exhibited in Washington,
was a hopeless condition.
page
42, paragraph 1, lines 5-8
1.
To be doomed to an alcoholic hell or "saved"
-- not easy alternatives to face.
2.
To be doomed to an alcoholic death or to live on a spiritual
basis are not always easy alternatives to face.
page
44, paragraph 2, lines 4-6
1.
About half our fellowship were of exactly that type.
2.
About half our original fellowship were of exactly that
type.
page
44, paragraph 3, lines 1,2
1.
But cheer up, something like fifty of us thought we
were atheists or agnostics.
2.
But cheer up, something like half of us thought we were
atheists or agnostics.
page
44, paragraph 3, lines 7,8
1.
To us, the Realm of Spirit is broad, roomy, all inclusive;
never exclusive or forbidding.
2.
To us, the Realm of Spirit is broad, roomy, all inclusive;
never exclusive or forbidding to those who earnestly
seek.
page
46, paragraph 2, lines 10-12
1.
At the start, this is all you will need to commence
spiritual growth, to effect your first conscious relation
with God as you understand Him. Afterward, you will
find yourself accepting many things which now seem entirely
out of reach. That is growth, but
if
you are going to grow you have to begin somewhere. So
use your own conception, however limited it may be.
You need to ask yourself but one short question.
2.
At the start, this was all we needed to commence spiritual
growth, to effect our first conscious relation with
God as we understood Him. Afterward, we found ourselves
accepting many things which then seemed entirely out
of reach. That was growth,
but
if we wished to grow we had to begin somewhere. So we
used our own conception, however limited it was.
We needed to ask ourselves but one short question.
page
47, paragraph 1, lines 6-13 & paragraph 2, line
1
1.
In our personal stories you will find a wide variation
in the way each teller approaches and conceives of the
Power which is greater than himself. Whether you agree
with a particular approach or conception seems to make
little difference.
2.
In the stories which follow you will find a wide variation
in the way each teller approaches and conceives of the
Power which is greater than himself. Whether we agree
with a particular approach or conception seems to make
little difference.
page
50, paragraph 1, lines 1-5
1.
Here are one hundred men and women, worldly and sophisticated
indeed. They flatly declare to you that since they have
come to believe in a Power greater than themselves,
to take a certain attitude toward that Power, and to
do certain simple things, there has been a revolutionary
change in their way of living and thinking. They tell
you that in the face of collapse and despair, in the
face of the total failure of their human resources,
that a new power, peace, happiness, and sense of direction
flowed into them. This happened soon after they wholeheartedly
met a few simple requirements. Once confused and baffled
by the seeming futility of existence, they will show
you the underlying reasons why they were making heavy
going of life. Leaving aside the drink question, they
tell why living was so unsatisfactory. They show how
the change came over them. When one hundred people,
much like you are able to say that the consciousness
of the Presence of God is today the most important fact
of their lives, they present a powerful reason why you
too should have faith.
2.
Here are thousands of men and women, worldly indeed.
They flatly declare that since they have come to believe
in a Power greater than themselves, to take a certain
attitude toward that Power, and to do certain simple
things, there has been a revolutionary change in their
way of living and thinking. In the face of collapse
and despair, in the face of the total failure of their
human resources, they found that a new power, peace,
happiness, and sense of direction flowed into them.
This happened soon after they wholeheartedly met a few
simple requirements.
Once
confused and baffled by the seeming futility of existence,
they show the underlying reasons why they were making
heavy going of life. Leaving aside the drink question,
they tell why living was so unsatisfactory. They show
how the change came over them. When many hundreds of
people are able to say that the consciousness of the
Presence of God is today the most important fact of
their lives, they present a powerful reason why one
should have faith.
page
50, paragraph 4
1.
And we are sure you will find the Great Reality deep
down within you. In the last analysis it is only there
that He may be found. It was so with us; why not with
you?
We can only clear the ground a bit for you. If our testimony
helps sweep away prejudice, enables you to think honestly,
encourages
you to search diligently within yourself, then you will
have joined us on the Broad Highway.
2.
We found the Great Reality deep down within us.
We can only clear the ground a bit. If our testimony
helps sweep away prejudice, enables you to think honestly,
encourages you to search diligently within yourself,
then, if you wish, you can join us on the Broad Highway.
page
55, paragraph 3, lines 5-7 & paragraph 4, lines
1-5
1.
That very night three years ago, it disappeared.
2.
That very night, years ago, it disappeared.
page
56, paragraph 5, lines 3,4
1.
Draw near to Him and He will disclose Himself to you!
2.
When we drew near to Him He disclosed Himself to us!
page
57, paragraph 3
1.
Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly
followed our directions.
2.
Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly
followed our path.
page
58, paragraph 1, lines 1,2
1.
They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing
a way of life which demands rigorous honesty.
2.
They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing
a manner of living which demands rigorous honesty.
page
58, paragraph 1, lines 8-10
1.
If you have decided you want what we have and are willing
to go to any length to get it--then you are ready to
follow directions.
2.
If you have decided you want what we have and are willing
to go to any length to get it--then you are ready to
take certain steps.
page
58, paragraph 2, lines 3-5
1.
At some of these you may balk. You may think you can
find an easier, softer way. We doubt if you can.
2.
At some of these we balked. We thought we could find
an easier, softer way. But we could not.
page
58, paragraph 3, lines 1,2
1.
Remember that you are dealing with alcohol--cunning,
baffling, powerful! Without help it is too much for
you. But there is One who has all power--that One is
God. You must find Him now!
Half measures will avail you nothing. You stand at the
turning point. Throw yourself under His protection and
care with compete abandon.
Now we think you can take it: Here are the steps we
took, which are suggested as a program of recovery:
2.
Remember that we deal with alcohol--cunning, baffling,
powerful! Without help it is too much for us. But there
is One who has all power--that One is God. May you find
Him now!
Half measures availed us nothing. We stood at the turning
point. We asked His protection and care with compete
abandon.
Here are the steps we took, which are suggested as a
program of recovery:
page
58, paragraph 4 & page 59, paragraphs 1,2
1.
1. Admitted we were powerless over alcohol--that our
lives had become unmanageable.
2.
1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol--that
our lives had become unmanageable.
page
59, step 1
1.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over
to the care and direction of God as we understood Him.
2.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over
to the care of God as we understood Him.
page
59, step 3
1.
6. Were entirely willing that God remove all these defects
of character.
2.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these
defects of character.
page
59, step 6
1.
7. Humbly, on our knees, asked Him to remove our shortcomings--holding
nothing back.
2.
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
page
59, step 7
1.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became
willing to make complete amends to them all.
2.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became
willing to make amends to them all.
page
59, step 8
1.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve
our contact with God, praying only for knowledge of
His will for us and the power to carry that out.
2.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve
our conscious contact with God as we understood Him,
praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the
power to carry that out.
page
59, step 11
1.
12. Having had a spiritual experience as the result
of this course of action, we tried to carry this message
to others, especially alcoholics, and to practice these
principles in all our affairs.
2.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of
these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics,
and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
page
60, step 12
1.
You may exclaim, "What an order! I can't go through
with it." 2. Many of us exclaimed, "What an
order! I can't go through with it."
page
60, paragraph 1, lines 1,2
1.
Our description of the alcoholic, the chapter to the
agnostic, and our personal adventures before and after,
have been designed to sell you clear three pertinent
ideas:
(a) That you are alcoholic and could not manage your
own life.
(b) That probably no human power can relieve your alcoholism.
(c) That God can and will.
2.
Our description of the alcoholic, the chapter to the
agnostic, and our personal adventures before and after
make clear three pertinent ideas:
(a) That we were alcoholic and could not manage our
own lives.
(b) That probably no human power could have relieved
our alcoholism.
(c) That God could and would if He were sought.
page
60, paragraph 2
1.
If you a are not convinced on these vital issues, you
ought to re-read the book to this point or else throw
it away!
2.
omitted
page
60, paragraph 3, right after (c) above
1.
If you are convinced, you are now at Step Three, which
is that you make a decision to turn your will and our
life over to God as you understand Him.
2.
Being convinced, we were at Step Three, which is that
we decided to turn our will and our life over to God
as we understood Him.
page
60, paragraph, 3, lines 1-3
1.
The first requirement is that you see that any life
run on self-will can hardly be a success.
2.
The first requirement is that we be convinced that any
life run on self-will can hardly be a success.
page
60, paragraph 4, lines 1,2
1.
On that basis we are almost always in collision with
something or somebody, even though our motives may be
good.
2.
On that basis we are almost always in collision with
something or somebody, even though our motives are good.
page
60, paragraph 4, lines 2-4
1.
He is like the retired business man who lolls in the
Florida sunshine in the winter complaining of the sad
state of the nation; the preacher who sighs over the
sins of the twentieth century; politicians and reformers
who are sure all would be Utopia if the rest of the
world would only behave; the outlaw safe cracker who
thinks society has wronged him; and the alcoholic who
has lost all and is locked up. Whatever our protestations,
are not these people mostly concerned with themselves,
their resentments, or their self-pity?
2.
He is like the retired business man who lolls in the
Florida sunshine in the winter complaining of the sad
state of the nation; the minister who sighs over the
sins of the twentieth century; politicians and reformers
who are sure all would be Utopia if the rest of the
world would only behave; the outlaw safe cracker who
thinks society has wronged him; and the alcoholic who
has lost all and is locked up. Whatever our protestations,
are not most of us concerned with ourselves, our resentments,
or our self-pity?
page
61, paragraph 2, lines 2-11
1.
So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own
making. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic
is almost the most extreme example that could be found
of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn't think
so. Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this
selfishness. We must or it kills us! God makes that
possible. And there is no way of entirely getting rid
of self without Him. You may have moral and philosophical
convictions galore, but you can't live up to them even
though you would liked to. Neither can you reduce your
self-centeredness much by wishing or trying on your
own power. You must have God's help.
This is the how and why of it. First of all, quit playing
God yourself. It doesn't work. Next, decide that hereafter
in this drama of life, God is going to be your Director.
He is the Principal; you are to be His agent. He is
the Father, and you are His child. Get that simple relationship
straight. Most good ideas are simple, and this concept
is to be the keystone of the new and triumphant arch
through which you will pass to freedom.
When you sincerely take such a position, all sorts of
remarkable things follow. You have a new Employer. Being
all powerful, He must necessarily provide what you need,
if you keep close to Him and perform His work well.
Established on such a footing you become less and less
interested in yourself, your little plans and designs.
More and more you become interested in seeing what you
can contribute to life. As you feel new power flow in,
as you enjoy peace of mind, as you discover you can
face life successfully, as you become conscious of His
presence, you begin to
lose
your fear of today, tomorrow or the hereafter. You will
have been reborn.
Get down upon your knees and say to your Maker, as you
understand Him: "God, I offer myself to Thee--to
build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve
me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy
will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them
may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power,
Thy Love, and Thy Way of life. May I do Thy will always!"
Think
well before taking this step. Be sure you are ready;
that you can at last abandon yourself utterly to Him.
It is very desirable that you make your decision with
an understanding person. It may be your wife, your best
friend, your spiritual adviser, but remember it is better
to meet God alone than with one who might misunderstand.
You must decide this for yourself. The wording of your
decision is, of course, quite optional so long as you
express the idea, voicing it without reservation. This
decision is only a beginning, though if honestly and
humbly made, an effect, sometimes a very great one,
will be felt at once.
Next we launched out on a course of vigorous action,
the first step of which is a personal housecleaning,
which you have never in all probability attempted. Though
your decision is a vital and crucial step, it can have
little permanent effect unless at once followed by a
strenuous effort to face, and to be rid of, the things
in yourself which had been blocking you. Your liquor
is but a symptom. Let's now get down to basic causes
and conditions.
Therefore, you start upon a personal inventory. This
is step four. This is Step Four.
2.
So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own
making. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic
is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though
he usually doesn't think so. Above everything, we alcoholics
must be rid of this selfishness. We must or it kills
us! God makes that possible. And there often seems no
way of entirely getting rid of self without His aid.
Many of us had moral and philosophical convictions galore,
but we could not live up to them even though we would
have liked to. Neither could we reduce our self-centeredness
much by wishing or trying on our own power. We had to
have God's help.
This the how and why of it. First of all, we had to
quit playing God. It didn't work. Next, we decided that
hereafter in this drama of life, God was going to be
our Director. He is the Principal; we are His agents.
He is the Father, and we are His children. Most good
ideas are simple, and this concept was the keystone
of the new and triumphant arch through which we passed
to freedom.
When we sincerely took such a position, all sorts of
remarkable things followed. We had a new Employer. Being
all powerful, He provided what we needed, if we kept
close to Him and performed His work well. Established
on such a footing we became less and less interested
in ourselves, our little plans and designs. More and
more we became interested in seeing what we could contribute
to life. As we felt new power flow in, as we enjoyed
peace of mind, as we discovered we could face life successfully,
as we became conscious of His presence, we began to
lose our fear of today, tomorrow or the hereafter. We
were reborn.
We were now at Step Three. Many of us said to our Maker,
as we understood Him: "God, I offer myself to Thee--to
build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve
me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy
will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them
may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power,
Thy Love, and Thy Way of life. May I do Thy will always!"
We thought well before taking this step making sure
we were ready; that we could at last abandon ourselves
utterly to Him.
We found it very desirable to take this spiritual step
with an understanding person, such as our wife, best
friend, or spiritual adviser. But it is better to meet
God alone than with one who might misunderstand. The
wording was, of course, quite optional so long as we
expressed the idea, voicing it without reservation.
This was only a beginning, though if honestly and humbly
made, an effect, sometimes a very great one, was felt
at once.
Next we launched out on a course of vigorous action,
the first step of which is a personal housecleaning,
which many of us had never attempted. Though our decision
was a vital and crucial step, it could have little permanent
effect unless at once followed by a strenuous effort
to face, and to be rid of, the things in ourselves which
had been blocking us. Our liquor was but a symptom.
So we had to get down to causes and conditions.
Therefore, we started upon a personal inventory. This
was Step Four.
page
62, paragraphs 2,3, page 63 & page 64, paragraph
1, lines 1,2
1.
Its object is to disclose damaged or unsalable goods,
to get rid of them properly and without regret.
2.
One object is to disclose damaged or unsalable goods,
to get rid of them properly and without regret.
page
64, paragraph 1, lines 6,7
1.
List people, institutions or principles with whom you
are angry. Ask yourself why you are angry. In most cases
it will be found that your self-esteem, your pocketbook,
your ambitions, your personal relationships (including
sex) are hurt or threatened. So you are sore. You are
"burned up."
On your grudge list set opposite each name your injuries.
Is it your self-esteem, your security, your ambitions,
your personal, or your sex relations, which had been
interfered with?
Be as definite as this example:
2.
We listed people, institutions or principles with whom
we were angry. We asked ourselves why we were angry.
In most cases it was found that our self-esteem, our
pocketbooks, our ambitions, our
personal
relationships (including sex) were hurt or threatened.
So we were sore. We were "burned up."
On our grudge list we set opposite each name our injuries.
Was it our self-esteem , our security, our ambitions,
our personal, or sex relations, which had been interfered
with?
We were usually as definite as this example:
page
64, paragraph 3, lines 7-13 & page 65, paragraphs
1,2, line 1
1.
Go back through the list back through your lifetime.
Nothing counted but thoroughness and honesty. When you
are finished we consider it carefully. The first thing
apparent to you is that this world and its people were
often quite wrong. To conclude that others are wrong
is as far as most of us ever got. The usual outcome
is that people continued to wrong you and you stay sore.
Sometimes it is remorse and then you are sore at yourself.
But the more you fight and try to have your way, the
worse matters get. Isn't that so? As in war, victors
only seem to win. Your moments of triumph are short-lived.
2.
We went back through our lives. Nothing counted but
thoroughness and honesty. When we were finished we considered
it carefully. The first thing apparent was that this
world and its people were often quite wrong. To conclude
that others were wrong was as far as most of us ever
got. The usual outcome was that people continued to
wrong us and we stayed sore. Sometimes it was remorse
and then we were sore at ourselves. But the more we
fought and tried to have our own way, the worse matters
got. As in war, the victor only seemed to win. Our moments
of triumph were short-lived.
page
65, paragraph 3
1.
If we were to live, we must be free of anger. The grouch
and the brainstorm are not for us.
2.
If we were to live, we had to be free of anger. The
grouch and the brainstorm were not for us.
page
66, paragraph 2, lines 1,2
1.
Turn back to your list, for it holds the key to your
future. You must be prepared to look at it from an entirely
different angle. You will begin to see that the world
and its people really dominate you. In your present
state, the wrong-doing of others, fancied or real, has
power to actually kill you. How shall you escape? You
see that these resentments must be mastered, but how?
You cannot wish them away any more than alcohol.
This was our course: realize at once that the people
who wrong you are spiritually sick. Though you don't
like their symptoms and the way these disturb you, they,
like yourself, are sick too. Ask God to help you show
them the same tolerance, pity, and patience that you
would cheerfully grant a sick friend who has cancer.
When a person, next offends, say to yourself "This
is a
sick
man. How can I be helpful to him? God save me from being
angry. Thy will be done."
Never argue. Never retaliate. You wouldn't treat sick
people that way. If you do, you destroy your chance
of being helpful.
You
cannot be helpful to all people, but at least God will
show you how to take a kindly and tolerant view of each
and every one.
Take up your list again. Putting out of your mind the
wrongs others have done, we resolutely look for your
own mistakes. Where have you been selfish, dishonest,
self-seeking, and frightened? Though a situation had
not been entirely your fault, disregard the other person
involved entirely. See where you have been to blame?
This is your inventory, not the other man's. When you
see your fault write it down on the list. See if before
you in black and white. Admit your wrongs honestly and
be willing to set these matters straight.
You will notice that the word "fear" is bracketed
alongside the difficulties with Mr. Brown, Mrs. Jones,
your employer, and your wife. This short word somehow
touches about every aspect of our lives. It is an evil
and corroding thread; the fabric of our existence is
shot through with it. It sets in motion trains of circumstances
which bring us misfortune we feel we don't deserve.
But did not we, ourselves, set the ball rolling? Sometimes
we think fear ought to be classed with stealing as a
sin. It seems to cause more trouble.
Review your fears thoroughly. Put them on paper, even
though you have no resentment in connection with them.
Ask yourself why you have them. Isn't it because self-reliance
failed you? Self-reliance was good as far as it went,
but it didn't go far enough. Some of us once had great
self-confidence, but it didn't fully solve the fear
problem, or any other. When it made us cocky, it was
worse.
Perhaps there is a better way -- we think so. For you
are now on a different basis; the basis of trusting
and relying upon God. You are to trust infinite God
rather than your finite self. You are in the world to
play the role He assigns. Just to the extent that you
do as you think He would have you, and humbly rely on
Him, does He enable you to match calamity with serenity.
You must never apologize to anyone for depending upon
your Creator. You can laugh at those who think spirituality
the way of weakness. Paradoxically, it is the way of
strength. The verdict of the ages is that faith means
courage. All men of faith have courage. They trust their
God. Never apologize for God. Instead we let Him demonstrate,
through you, what He can do. Ask Him to remove your
fear and direct your attention to what He would have
you be. At once, you will commence to outgrow fear.
Now about sex. You can probably stand an overhauling
there. We needed it. But above all, let's be sensible
on this question.
2.
We turned back to the list, for it held the key to the
future. We were prepared to look at it from an entirely
different angle. We began to see that the world and
its people really dominated us. In that state, the wrong-doing
of others, fancied or real, had power to actually kill.
How could we escape? We saw that these resentments must
be mastered, but how? We could not wish them away any
more than alcohol.
This was our course: We realized that the people who
wronged us were perhaps spiritually sick. Though we
did not like their symptoms and the way these disturbed
us, they, like ourselves, were sick too. We asked God
to help us show them the same tolerance, pity, and patience
that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend. When a
person offended we said to ourselves, "This is
a sick man.
How
can I be helpful to him? God save me from being angry.
Thy will be done."
We avoid retaliation or argument. We wouldn't treat
sick people that way. If we do we destroy our chance
of being helpful. We cannot be helpful to all people,
but at least God will show us how to take a kindly and
tolerant view of each and every one.
Referring to our list again. Putting out of our minds
the wrongs others had done, we resolutely looked for
our own mistakes. Where had we been selfish, dishonest,
self-seeking, and frightened? Though a situation had
not been entirely our fault, we tried to disregard the
other person involved entirely. Where were we to blame?
The inventory was ours, not the other man's. When we
saw our faults we listed them. We placed them before
us in black and white. We admitted our wrongs honestly
and were willing to set these matters straight.
Notice that the word "fear" is bracketed alongside
the difficulties with Mr. Brown, Mrs. Jones, the employer,
and the wife. This short word somehow touches about
every aspect of our lives. It was an evil and corroding
thread; the fabric of our existence was shot through
with it. It set in motion trains of circumstances which
brought us misfortune we felt we didn't deserve. But
did not we, ourselves, set the ball rolling? Sometimes
we think fear ought to be classed with stealing. It
seems to cause more trouble.
We reviewed our fears thoroughly. We put them on paper,
even though we had no resentment in connection with
them. We asked ourselves why we had them. Wasn't it
because self-reliance failed us? Self-reliance was good
as far as it went, but it didn't go far enough. Some
of us once had great self-confidence, but it didn't
fully solve the fear problem, or any other. When it
made us cocky, it was worse.
Perhaps there is a better way--we think so. For we are
now on a different basis; the basis of trusting and
relying upon God. We trust infinite God rather than
our finite selves. We are in the world to play the role
He assigns. Just to the extent that we do as we think
He would have us, and humbly rely on Him, does He enable
us to match calamity with serenity.
We never apologize to anyone for depending upon our
Creator. We can laugh at those who think spirituality
the way of weakness.
Paradoxically,
it is the way of strength. The verdict of the ages is
that faith means courage. All men of faith have courage.
They trust their God. We never apologize for God. Instead
we let Him demonstrate, through us, what He can do.
We ask Him to remove our
fear
and direct our attention to what He would have us be.
At once, we commence to outgrow fear.
Now about sex. Many of us needed an overhauling there.
But above all, we tried to be sensible on this question.
page
66, paragraphs 3,4, pages 67,68, paragraphs 1-4, lines
1-3
1.
Review your own conduct over the years past. Where have
you been selfish, dishonest, or inconsiderate? Whom
did you hurt? Did you unjustifiably arouse jealousy,
suspicion or bitterness? Where were you at fault, what
should you have done instead? Get this all down on paper
and look at it.
In this way you can shape a sane and sound ideal for
your future sex life. Subject each relation to this
test--is it selfish or not? Ask God to mold your ideals
and help you to live up to them. Remember always that
your sex powers are God-given and therefore good, neither
to be used lightly or selfishly nor to be despised and
loathed.
Whatever your ideal may be, you must be willing to grow
toward it. You must be willing to make amends where
you have done harm, provided that you will not bring
about still more harm in so doing. In other words, we
treat sex as we would any other problem. In meditation,
ask God what you should do about each specific matter.
The right answer will come, if you want it.
God alone can judge your sex situation. Counsel with
persons is often desirable, but let God be the final
judge. Remember that some are as fanatical about sex
as others are loose. Avoid hysterical thinking or advice.
Suppose you fall short of the chosen ideal and stumble?
Does this mean you are going to get drunk? Some people
tell you so.
If
they do, it will be only a half-truth. It depends on
you and your motive. If you are sorry for what you have
done, and have the honest desire to let God take you
to better things, you will be forgiven and will have
learned your lesson. If you are not sorry, and your
conduct continues to harm others, you are quite sure
to drink. We are not theorizing. These are facts out
of our experience.
To sum up about sex: earnestly pray for the right ideal,
for guidance in each questionable situation, for sanity,
and for the strength to do the right thing. If sex is
very troublesome, throw yourself the harder into helping
others. Think of their needs and work for them. This
will take you out of yourself. It will quiet the imperious
urge, when to yield would mean heartache.
If you have been thorough about your personal inventory,
you have written down a lot. You have listed and analyzed
your resentments. You have begun to comprehend their
futility and their fatality. You have commenced to see
their terrible destructiveness. You have begun to learn
tolerance, patience and good will toward all men, even
your enemies, for you know them to be sick people. You
have listed the people you have hurt by your conduct,
and you are willing to straighten out the past if you
can.
In this book you read again and again that God did for
us what we could not do for ourselves. We hope you are
convinced now that He can remove whatever self-will
that has blocked you off from Him. You have made your
decision. You have made an inventory of the grosser
handicaps you have. You have made a good beginning,
for you have swallowed and digested some big chunks
of truth about yourself. Are you willing to go on?
2.
We reviewed our own conduct over the years past. Where
had we been selfish, dishonest, or inconsiderate? Whom
had we hurt? Did we unjustifiably arouse jealousy, suspicion
or bitterness? Where were we at fault, what should we
have done instead? We got this all down on paper and
looked at it.
In this way we tried to shape a sane and sound ideal
for our future sex life. We subjected each relation
to this test--was it selfish or not? We asked God to
mold our ideals and help us to live up to them. We remembered
always that our sex powers were God-given and therefore
good, neither to be used lightly or selfishly nor to
be despised and loathed.
Whatever our ideal turns out to be, we must be willing
to grow toward it. We must be willing to make amends
where we have done harm, provided that we do not bring
about still more harm in so doing. In other words, we
treat sex as we would any other problem.
In
meditation, we ask God what we should do about each
specific matter. The right answer will come, if we want
it.
God alone can judge our sex situation. Counsel with
persons is often desirable, but we let God be the final
judge. We realize that some are as fanatical about sex
as others are loose. We avoid hysterical thinking or
advice.
Suppose we fall short of the chosen ideal and stumble?
Does this mean we are going to get drunk? Some people
tell us so. But this is only a half-truth. It depends
on us and on your motives. If we are sorry for what
we have done, and have the honest desire to let God
take us to better things, we believe we will be forgiven
and will have learned our lesson. If we are not sorry,
and our
conduct
continues to harm others, we are quite sure to drink.
We are not theorizing. These are facts out of our experience.
To sum up about sex: We earnestly pray for the right
ideal, for guidance in each questionable situation,
for sanity, and for the strength to do the right thing.
If sex is very troublesome, we throw ourselves the harder
into helping others. We think of their needs and work
for them. This takes us out of ourselves. It quiets
the imperious urge, when to yield would mean heartache.
If we have been thorough about our personal inventory,
we have written down a lot. We have listed and analyzed
our resentments. We have begun to comprehend their futility
and their fatality. We have commenced to see their terrible
destructiveness. We have begun to learn tolerance, patience
and good will toward all men, even our enemies, for
we look on them as sick people. We have listed the people
we have hurt by our conduct, and are willing to straighten
out the past if we can.
In this book you read again and again that faith did
for us what we could not do for ourselves. We hope you
are convinced now that God can remove whatever self-will
has blocked you off from Him. If you have already made
a decision, and an inventory of your grosser handicaps,
you have made a good beginning. That being so you have
swallowed and digested some big chunks of truth about
yourself.
page
69, paragraphs 1-4 & page 70
1.
Having made your personal inventory, what shall you
do about it? You have been trying to get a new attitude,
a new relationship with your Creator, and to discover
the obstacles in your path. You have admitted certain
defects; you have ascertained in a rough way what the
trouble is; you have put your finger on the weak items
in your personal inventory. Now these are about to be
case out. This requires action on your part, which,
when completed, will mean that you have admitted to
God, to yourself, and to another human being, the exact
nature of your defects. This brings us the fifth step
in the Program of Recovery mentioned in the preceding
chapter.
This is perhaps difficult--especially discussing your
defects with another person. You think you have done
well enough in admitting these things to yourself, perhaps.
We doubt that. In actual practice, we usually find a
solitary self-appraisal insufficient. We strenuously
urge you to go much further. But you will be more reconciled
to discussing yourself with another person if we offer
good reasons why you should do so. The best reason first:
if you skip this vital step, you may not overcome drinking.
2.
Having made our personal inventory, what shall we do
about it? We have been trying to get a new attitude,
a new relationship with our Creator, and to discover
the obstacles in our path. We have admitted certain
defects; we have ascertained in a rough way what the
trouble is; we have put our finger on the weak items
in our personal inventory. Now these are about to be
cast out. This requires action on our part, which, when
completed, will mean that we have admitted to God, to
ourselves, and to another human being,
the
exact nature of our defects. This brings us the Fifth
Step in the program of recovery mentioned in the preceding
chapter.
This is perhaps difficult--especially discussing our
defects with another person. We think we have done well
enough in admitting these things to ourselves. There
is doubt about that. In actual practice, we usually
find a solitary self-appraisal insufficient. Many of
us the thought it necessary to go much further. We will
be more reconciled to discussing ourselves with another
person when we see good reasons why we should do so.
The best reason first: If we skip this vital step, we
may not overcome drinking.
page
72, paragraphs 1,2, lines 1-10
1.
The answer is that they never completed their housecleaning.
2.
We think the reason is that they never completed their
housecleaning.
page
72, paragraph 2, lines 16,17
1.
Psychologists agree with us. Members of our group have
spent thousands of dollars for examinations by psychologists
and psychiatrists. We know but few instances where we
have given these doctors a fair break. We have seldom
told them the whole truth. Unwilling to be honest with
these sympathetic men, we were honest with no one else.
Small wonder the medical profession have a low opinion
of alcoholics and their chance for recovery!
You must be entirely honest with somebody if you expect
to live long or happily in this world. Rightly and naturally,
you are going to think well before you choose the person
or persons with whom to take this intimate and confidential
step. If you belong to a religious denomination which
requires confession, you must, and of course, will want
to go to the properly appointed authority whose duty
it is to receive it. Though you have no religious connection,
you may still do well to talk with someone ordained
by an established religion. You will often find such
a person quick to see and understand your problem. Of
course, we sometimes encounter ministers who do not
understand alcoholics.
If you cannot or would rather not do this, we search
your acquaintance for a close-mouthed, understanding
friend. Perhaps your doctor or your psychologist will
be the person. It may be one of your own family, but
you should not disclose anything to your wive or your
parents which will hurt them and make them unhappy.
You have no right to save your own skin at another person's
expense. Such parts of your story you should tell to
someone who will understand, yet be unaffected. The
rule is you must be hard on yourself, but always considerate
of others.
Notwithstanding the great necessity for discussing yourself
with someone, it may be that you are so situated that
there is no suitable person available. If that is so,
you may postpone this step, only, however, if you hold
yourself in complete readiness to go through with it
at the first opportunity. We say this because we are
very anxious that you talk to the right person. It is
important that he be able to keep a confidence; that
he fully understand and approve what you are driving
at; that he fully understand and approve what you are
driving at; that he will not try to change your plan.
But don't use this as a mere excuse to postpone.
When you decide who is to hear your story, waste no
time. Have a written inventory. Be prepared for a long
talk. Explain to your partner what you are about to
do and why you have to do it. He should realize that
you are engaged upon a life-and-death errand. Most people
approached in this way will be glad to help; they will
be honored by your confidence.
Pocket your pride and go to it! Illumine every twist
of character, every dark cranny of the past. Once you
have taken this step, withholding nothing, you are delighted.
You can look the world in the eye. You can be alone
at perfect peace and ease. Your fears fall from you.
You will begin to feel the nearness of your Creator.
You may have had certain spiritual beliefs, but now
you will begin to have a spiritual experience. The feeling
that the drink problem has disappeared will often come
strongly. You will know you are on the Broad Highway,
walking hand in hand with the Spirit of the Universe.
Return home and find a place where you can be quiet
for an hour. Carefully review what you have done. Thank
God from the bottom of your heart that you know Him
better. Take this book down from your shelf and turn
to the page which contains the twelve steps. Carefully
read the first five proposals and ask if you have omitted
anything, for you are building an arch through which
you will walk a free man at last. Is your part of the
work solid so far? Are the stones properly in place?
Have you skimped on the cement you have put into the
foundation? Have you tried to make mortar without sand?
If you can answer to your satisfaction, look at step
six. We have emphasized willingness as being indispensable.
Are you now perfectly willing to let God remove from
you all the things which you have admitted are objectionable?
Can He now take them all--every one? If you yet cling
to something you will not let go, ask God to help you
be willing.
When you are ready, say something like this: "My
Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of
me, good and bad. I pray that you now remove from me
every single defect of character which stands in the
way of my usefulness to you and my fellows. Grant me
strength, as I go out from here, to do your bidding.
Amen." You have then completed Step Seven.
Now you need more action, without which you will find
that "Faith without works is dead." Look at
steps eight and nine. You have a list of all persons
you have harmed and to whom you are willing to make
complete amends. You made it when you took inventory.
You subjected yourself to a drastic self-appraisal.
Now you are to go out to your fellows and repair the
damage you did in the past. You are to sweep away the
debris which has accumulated out of your effort to live
on self-will and run the show yourself. If you haven't
the will to do this, ask until it
comes.
Remember you agreed at the beginning you would go to
any lengths for victory over alcohol.
You probably still have some misgivings. We can help
you dispel them. As you look over the list of business
acquaintances and friends you have hurt, you will feel
different about going to some of them on a spiritual
basis. Let us reassure you. To some people you need
not, and probably should not emphasize the spiritual
feature on your first approach. You might prejudice
them. At the moment you are trying to put your own life
in order. But this is not an end in itself. Your real
purpose is to fit yourself to be of maximum service
to God and the people about you. It is seldom wise to
approach an individual, who still smarts from your injustice
to him, and announce that you have given your life to
God. In the prize ring, this would be called leading
with the chin. Why lay yourself open to be being branded
a fanatic or a religious bore? You may kill a future
opportunity to carry a beneficial message. But he is
sure to be impressed with a sincere desire to set right
the wrong. He is going to be more interested your demonstration
of good will than in your talk of spiritual discoveries.
Don't use this advice as an excuse for shying away from
the subject of God. When it will serve any good purpose,
you should be willing to announce your convictions with
tact and common sense. The question of how to approach
the man you have hated will arise. It may be he has
done you more harm than you have done him and, though
you may have acquired a better attitude toward him,
you are still not too keen about admitting your faults.
Nevertheless, with a person you dislike, we advise you
to take the bit in your teeth. He is an ideal subject
upon which to practice your new principles. Remember
that he, like yourself, is sick spiritually. Go to him
in a helpful and forgiving spirit. Be sure to confess
your former ill feeling and express your regret of it.
Under no condition should you criticize such a person
or be drawn into an argument with him. Simply tell him
that you realize you will never get over drinking until
you have done your utmost to straighten out the past.
You are there to sweep off your side of the street,
realizing that nothing worth while can be accomplished
until you do so. Never try to tell him what he should
do. Don't discuss his faults. Stick to your own. If
our manner is calm, frank, and open, you will be gratified
with the result.
In nine cases out of ten the unexpected happens. Sometimes
the man you are calling upon admits his own fault, so
feuds of years' standing melt away in an hour. Rarely
will you fail to make satisfactory progress. Your former
enemies will sometimes praise what you are doing and
wish you well. Occasionally, they will cancel a debt,
or otherwise offer assistance. It should not matter,
however, if someone does throw you out of his office.
You have made your demonstration, done your part. It's
water over the dam.
Most alcoholics owe money. Do not dodge your creditors.
Tell them what you are trying to do. Make no bones about
your drinking; they usually know it anyway, whether
you think so or not. Never be afraid of disclosing your
alcoholism on the theory it may cause you financial
harm. Approached in this way, the most ruthless creditor
will sometimes surprise you. Arrange the best deal you
can and let these people know you are sorry your drinking
has made you slow to pay. You must lose your fear of
creditors no matter how far you have to go, for you
are liable to drink if you are afraid to face them.
Perhaps you have committed a criminal offense which
might land you in jail if known to the authorities.
You may be short in your accounts and can't make good.
You have already admitted this in confidence to another
person, but you are sure you would be imprisoned or
lose your job if it were known. Maybe it's only a petty
offense such as padding the expense account. Most of
us have done that sort of thing. Maybe you have divorced
your wife. You have remarried but haven't kept up the
alimony to number one. She is indignant about it, and
has a warrant our for your arrest. That's a common form
of trouble too.
Although these reparations take innumerable forms, there
are some general principles which we find guiding. Remind
yourself that you have decided to go to any lengths
to find a spiritual experience. Ask that you be given
strength and direction to do the right thing, no matter
what the personal consequences to you. You may lose
your position or reputation, or face jail, but you are
willing. You have to be. You must not shrink at anything.
Usually, however, other people are involved. Therefore,
you are not to be the hasty and foolish martyr who would
needlessly sacrifice others to save himself from the
alcoholic pit.
2.
Psychologists are inclined to agree with us. We have
spent thousands of dollars for examinations. We know
but few instances where we have given these doctors
a fair break. We have seldom told them the whole truth
nor have we followed there advice. Unwilling to be honest
with these sympathetic men, we were honest with no one
else. Small wonder many in the medical profession have
a low opinion of alcoholics and their chance for recovery!
We must be entirely honest with somebody if we expect
to live long or happily in this world. Rightly and naturally,
we think well before we choose the person with whom
to take this intimate and confidential step. Those of
us belonging to a religious denomination which requires
confession must, and of course, will want to go to the
properly appointed authority whose duty it is to receive
it. Though we have no religious connection, we may still
do well to talk with someone ordained by an established
religion. We often find such a person quick to see and
understand your problem. Of course, we sometimes encounter
people who do not understand alcoholics.
If we cannot or would rather not do this, we search
our acquaintance for a close-mouthed, understanding
friend. Perhaps our doctor or psychologist will be the
person. It may be one of our own family, but we cannot
disclose anything to our wives or our parents which
will hurt them and make them unhappy. We have no right
to save our own skin at another person's expense. Such
parts of our story we tell to someone who will understand,
yet be unaffected. The rule is we must be hard on ourself,
but always considerate of others.
Notwithstanding the great necessity for discussing ourselves
with someone, it may be one is so situated that there
is no suitable person available. If that is so, this
step may be postponed, only, however, if we hold ourselves
in complete readiness to go through with it at the first
opportunity. We say this because we are very anxious
that we talk to the right person. It is important that
he be able to keep a confidence; that he fully understand
and approve what we are driving at; that he will not
try to change our plan. But we must not use this as
a mere excuse to postpone.
When we decide who is to hear our story, we waste no
time. We have a written inventory and we are prepared
for a long talk. We explain to our partner what we are
about to do and why we have to do it. He should realize
that we are engaged upon a life-and-death errand. Most
people approached in this way will be glad to help;
they will be honored by our confidence.
We pocket our pride and go to it, illuminating every
twist of character, every dark cranny of the past. Once
we have taken this step, withholding nothing, we are
delighted. We can look the world in the eye. We can
be alone at perfect peace and ease. Our fears fall from
us. We begin to feel the nearness of our Creator. We
may have had certain spiritual beliefs, but now we begin
to have a spiritual experience. The feeling that the
drink problem has
disappeared
will often come strongly. We feel we are on the Broad
Highway, walking hand in hand with the Spirit of the
Universe.
Returning home we find a place where we can be quiet
for an hour, carefully reviewing what we have done.
We thank God from the bottom of our heart that we know
Him better. Taking this book down from our shelf we
turn to the page which contains the twelve steps. Carefully
reading the first five proposals we ask if we have omitted
anything, for we are building an arch through which
we shall walk a free man at last. Is our work solid
so far? Are the stones properly in place? Have we skimped
on the cement put into the foundation? Have we tried
to make mortar without sand?
If we can answer to our satisfaction, we then look at
Step Six. We have emphasized willingness as being indispensable.
Are
we now ready to let God remove from us all the things
which we have admitted are objectionable? Can He now
take them all--every one? If we still cling to something
we will not let go, we ask God to help us be willing.
When ready, we say something like this: "My Creator,
I am now willing that you should have all of me, good
and bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single
defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness
to you and my fellows. Grant me strength, as I go out
from here, to do your bidding. Amen." We have then
completed Step Seven.
Now we need more action, without which we find that
"Faith without works is dead." Let's look
at Steps Eight and Nine. We have a list of all persons
we have harmed and to whom we are willing to make amends.
We made it when we took inventory. We subjected ourselves
to a drastic self-appraisal. Now we go out to our fellows
and repair the damage done in the past. We attempt to
sweep away the debris which has accumulated out of our
effort to live on self-will and run the show ourselves.
If we haven't the will to do this, ask until it comes.
Remember it was agreed at the beginning we would go
to any lengths for victory over alcohol.
page
76, paragraph 3
Probably there are still some misgivings. As we look
over the list of business acquaintances and friends
we have hurt, we may feel different about going to some
of them on a spiritual basis. Let us be reassured. To
some people we need not, and probably should not emphasize
the spiritual feature on our first approach.
We
might prejudice them. At the moment we are trying to
put our lives in order. But this is not an end in itself.
Our real purpose is to fit ourselves to be of maximum
service to God and the people about us. It is seldom
wise to approach an individual, who still smarts from
our injustice to him, and announce that we have gone
religious. In the prize ring, this would be called leading
with the chin. Why lay ourselves open to be being branded
fanatics or religious bores? We may kill a future opportunity
to carry a beneficial message. But our man is sure to
be impressed with a sincere desire to set right the
wrong. He is going to be more
interested
in a demonstration of good will than in our talk of
spiritual discoveries.
We don't use this as an excuse for shying away from
the subject of God. When it will serve any good purpose,
we are willing to announce our convictions with tact
and common sense. The question of how to approach the
man we hated will arise. It may be he has done us more
harm than we have done him and, though we may have acquired
a better attitude toward him, we are still not too keen
about admitting our faults. Nevertheless, with a person
we dislike, we take the bit in our teeth. It is harder
to go to an enemy than to a friend, but we find it much
more beneficial to us. We go to him in a helpful and
forgiving spirit, confessing our former ill feeling
and expressing our regret.
Under no condition do we criticize such a person or
argue. Simply we tell him that we will never get over
drinking until we have done our utmost to straighten
out the past. We are there to sweep off our side of
the street, realizing that nothing worth while can be
accomplished until we do so, never trying to tell him
what he should do. His faults are not discussed. We
stick to our own. If our manner is calm, frank, and
open, we will be gratified with the result.
In nine cases out of ten the unexpected happens. Sometimes
the man we are calling upon admits his own fault, so
feuds of years' standing melt away in an hour. Rarely
do we fail to make satisfactory progress. Our former
enemies sometimes praise what we are doing and wish
us well. Occasionally, they will offer assistance. It
should not matter, however, if someone does throw us
out of his office. We have made our demonstration, done
our part. It's water over the dam.
Most alcoholics owe money. We do not dodge our creditors.
Telling them what we are trying to do, we make no bones
about our drinking; they usually know it anyway, whether
we think so or not. Nor are we afraid of disclosing
our alcoholism on the theory it may cause financial
harm. Approached in this way, the most ruthless creditor
will sometimes surprise us. Arranging the best deal
we can we let these people know we are sorry. Our drinking
has made us slow to pay. We must lose our fear of creditors
no matter how far we have to go, for we are liable to
drink if we are afraid to face them.
Perhaps we have committed a criminal offense which might
land us in jail if known to the authorities. We may
be short in our accounts and unable to make good. We
have already admitted this in confidence to another
person, but we are sure we would be imprisoned or lose
our job if it were known. Maybe it's only a petty offense
such as padding your expense account. Most of us have
done that sort of thing. Maybe we are divorced, and
have remarried but haven't kept up the alimony to number
one. She is indignant about it, and has a warrant our
for our arrest. That's a common form of trouble too.
Although these reparations take innumerable forms, there
are some general principles which we find guiding. Reminding
ourselves that we have decided to go to any lengths
to find a spiritual experience, we ask that we be given
strength and direction to do the right thing, no matter
what the personal consequences may be. We may lose our
position or reputation, or
face
jail, but we are willing. We have to be. We must not
shrink at anything.
Usually, however, other people are involved. Therefore,
we are not to be the hasty and foolish martyr who would
needlessly sacrifice others to save himself from the
alcoholic pit.
page
73, paragraphs 3,4 & pages 74-79, paragraphs 1,2,
lines 1-4
1.
If taking drastic action is going to implicate other
people, they should be consulted. Use every means to
avoid wide-spread damage. You cannot shrink, however,
from the final step if that is clearly indicated. If,
after seeking advice, consulting others involved, and
asking God to guide you, there appears no other just
and honorable solution than the most drastic one, you
must take your medicine. Trust that the eventual outcome
will be right.
2.
Before taking drastic action which might implicate other
people we secure their consent. If we have obtained
permission, have consulted with others, asked God to
help and the drastic step is indicated we must not shrink.
page
80, paragraph 1
1.
He finally came to the conclusion that it was better
to take those risks than to stand before his Creator
guilty of such ruinous slander.
2.
After consulting with his wife and partner he came to
the conclusion that it was better to take those risks
than to stand before his Creator guilty of such ruinous
slander.
page
80, paragraph 4, lines 1-4
1.
This all happened three years ago.
2.
This all happened years ago.
page
80, paragraph 4, lines 10,11
1.
The chances are that you have serious domestic troubles.
You are perhaps we are mixed up with women in a fashion
you wouldn't care to have advertised.
2.
The chances are that we have domestic troubles. Perhaps
we are mixed up with women in a fashion we wouldn't
care to have advertised.
page
80, paragraph 5, lines 1-3
1.
You may be having a secret and exciting affair with
"the girl who understands." In fairness we
must say that she may understand, but what are you going
to do about a thing like that?
2.
Perhaps he is having a secret and exciting affair with
"the girl who understands." In fairness we
must say that she may understand, but what are we going
to do about a thing like that?
page
80, paragraph 5, lines 11-15
1.
Whatever the situation, you usually have to do something
about it. If you are sure your wife does not know, should
you tell her? Not always, we think. If she knows in
a general way that you have been wild, should you tell
her in detail? Undoubtedly you should admit your fault.
Your wife may insist on knowing all the particulars.
She will want to know who the woman is and where she
is. We feel you ought to say to her that you have no
right to involve another person. You are sorry for what
we have done and, God willing, it shall not be repeated.
More than that you cannot do; you have no right to go
further.
2.
Whatever the situation, we usually have to do something
about it. If we are sure our wife does not know, should
we tell her? Not always, we think. If she knows in a
general way that we have been wild, should we tell her
in detail? Undoubtedly we should admit our fault. She
may insist on knowing all the particulars.
She
will want to know who the woman is and where she is.
We
feel we ought to say to her that we have no right to
involve another person. We are sorry for what we have
done and, God willing, it shall not be repeated. More
than that we cannot do; we have no right to go further.
page
81, paragraph 2, lines 1-12
1.
If you can forget, so can she. It is better, however,
that you do not needless name a person upon whom she
can vent her natural jealousy.
There are some cases where the utmost frankness is demanded.
Perhaps yours is one of them. No outsider can appraise
such an intimate situation. It may be you will both
decide that the way of good sense and loving kindness
is to let by-gones be by-gones. Each of you might pray
about it, having the other one's happiness uppermost
in mind. Keep it always in sight that you deal with
that most terrible human emotion--jealousy. Good generalship
may decide that you and your wife attack the problem
on the flank, rather than risk face-to-face combat.
You have to decide about that alone with your Creator.
Should you have no such complication, there is still
plenty you should do at home. Sometimes we hear an alcoholic
say that the only thing he needs to do is to keep sober.
Certainly he needs to keep sober, for there will be
no home if he doesn't.
2.
If we can forget, so can she. It is better, however,
that one does not needlessly name a person upon whom
she can vent jealousy. Perhaps there are some cases
where the utmost frankness is demanded. No outsider
can appraise such an intimate situation. It may be that
both will decide that the way of good sense and loving
kindness is to let by-gones be by-gones. Each might
pray about it, having the other one's happiness uppermost
in mind. Keep it always in sight that we are dealing
with that most terrible human emotion--jealousy. Good
generalship may decide that the problem be attacked
on the flank rather than risk a face-to-face combat.
If we have no such complication, there is plenty we
should do at home. Sometimes we hear an alcoholic say
that the only thing he needs to do is to keep sober.
Certainly he must keep sober, for there will be no home
if he doesn't.
page
81, paragraph 2, lines 2-5 & page 82, paragraphs
1,2, lines 1-5
1.
You must take the lead. A remorseful mumbling that you
are sorry won't fill the bill at all. You ought to sit
down with your family and frankly analyze your past
as you now see it, being very careful not to criticize
them. Never mind their defects. They may be glaring,
but the chances are that your own actions are partly
responsible. So clean house with the family, asking
each morning in mediation that your Creator show you
the way of patience, tolerance, kindliness and love.
The spiritual live is not a theory. You have to live
it. Unless your family expresses a desire to live upon
spiritual principles, however, we think you ought to
leave them alone. You should not talk incessantly about
spiritual matters to them. They will change in time.
Your practice will convince them more then your words.
Remember that ten or twenty years of drunkenness would
make a skeptic out of anyone.
There may be some wrongs you can never fully right.
Don't worry about them if you can honesty say to yourself
that you would right them if you could. Some people
you cannot see--send them an honest letter. And there
may be a valid reason for postponement in some cases.
But don't delay if it can be avoided. Be sensible, tactful,
and considerate. Be humble without being servile or
scraping. As one of God's people you are to stand on
your feet; don't crawl on your belly before anyone.
If you are painstaking about this phase of your development,
you will be amazed before you are half way through.
You are going to know a new freedom and happiness. You
will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on
it. You will comprehend the word serenity and know peace.
No matter how far down the scale you have gone, you
will see how your experience can benefit others. That
feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear.
You will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest
in your fellows. Self-seeking will slip away. Your whole
attitude and outlook upon life will change. Fear of
people and of economic insecurity will leave you. You
will intuitively know how to handle situations which
used to baffle you. You will suddenly realize that God
is doing for you what you could not do for yourself.
You say these are extravagant promises? They are not.
They are being fulfilled among us--sometimes quickly,
sometimes slowly. They will always materialize in you
if you work for them.
This thought brings us to step ten, which suggests you
continue to take personal inventory and continue to
set any new mistakes right as you go along. You vigorously
commenced this way of live as you cleaned up your past.
You have entered the world of Spirit. Your next function
is to grow in understanding and effectiveness. This
is not an overnight matter. It should continue for your
lifetime. Continue to watch yourself for selfishness,
dishonesty, resentment, and fear. When these crop up,
ask God at once to remove them. Discuss them with someone
immediately. Make amends quickly if you have harmed
anyone. Then resolutely turn your thoughts to someone
you can help. Love and tolerance of others is your code.
And you have ceased fighting anything or anyone--even
alcohol. For by this time your sanity will have returned.
You will seldom be interested in liquor. If tempted,
you will recoil from it as you would from a hot flame.
You will react sanely and normally. You will find that
this has happened automatically. You will see that your
new attitude toward liquor has been given you without
any thought or effort on your part. It just comes! That
is the miracle of it. You are not fighting it, neither
are you avoiding temptation. You feel as though you
had been placed in a position of neutrality. You feel
safe and protected. You have not even sworn off. Instead,
the problem has been removed. It does not exist for
you. You are neither cocky, nor are you afraid. That
is our experience. That is how we react so long as we
keep in fit spiritual condition.
It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action
and rest on your laurels. You are headed for trouble
if you do, for alcohol is a subtle foe. We are not cured
of alcoholism. What we really have is a daily reprieve.
Every day is a day when you have to carry the vision
of God's will into all your activities. "How can
I best serve Thee--Thy will (not mine) be done."
These are thoughts which must go with you constantly.
You can exercise your will power along this line all
we wish. It is the proper use of the will.
Much has already been said about receiving strength,
inspiration, and direction from Him who has all knowledge
and power. If you have carefully followed directions,
you have begun to sense the flow of His Spirit into
you. To some extent you have become God-conscious. You
have begun to develop this vital sixth sense. But you
must go further and that means more action.
Step Eleven suggests prayer and meditation. Don't be
shy of this matter of prayer. Better men than we are
using it constantly. It works, if you have the proper
attitude and work at it. It would be easy to be vague
about this matter. Yet, we believe we can give you some
definite and valuable suggestions.
When you awake tomorrow morning, look back over the
day before. Were you resentful, selfish, dishonest,
or afraid? Do you owe an apology? Have you kept something
to yourself which should be discussed with another person
at once? Were you kind and loving toward all? What could
you have done better? Were you thinking of yourself
most of the time? Or were you thinking of what you could
do for others, of what you could pack into the stream
of life? After you have faced yesterday, ask God's forgiveness
for any wrong. Ask to be shown what to do. Thus you
keep clean as you live each day.
Next, think about the twenty-four hours ahead. Consider
your plans for the day. Before you begin, ask God to
guide your thinking. Especially ask that it be divorced
from self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives. Then
go ahead and use your common sense. There is nothing
hard or mysterious about this. God gave you brains to
use. Clear your thinking of wrong motives. Your thought-life
will be placed on a much higher plane.
In thinking about your day you may face indecision.
You may not be able to determine which course to take.
Here you ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought
or decision. Relax and take it easy. Don't struggle.
Ask God's help. You will be surprised how the right
answers come after you have practiced a few days. What
used to be the hunch or the occasional inspiration becomes
a working part of your mind. Being still inexperienced
and just making your contact with God, it is not probable
that you are going to be divinely inspired all time.
That would be a large piece of conceit, for which you
might pay in all sorts of absurd actions and ideas.
Nevertheless you will find that your thinking will,
as time passes, be more and more on the plane of inspiration
and guidance. You will come to rely upon it. This is
not weird or silly. Most psychologists pronounce these
methods sound.
You might conclude the period of meditation with a prayer
that you be shown all through the day what your next
step is to be, that He give you whatever you need to
take care every situation. Ask especially for freedom
from self-will. Be careful to make no request for yourself
only. You may ask for yourself, however, if others will
be helped. Never pray for your own selfish ends. People
waste a lot of time doing that and it doesn't work.
You can easily see why.
If circumstances warrant, ask your wives or a friend
to join you in morning meditation. If you belong to
a religious denomination which requires a definite morning
devotion, be sure to attend to that also. If you are
not a member of a religious body, you might select and
memorize a few set prayers which emphasize the principles
we have been discussing. There are many helpful books
also. If you do not know of any, ask your priest, minister,
or rabbi, for suggestions. Be quick to see where religious
people are right. Make use of what they offer.
As you go through the day, pause when agitated or doubtful.
Be still ask for the right thought or action. It will
come. Remind yourself you are no longer running the
show. Humbly say to yourself many times each day "Thy
will be done." You will be in much less danger
of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish
decisions. You will become much more efficient. You
will not tire easily, for you will be not be burning
up energy foolishly as you did when trying to arrange
life to suit yourself.
It works -- it really does. Try it.
We alcoholics are undisciplined. So let God discipline
you in the simple way we have just outlined.
But this is not all. There is action and more action.
"Faith without works is dead." What works?
We shall treat them in the next chapter which is entirely
devoted to step twelve.
2.
We must take the lead. A remorseful mumbling that we
are sorry won't fill the bill at all. We ought to sit
down with the family and frankly analyze the past as
we now see it, being very careful not to criticize them.
Their defects may be glaring, but the chances are that
our own actions are partly responsible. So we clean
house with the family, asking each morning in mediation
that
our
Creator show us the way of patience, tolerance, kindliness
and love.
The spiritual life is not a theory. We have to live
it. Unless one's family expresses a desire to live upon
spiritual principles we think we ought not to urge them.
We should not talk incessantly to them about spiritual
matters. They will change in time. Our behavior will
convince them more then our words. We must remember
that ten or twenty years of drunkenness would make a
skeptic out of anyone.
There may be some wrongs we can never fully right. We
don't worry about them if we can honesty say to ourselves
that we would right them if we could. Some people cannot
be seen--we send them an honest letter. And there may
be a valid reason for postponement in some cases. But
we don't delay if it can be avoided. We should be sensible,
tactful, considerate and humble without being servile
or scraping. As God's people we stand on our feet; we
don't crawl before anyone.
If we are painstaking about this phase of our development,
we will be amazed before we are half way through. We
are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.
We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door
on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will
know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have
gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.
We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest
in our fellows. Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole
attitude and outlook upon life will change. Fear of
people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We
will intuitively know how to handle situations which
used to baffle us. We will suddenly realize that God
is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.
Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are
being fulfilled among us--sometimes quickly, sometimes
slowly. They will always materialize if we work for
them.
This thought brings us to Step Ten, which suggests we
continue to take personal inventory and continue to
set right any new mistakes as we go along. We vigorously
commenced this way of living as we cleaned up the past.
We have entered the world of the Spirit. Our next function
is to grow in understanding and effectiveness. This
is not an overnight matter. It should continue for our
lifetime. Continue to watch for selfishness, dishonesty,
resentment, and fear. When these crop up, we ask God
at once to remove them. We discuss them with someone
immediately and make amends quickly if we have harmed
anyone. Then we resolutely turn our thoughts to someone
we can help. Love and tolerance of others is our code.
And we have ceased fighting anything or anyone--even
alcohol. For by this time sanity will have returned.
We will seldom be interested in liquor. If tempted,
we recoil from it as from a hot flame. We react sanely
and normally, and we will find that this has happened
automatically. We will see that our new attitude toward
liquor has been given us without any thought or effort
on our part. It just comes! That is the miracle of it.
We are not fighting it, neither are we avoiding temptation.
We feel as though we had been placed in a position of
neutrality--safe and protected. We have not even sworn
off. Instead, the problem has been removed. It does
not exist for us. We are neither cocky, nor are we afraid.
That is our experience. That is how we react so long
as we keep in fit spiritual condition.
It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action
and rest on our laurels. We are headed for trouble if
we do, for alcohol is a subtle foe. We are not cured
of alcoholism. What we really have is a daily reprieve
contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition.
Every day is a day when we must carry the vision of
God's will into all our activities. "How can I
best serve Thee--Thy will (not mine) be done."
These are thoughts which must go with us constantly.
We can exercise our will power along this line all we
wish. It is the proper use of the will.
Much has already been said about receiving strength,
inspiration, and direction from Him who has all knowledge
and power. If we have carefully followed directions,
we have begun to sense the flow of His Spirit into us.
To some extent we have become God-conscious. We have
begun to develop this vital sixth sense. But we must
go further and that means more action.
Step Eleven suggests prayer and meditation. We shouldn't
be shy of this matter of prayer. Better men than we
are using it constantly. It works, if we have the proper
attitude and work at it. It would be easy to be vague
about this matter. Yet, we believe we can make some
definite and valuable suggestions.
When we retire at night, we constructively review our
day. Were we resentful, selfish, dishonest, or afraid?
Do we owe an apology? Have we kept something to ourselves
which should be discussed with another person at once?
Were we kind and loving toward all? What could we have
done better? Were we thinking of ourselves most of the
time? Or were we thinking of what we could do for others,
of what we could pack into the stream of life? But we
must be careful not to drift into worry, remorse or
morbid reflection, for that would diminish our usefulness
to others. After making our review we ask God's forgiveness
and inquire what corrective measures should be taken.
On awakening let us think about the twenty-four hours
ahead. We consider our plans for the day. Before we
begin, we ask God to direct our thinking, especially
asking that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest
or self-seeking motives. Under these conditions we can
employ our mental facilities with assurance, for
after
all God gave us brains to use. Our thought-life will
be placed on a much higher plane when our thinking is
cleared of wrong motives.
In thinking about our day we may face indecision. We
may not be able to determine which course to take. Here
we ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or
decision. We relax and take it easy. We don't struggle.
We are often surprised how the right answers come after
we have tried this for a while. What used to be the
hunch or the occasional inspiration gradually becomes
a working part of the mind. Being still inexperienced
and having just made conscious contact with God, it
is not probable that we are going to be inspired at
all times. We might pay for this presumption in all
sorts of absurd actions and ideas. Nevertheless, we
find that our thinking will, as time passes, be more
and more on the plane of inspiration. We come to rely
upon it.
We usually conclude the period of meditation with a
prayer that we be shown all through the day what our
next step is to be, that we be given whatever we need
to take care of such problems. We ask especially for
freedom from self-will, and are careful to make no request
for ourselves only. We may ask for ourselves, however,
if others will be helped. We are careful never to pray
for our own selfish ends. Many of us have wasted a lot
of time doing that and it doesn't work. You can easily
see why.
If circumstances warrant, we ask our wives or friends
to join us in morning meditation. If we belong to a
religious denomination which requires a definite morning
devotion, we attend to that also. If not members of
religious bodies, we sometimes select and memorize a
few set prayers which emphasize the principles we have
been discussing. There are many helpful books also.
Suggestions about these may be obtained from one's priest,
minister, or rabbi.
Be
quick to see where religious people are right. Make
use of what they offer.
As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or
doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. We
constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running
the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each
day "Thy will be done." We are then in much
less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity,
or foolish decisions. We become much more efficient.
We do not tire so easily, for we are not burning up
energy foolishly as we did when we were trying to arrange
life to suit ourselves.
It works--it really does.
We alcoholics are undisciplined. So we let God discipline
us in the simple way we have just outlined.
But this is not all. There is action and more action.
"Faith without works is dead." The next chapter
is entirely devoted to Step Twelve.
page
81, paragraph 2 & pages 82-88
1.
Practical experience shows that nothing will so much
insure your own immunity from drinking as intensive
work with other alcoholics. It works when other spiritual
activities fail.
2.
Practical experience shows that nothing will so much
insure immunity from drinking as intensive work with
other alcoholics. It works when other activities fail.
page
89, paragraph 1, lines 1-4
1.
Remember they are fatally ill.
The kick you will get is tremendous. To watch people
come back to life, to see them help others, to watch
loneliness vanish, to see a fellowship grow up about
you, to have a host of friends--this is an experience
you must not miss.
2.
Remember they are very ill.
Life will take on new meaning. To watch people recover,
to see them help others, to watch loneliness vanish,
to see a fellowship grow up about you, to have a host
of friends--this is an experience you must not miss.
page
89, paragraph 1, line 7 & paragraph 2, lines 1-5
1.
You can easily find some by asking a few doctors, ministers,
priests and hospitals. They will be only too glad to
have your help. Don't start out as an evangelist or
reformer. Unfortunately a lot of prejudice exists. You
will be handicapped if you arouse it. Preachers and
doctors don't like to be told they don't know their
business. They are usually competent and you can learn
much from them if you wish, but it happens that because
of your own drinking experience you can be uniquely
useful to other alcoholics.
So
cooperate; never criticize. To be helpful should be
your only aim.
2.
You can easily find some by asking a few doctors, ministers,
priests or hospitals. They will be only too glad to
assist you. Don't start out as an evangelist or reformer.
Unfortunately a lot of prejudice exists. You will be
handicapped if you arouse it.
Ministers
and doctors are competent and you can learn much from
them if you wish, but it happens that because of your
own drinking experience you can be uniquely useful to
other alcoholics. So cooperate; never criticize. To
be helpful is our only aim.
page
89, paragraph 3, lines 2-12
1.
Usually it is wise to wait till he goes on a binge.
2.
Sometimes it is wise to wait till he goes on a binge.
page
90, paragraph 3, line 1
1.
The family should not try to represent you.
2.
Usually the family should not try to tell your story.
page
91, paragraph 1, line 1
1.
Let the doctor tell him he has something new in the
way of a solution.
When your man is better, let the doctor might suggest
a visit from you.
2.
Let the doctor, if he will, tell him he has something
in the way of a solution.
When your man is better, the doctor might suggest a
visit from you.
page
91, paragraph 1, lines 6,7 & paragraph 2, lines
1,2
1.
Say enough about your drinking habits, symptoms, and
experiences to encourage him to speak of himself.
2.
Tell him enough about your drinking habits, symptoms,
and experiences to encourage him to speak of himself.
page
91, paragraph 3, lines 3-5
1.
If he is in a serious mood dwell on the troubles liquor
has caused you, being careful not to moralize or preach.
2.
If he is in a serious mood dwell on the troubles liquor
has caused you, being careful not to moralize or lecture.
page
91, paragraph 3, lines 10-12
1.
Tell him how baffled you were, how you finally learned
that you were sick as well as weak.
2.
Tell him how baffled you were, how you finally learned
that you were sick.
page
91, paragraph 4, lines 3,4
1.
Do this as we have it in the chapter on alcoholism.
2.
We suggest you do this as we have it in the chapter
on alcoholism.
page
91, paragraph 4, lines 6-8
1.
If you are satisfied that he is a real alcoholic, you
may begin to dwell on the hopeless feature of the malady.
2.
If you are satisfied that he is a real alcoholic, begin
to dwell on the hopeless feature of the malady.
page
92, paragraph 1, lines 1,2
1.
But insist that if he is severely afflicted, there is
little chance he can recover by himself.
Continue to speak of alcoholism as an sickness, a fatal
malady.
2.
But insist that if he is severely afflicted, there may
be little chance he can recover by himself.
Continue to speak of alcoholism as an illness, a fatal
malady.
page
92, paragraph 1, lines 11,12 & paragraph 2, lines
1,2
1.
If doctors or psychiatrists have pronounced you incurable,
be sure and let him know about it.
2.
omitted
page
92, paragraph 2, lines 4,5
1.
Doctors who know the truth are rightly loath to tell
alcoholic patients the whole story unless it will serve
some good purpose.
2.
Doctors are rightly loath to tell alcoholic patients
the whole story unless it will serve some good purpose.
page
92, paragraph 2, lines 6,7
1.
If he does not ask, proceed with the rest of your story.
2.
Tell him exactly what happened to you.
page
92, paragraph 2, lines 16,17
1.
But he will be curious to learn why his own convictions
have not worked and why yours have given you victory.
2.
But he will be curious to learn why his own convictions
have not worked and why yours seem to work so well.
page
93, paragraph 2, lines 5,6
1.
But he will be curious to learn why his own religious
convictions have not worked, and yours have given you
victory.
why
yours have given you victory.
2.
But he will be curious to learn why his own convictions
have not worked, and yours seem to work so well.
1.
Admit that he probably knows more about it than you
do, but call to his attention the fact that however
deep his faith and knowledge, there must be something
wrong, or he would not drink. Say that perhaps you help
him see where he has fails to apply to himself the very
precepts he knows so well. For our purpose you represent
no particular faith or denomination. You are dealing
only with general principles common to most denominations.
Outline our program of action, telling how you made
a self-appraisal, how you straightened out your past
and why you are now endeavoring to be helpful to him.
Make it plain he is under no obligation to you, that
you hope only that he will try to help other alcoholics
when he escapes his own difficulties. Show how important
it is that he place the welfare of other people ahead
of his own.
2.
Admit that he probably knows more about it than you
do, but call to his attention the fact that however
deep his faith and knowledge, he could not have applied
it or he would not drink. Perhaps your story will help
him see where he has failed to practice the very precepts
he knows so well. We represent no particular faith or
denomination. We are dealing only with general principles
common to most denominations
Outline the program of action, explaining how you made
a self-appraisal, how you straightened out your past
and why you are now endeavoring to be helpful to him.
It is important for him to realize that your attempt
to pass this on to him plays a vital part in your own
recovery. Actually, he may be helping you more than
you are helping him.
page
93, paragraph 2, lines 11-19 & page 94, paragraph
1, lines 1-7
1.
Show how important it is that he place the welfare of
other people ahead of his own.
2.
Suggest how important it is that he place the welfare
of other people ahead of his own.
page
94, paragraph 1, lines 10,11
1.
If you talk has been sane, quiet and full of human understanding,
you have probably made a friend.
2.
If you talk has been sane, quiet and full of human understanding,
you have perhaps made a friend.
page
94, paragraph 1, lines 16,17
1.
Your candidate may give reasons why he need not follow
all of your program. He will rebel at the thought of
a drastic housecleaning which requires discussion with
other people. Do not contradict such views. Tell him
you once felt as he does, but you
doubt
if you would have made much progress had you not taken
action.
2.
Your candidate may give reasons why he need not follow
all of the program. He may rebel at the thought of a
drastic housecleaning which requires discussion with
other people. Do not contradict such views. Tell him
you once felt as he does, but you doubt whether you
would have made much progress had you not taken action.
page
94, paragraph 2, lines 1-7
1.
Sometimes a new man is anxious to make a decision and
discuss his affairs at once, and you may be tempted
to let him proceed. This is almost always a mistake.
2.
Sometimes a new man is anxious to proceed at once, and
you may be tempted to let him do so. This is sometimes
a mistake.
page
95, paragraph 1, lines 4-7
1.
Never talk down to an alcoholic from any moral or spiritual
hilltop; simply lay out your kit of spiritual tools
for his inspection.
2.
Never talk down to an alcoholic from any moral or spiritual
hilltop; simply lay out the kit of spiritual tools for
his inspection.
page
95, paragraph 1, lines 10-12
1.
If he is not interested in your solution, if he expects
you to act only as a banker for his financial difficulties
or a nurse for his sprees, drop him until he changes
his mind. This he may do after he gets hurt some again.
2.
If he is not interested in your solution, if he expects
you to act only as a banker for his financial difficulties
or a nurse for
his
sprees, you may have to drop him until he changes his
mind.This he may do after he gets hurt some more.
page
95, paragraph 2
1.
After doing that, he is to decide for himself whether
he wants to go on. He is not to be pushed or prodded
by you, his wife, or his friends.
2.
After doing that, he must decide for himself whether
he wants to go on. He should not be pushed or prodded
by you, his wife, or his friends.
page
95, paragraph 3, lines 2-5
1.
You have no monopoly on God; you merely have an approach
that worked with you.
2.
We have no monopoly on God; we merely have an approach
that worked with us.
page
95, paragraph 4, lines 3-5
1.
It's a waste of time and poor strategy to keep chasing
a man who cannot or will not work with you. If you leave
such a person
alone,
in all likelihood he will begin to run after you, for
he will soon become convinced that he cannot recover
alone.
2.
We find it a waste of time to keep chasing a man who
cannot or will not work with you. If you leave such
a person alone, he may soon become convinced that he
cannot recover by himself.
page
96, paragraph 1, lines 4-8
1.
Suggest he make his decision with you and tell you his
story, but do not insist upon it if he prefers to consult
someone else.
2.
Let him know you are available if he wishes to make
a decision and tell his story, but do not insist upon
it if he prefers to consult someone else.
page
96, paragraph 2, lines 5-8
1.
If he is, try to help him about getting a job. Give
him a little financial assistance, unless it would deprive
your family or creditors of money they should have.
2.
If he is, you might try to help him about getting a
job, or give him a little financial assistance. But
you should not deprive your family or creditors of money
they should have.
page
96, paragraph 3, lines 1-4
1.
Self-sacrifice for others is the foundation stone of
your recovery.
2.
Helping others is the foundation stone of your recovery.
page
97, paragraph 1, lines 2,3
1.
Your wife will sometimes say she is neglected.
2.
Your wife may sometimes say she is neglected.
page
97, paragraph 1, lines 12,13
1.
Omitted
2.
Occasionally you will have to meet such conditions.
page
97, paragraph 1, lines 18,19
1.
This sort of thing goes on constantly, but we seldom
allow an alcoholic to live in our homes for long at
a time.
2.
We seldom allow an alcoholic to live in our homes for
long at a time.
page
97, paragraph 2, lines 1,2
1.
You should continue to be friendly to them in every
way.
2.
You should continue to be friendly to them.
page
97, paragraph 3, lines 2,3
1.
The minute we put our work on a social service plane,
the alcoholic commences to rely upon our assistance
rather than upon God.
2.
The minute we put our work on a service plane, the alcoholic
commences to rely upon our assistance rather than upon
God.
page
98, paragraph 1, lines 3-5
1.
No person on this earth can stop his recovery from alcohol,
or prevent his being supplied with whatever is good
for him.
2.
omitted
page
98, paragraph 2, lines 2,3
1.
When your prospect has made such restitution as he can
to his family, and has thoroughly explained to them
the new principles by which he is living, he should
proceed to put those principles into action at home.
2.
When your prospect has made such reparation as he can
to his family, and has thoroughly explained to them
the new principles by which he is living, he should
proceed to put those principles into action at home.
page
98, paragraph 3, lines 2-6
1.
Argument and fault-finding are to be avoided like leprosy.
2.
Argument and fault-finding are to be avoided like the
plague.
page
98, paragraph 3, lines 10,11
1.
After they have seen tangible results, the family will
perhaps want to join in the better way of life.
2.
After they have seen tangible results, the family will
perhaps want to go along.
page
99, paragraph 1, lines 1,2
1.
The man should be sure of his ground.
2.
The man should be sure of his recovery.
page
99, paragraph 2, lines 2,3
1.
Let the alcoholic continue his new way of life day by
day.
2.
Let the alcoholic continue his program day by day.
page
99, paragraph 2, lines 9,10
1.
Remind your prospect that his recovery is not dependent
upon people.
2.
Remind the prospect that his recovery is not dependent
upon people.
page
99, paragraph 3, lines 4,5
1.
When working with a man and his family, you must take
care not to participate in their quarrels.
2.
When working with a man and his family, you should take
care not to participate in their quarrels.
page
100, paragraph 2, lines 1,2
1.
The story of how you and your wife settled your difficulties
is worth any amount of preaching or criticism.
2.
The story of how you and your wife settled your difficulties
is worth any amount of criticism.
page
100, paragraph 3, lines 5,6
1.
Experience proves this is nonsense.
2.
Our experience shows that this is not necessarily so.
page
100, paragraph 4, line 9
1.
Any scheme of combating alcoholism which proposes to
shield the sick man from temptations is doomed to failure.
If the alcoholic tries to shield himself he may succeed
for a time, but will wind up with a bigger explosion
than ever. Our wives and we have tried these methods.
These foolish attempts to do the impossible have always
failed.
2.
In our belief any scheme of combating alcoholism which
proposes to shield the sick man from temptations is
doomed to failure. If the alcoholic tries to shield
himself he may succeed for a time, but he usually winds
up with a bigger explosion than ever. We have tried
these methods. These attempts to do the impossible have
always failed.
page
101, paragraph 2
1.
Therefore, ask yourself on each occasion, "Have
I any legitimate social, business, or personal reason
for going to this place? Am I going to be helpful to
anyone there? Could I be more useful or helpful be being
somewhere else? If you answer these questions satisfactorily,
you need have no apprehension. You may go or stay away,
whichever seems best.
2.
Therefore, ask yourself on each occasion, "Have
I any good social, business, or personal reason for
going to this place? Or am I expecting to steal a little
vicarious pleasure from the atmosphere of such places?"
If you answer these questions satisfactorily, you need
have no apprehension. Go or stay away, whichever seems
best.
page
101, paragraph 4, lines 2-8
1.
But if you are spiritually shaky, you had better work
with another alcoholic instead!
You are not to sit with a long face in places where
there is drinking, sighing about the good old days.
2.
But if you are shaky, you had better work with another
alcoholic instead!
Why sit with a long face in places where there is drinking,
sighing about the good old days.
page
101, paragraph 4, lines 12,13 & page 102, paragraph
1, lines 1,2
1.
If you do this thoroughly, no decent person will ask
you to drink.
2.
If you do this thoroughly, few people will ask you to
drink.
page
102, paragraph 1, lines 9-11
1.
Now you are getting back into the life of this world.
2.
Now you are getting back into the social life of this
world.
page
102, paragraph 1, lines 12,13
1.
Your job now is to be at the place where you may be
of maximum helpfulness to others, so never hesitate
to go where there is drinking, if you can be helpful.
You should not hesitate to visit the most sordid spot
on earth on such an mission.
2.
Your job now is to be at the place where you may be
of maximum helpfulness to others, so never hesitate
to go anywhere, if you can be helpful. You should not
hesitate to visit the most sordid spot on earth on such
an errand.
page
102, paragraph 2, lines 1-5
1.
Some of us still serve it to our friends in moderation,
provided they are people who do not abuse drinking.
2.
Some of us still serve it to our friends provided they
are not alcoholic.
page
102, paragraph 3, lines 3,4
1.
A spirit of intolerance might repel alcoholics whose
lives would have been saved, had it not been for our
stupidity. We would not even do the cause of temperate
drinking any good, for not one drinker in a thousand
is willing to be told anything about alcohol by one
who hates it.
2.
A spirit of intolerance might repel alcoholics whose
lives could have been saved, had it not been for such
stupidity. We would not even do the cause of temperate
drinking any good, for not one drinker in a thousand
likes to be told anything about alcohol by one who hates
it.
page
103, paragraph 1, lines 6-11
1.
Someday we hope that Alcoholics Anonymous will help
the public to a better realization of the gravity of
the alcoholic problem. We shall be of little use if
our attitude is one of bitterness or hostility.
2.
Some day we hope that Alcoholics Anonymous will help
the public to a better realization of the gravity of
the alcoholic problem, but we shall be of little use
if our attitude is one of bitterness or hostility.
page
103, paragraph 2, lines 1-4
1.
There is every evidence that women regain their health
as readily as men if they follow suggestions.
2.
There is every evidence that women regain their health
as readily as men if they try our suggestions.
page
104, paragraph 1, lines 4-6
1.
We shall let the wives of Alcoholics Anonymous to address
the wives of men who drink to much.
2.
We want the wives of Alcoholics Anonymous to address
the wives of men who drink to much.
page
104, paragraph 3, lines 3-5
1.
As wives of Alcoholics Anonymous, we want you to sense
that we understand you as perhaps few can. We want to
analyze mistakes we have made and help you to avoid
them.
2.
As wives of Alcoholics Anonymous, we would like you
to feel that we understand as perhaps few can. We want
to analyze mistakes we have made.
page
104, paragraph 4, lines 1-3
1.
We have veered from extreme to extreme, ever hoping
that one day our loved ones would be themselves once
more.
2.
Some of us veered from extreme to extreme, ever hoping
that one day our loved ones would be themselves once
more.
page
104, paragraph 5, lines 6-8
1.
We came to live almost alone, unwanted by anyone.
2.
We came to live almost alone.
page
105, paragraph 3, lines 3,4
1.
There were other women.
2.
Sometimes there were other women.
page
106, paragraph 1, line 1
1.
The bill collectors, the sheriffs, the angry taxi drivers,
the policemen, the bums, the pals, and even the ladies
he brought home--our husbands thought we were so inhospitable.
2.
The bill collectors, the sheriffs, the angry taxi drivers,
the policemen, the bums, the pals, and even the ladies
they sometimes brought home--our husbands thought we
were so inhospitable.
page
106, paragraph 2, lines 1-4
1.
Why was it, when we pointed out these dangers, that
they agreed, and then got drunk again immediately?
These are some of the questions which race through the
mind of every girl who has an alcoholic husband. We
hope our book has answered some of them. But now you
will have seen that perhaps your husband has been living
in that strange world of alcoholism where everything
is distorted and exaggerated.
2.
Why was it, when these dangers were pointed out that
they agreed, and then got drunk again immediately? These
are some of the questions which race through the mind
of every woman who has an alcoholic husband. We hope
this book has answered some of them. Perhaps your husband
has been living in that strange world of alcoholism
where everything is distorted and exaggerated.
page
107, paragraph 3, lines 5-7 & page 108, paragraph
1, lines 1-6
1.
Don't condemn your alcoholic husband no matter what
he says or does.
2.
Try not to condemn your alcoholic husband no matter
what he says or does.
page
108, paragraph 2, lines 1,2
1.
An alcoholic of this temperament will be quick to use
this chapter as a club over your heard.
2.
An alcoholic of this temperament may be quick to use
this chapter as a club over your heard.
page
108, paragraph 3, lines 4,5
1.
It is not right to let him ruin your life and the lives
of your children, especially when he has before him
a way to stop his drinking and abuse if he really wants
to pay the price.
2.
Is it right to let him ruin your life and the lives
of your children? Especially when he has before him
a way to stop his drinking and abuse if he really wants
to pay the price.
page
108, paragraph 3, lines 7-10
1.
He spends too much money for liquor. It slows him up
mentally and physically, but he does not see it.
2.
Perhaps he spends too much money for liquor. It may
be slowing him up mentally and physically, but he does
not see it.
page
108, paragraph 5, lines 3-5
1.
He would be insulted if called an alcoholic.
2.
He would probably be insulted if he were called an alcoholic.
page
108, paragraph 5, lines 9,10
1.
He admits this is true, but is obsessed with the idea
that he will do better.
2.
He admits this is true, but is positive that he will
do better. page 109, paragraph 1, lines 4,5
1.
He is beginning to lose his friends.
2.
Maybe he is beginning to lose his friends.
page
109, paragraph 1, line 7
1.
This person is in danger. He has the earmarks of a real
alcoholic.
2.
We think this person is in danger. These are the earmarks
of a real alcoholic.
page
109, paragraph 1, lines 15-17
1.
He is violent, or definitely insane when drunk.
2.
He is violent, or appears definitely insane when drunk.
page
110, paragraph 1, lines 3,4
1.
Your husband has begun to abuse alcohol.
2.
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page
111, paragraph 1, line 1
1.
Patience and good temper are vitally necessary.
The next rule is that you should never tell him what
to do about his drinking. If he gets the idea that you
are a nag or a killjoy, your chance of accomplishing
anything useful will be zero. He will use that as an
excuse to drink some more.
2.
Patience and good temper are most necessary.
Our next thought is that you should never tell him what
he must do about his drinking. If he gets the idea that
you are a nag or a killjoy, your chance of accomplishing
anything useful may be zero. He will use that as an
excuse to drink more.
page
111, paragraph 1, lines 4,5 & paragraph 2, lines
1-5
1.
We know these suggestions are not impossible to follow,
but you will save many a heartbreak if you can succeed
in observing them. Your husband will come to appreciate
your reasonableness and
patience.
This will lay the groundwork for a frank and friendly
talk about his liquor problem.
2.
We know these suggestions are sometimes difficult to
follow, but you will save many a heartbreak if you can
succeed in observing them. Your husband may come to
appreciate your reasonableness and patience. This may
lay the groundwork for a friendly talk about his alcoholic
problem.
page
111, paragraph 4, lines 1-6
1.
You think he ought to know the subject better, as everyone
should have a clear understanding of the risk he takes
if he drinks much.
2.
You think he ought to know the subject better, as everyone
should have a clear understanding of the risk he takes
if he drinks too much.
page
111, paragraph 5, lines 4-6
1.
Your husband may be willing to talk to one of them,
perhaps over a highball.
2.
Your husband may be willing to talk to one of them.
page
112, paragraph 1, lines 5,6
1.
If this kind of approach does not catch your husband's
interest, it may be best to drop the subject for a time,
but after a friendly talk your husband will usually
revive the topic himself.
2.
If this kind of approach does not catch your husband's
interest, it may be best to drop the subject, but after
a friendly talk your husband will usually revive the
topic himself.
page
112, paragraph 2, lines 1-4
1.
If you act upon these principles, your husband may stop
or moderate after a while.
2.
If you act upon these principles, your husband may stop
or moderate.
page
112, paragraph 2, lines 6,7
1.
Show him that the writers of the book understand, as
only alcoholics can.
2.
Show him that as alcoholics, the writers of the book
understand. page 112, paragraph 4, lines 3,4
1.
If you think he will be shy of our spiritual remedy,
ask him to look at the chapter on alcoholism.
2.
If you think he will be shy of a spiritual remedy, ask
him to look at the chapter on alcoholism.
page
112, paragraph 4, lines 5-7
1.
If he is enthusiastic cooperate with him, though you,
yourself, may not yet agree with all we say. If he is
lukewarm or thinks he is not an alcoholic, leave him
alone. Never urge him to follow our program. The seed
had been planted in his mind. He knows that over a hundred
men, much like himself, have recovered. But don't remind
him of this after he has been drinking, for he will
be angry.
2.
If he is enthusiastic your cooperation will mean a great
deal. If he is lukewarm or thinks he is not an alcoholic,
we suggest you leave him alone. Avoid urging him to
follow our program. The seed had been planted in his
mind. He knows that thousands of men, much like himself,
have recovered. But don't remind him of this after he
has been drinking, for he may be angry.
page
113, paragraph 1, lines 1-8
1.
Again, you must not crowd him.
2.
Again, you should not crowd him.
page
113, paragraph 2, lines 7,8
1.
In some cases it may be better to let the family doctor
present the book. The doctor can urge action without
arousing hostility.
2.
In some cases it may be better to let someone outside
the family present the book. They can urge action without
arousing hostility.
page
113, paragraph 2, lines 10-13
1.
In any event, see that your husband gets this book.
2.
In any event, try to have your husband read this book.
page
114, paragraph 1 lines 5,6
1.
About a year ago a certain state institution released
six chronic alcoholics. It was fully expected they would
all be back in a few weeks. Only one of them has returned.
The others had no relapse at all.
2.
For years we have been working with alcoholics committed
to institutions. Since this book was first published,
A.A. had released thousands of alcoholics from asylums
and hospitals of every kind. The majority have never
returned.
page
114, paragraph 1, lines 12-16
1.
When they become too dangerous, we think the kind thing
is to lock them up. The wives and children of such men
suffer horribly, but not less than the men themselves.
2.
When they become too dangerous, we think the kind thing
is to lock them up, but of course a good doctor should
always be
consulted.
The wives and children of such men suffer horribly,
but not more than the men themselves.
page
114, paragraph 2, lines 4-8
1.
As a rule, an institution is a dismal place, and sometimes
it is not conductive to recovery. It is a pity that
chronic alcoholics must often mingle with the insane.
Some day we hope our group will be instrumental in changing
this condition. Many of our husbands spent weary years
institutions. Though more reluctant than most people
to place our men there, we sometimes suggest that it
be done. Of course aa good doctor should always be consulted.
2.
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page
114, paragraph 3
1.
If such women adopt our way of life their road will
be smoother.
2.
If such women adopt a spiritual way of life their road
will be smoother.
page
114, paragraph 3, lines 2,3
1.
If your husband is a drinker, you worry over what over
people are thinking. You hate to meet your friends.
You draw more and more into yourself. You think everyone
is talking about conditions at your home.
2.
If your husband is a drinker, you probably worry over
what over people are thinking and you hate to meet your
friends. You draw more and more into yourself and you
think everyone is talking about conditions at your home.
page
114, paragraph 4, lines 1-6
1.
While you need not discuss your husband, you can quietly
let your friends know the trouble is. Sometimes it is
wise to talk with his employer.
2.
While you need not discuss your husband at length, you
can quietly let your friends know the nature of his
illness.
page
115, paragraph 1, lines 1-4
1.
When you have carefully explained to such people that
he is a sick person, little more to blame than other
men who drink but manage their liquor better, you will
have created a new atmosphere.
2.
When you have carefully explained to such people that
he is a sick person, you will have created a new atmosphere.
page
115, paragraph 2, lines 1-3
1.
Your new courage, good nature and lack of self-consciousness
will do wonders for your social status.
2.
Your new courage, good nature and lack of self-consciousness
will do wonders for you socially.
page
115, paragraph 2, lines 8-10
1.
Ask him to promise that he will not place you in such
a position again.
2.
Ask him what you should do if he places you in such
a position again.
page
115, paragraph 4, lines 9,10
1.
You are afraid your husband will lose his position;
you are thinking of the disgrace and hard times which
will befall you and the children.
2.
You may be afraid your husband will lose his position;
you are thinking of the disgrace and hard times which
will befall you and the children.
page
116, paragraph 1, lines 1-4
1.
You must regard these work-outs as part of your education,
for thus you will be learning to live as you were intended
to live.
2.
These work-outs should be regarded as part of your education,
for thus you will be learning to live.
page
117, paragraph 2, lines 2-4
1.
Patience, tolerance, understanding and love are your
watchwords.
2.
Patience, tolerance, understanding and love are the
watchwords.
page
118, paragraph 2, lines 4,5
1.
We do not like the thought that the contents of a book
or the work of another alcoholic has accomplished in
a few weeks the end for which we struggled for years.
2.
We do not like the thought that the contents of a book
or the work of another alcoholic has accomplished in
a few weeks that for which we struggled for years.
page
118, paragraph 4, lines 3-6
1.
When resentful thoughts come, pause and count your blessings.
2.
When resentful thoughts come, try to pause and count
your blessings.
page
118, paragraph 4, lines 12,13
1.
The fact is that he must work with other people to maintain
his own sobriety.
2.
The fact is that he should work with other people to
maintain his own sobriety.
page
119, paragraph 1, lines 6,7
1.
It will do no good if you point that out and urge more
attention for yourself. It is a real mistake if you
dampen his enthusiasm for alcoholic work.
2.
It will do little good if you point that out and urge
more attention for yourself. We find it a real mistake
to dampen his enthusiasm for alcoholic work.
page
119, paragraph 1, lines 11-14
1.
Direct some of your thought to wives of his new alcoholic
friends.
2.
We suggest that you direct some of your thought to wives
of his new alcoholic friends.
page
119, paragraph 2, lines 15-17
1.
It is probably true that you and your husband have been
living too much alone, for drinking almost isolated
many of us.
Therefore,
you need fresh interests and a great cause to live for
as much as your husband.
2.
It is probably true that you and your husband have been
living too much alone, for drinking many times isolates
the wife of an alcoholic. Therefore, you probably need
fresh interests and a great cause to live for as much
as your husband.
page
119, paragraph 2, lines 1-5
1.
You, as well as your husband, must think of what you
can put into life instead of how much you can take out.
2.
You, as well as your husband, ought to think of what
you can put into life instead of how much you can take
out.
page
119, paragraph 2, lines 8-10
1.
If he adopts this view, the slip will help him.
2.
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page
120, paragraph 1, line 9
1.
Even your hatred must go. The slightest sign of fear
or intolerance will lessen your husband's chance of
recovery.
2.
The slightest sign of fear or intolerance may lessen
your husband's chance of recovery.
page
120, paragraph 2, lines 1,2
1.
Never, never try to arrange his life, so as to shield
him from temptation.
2.
We never, never try to arrange a man's life so as to
shield him from temptation.
page
120, paragraph 3, lines 1,2
1.
We may have seemed "preachy". If that is so,
we are sorry, for we ourselves don't always care for
people who preach.
2.
We may have seemed to lecture. If that is so we are
sorry, for we ourselves don't always care for people
who lecture us.
page
121, paragraph 1, lines 1,2
1.
The more one member of the family demands that the others
concede to him, the more resentful they become.
2.
We find the more one member of the family demands that
the others concede to him, the more resentful they become.
page
122, paragraph 1, lines 12-14
1.
A doctor said the other day, "Years of living with
an alcoholic is almost sure to make any wife or child
neurotic.
2.
A doctor said to us, "Years of living with an alcoholic
is almost sure to make any wife or child neurotic.
page
122, paragraph 3, lines 2-4
1.
The family may be obsessed with the idea that future
happiness can be based only upon forgetfulness of the
past. Such a view is self-centered and in direct conflict
with the new way of life.
2.
The family may be possessed by the idea that future
happiness can be based only upon forgetfulness of the
past. We think that such a view is self-centered and
in direct conflict with the new way of living.
page
123, paragraph 4, lines 6-10
1.
We think each family which has been relieved owes something
to those who have not, and when the occasion requires,
each member of it who has found God, should be only
too willing to bring former mistakes, no matter how
grievous, out of their hiding places. Showing others
who suffer how we were given victory, is the very thing
which makes life seem so worth while to us now.
2.
We think each family which has been relieved owes something
to those who have not, and when the occasion requires,
each member of it should be only too willing to bring
former mistakes, no matter how grievous, out of their
hiding places. Showing others who suffer how we were
given help is the very thing which makes life seem so
worth while to us now.
page
124, paragraph 2, lines 2-9
1.
So our rule is that unless some good and useful purpose
is to be served, past occurrences are not discussed.
We families of Alcoholics Anonymous keep few secrets.
Everyone knows all about everyone else. This is a condition
which, in ordinary life, would produce untold grief.
There would be scandalous gossip, laughter at the expense
of other people, and a tendency to take advantage of
intimate information. Among us, these are rare occurrences.
We do talk about each other a great deal, but almost
invariably temper such talk by a spirit of love and
tolerance. We discuss another's shortcomings in the
hope that some new idea of helpfulness may come out
of the conversation. The cynic might say we are good
because we have to be.
Another rule we observe carefully is that we do not
relate intimate experiences of another person unless
we are sure he would approve.
2.
So we think that unless some good and useful purpose
is to be served, past occurrences should not be discussed.
We families of Alcoholics Anonymous keep few skeletons
in the closet. Everyone knows about the others' alcoholic
troubles. This is a condition which, in ordinary life,
would produce untold grief; there might be scandalous
gossip, laughter at the expense of other people, and
a tendency to take advantage of intimate information.
Among us, these are rare occurrences. We do talk about
each other
a
great deal, but we almost invariably temper such talk
by a spirit of love and tolerance.
Another principle we observe carefully is that we do
not relate intimate experiences of another person unless
we are sure he would approve.
page
124, paragraph 3, lines 14-16 & page 125, paragraphs
1,2, lines 1-3
1.
A man may criticize or laugh at himself and it will
affect others favorably, but criticism or ridicule of
him coming from another often produces the contrary
effect.
2.
A man may criticize or laugh at himself and it will
affect others favorably, but criticism or ridicule coming
from another often produces the contrary effect.
page
125, paragraph 2, lines 4-7
1.
We pointed out the danger he runs if he rushes headlong
at his economic problem.
2.
We think it dangerous if he rushes headlong at his economic
problem.
page
126, paragraph 1, lines 1,2
1.
They are all disappointed, and soon let him feel it.
2.
They are all disappointed, and often let him feel it.
page 126, paragraph 1, lines 11,12
1.
Mother and children don't think so. Having been wantonly
neglected and misused in the past, they think father
owes them more than they are getting.
2.
Sometimes mother and children don't think so. Having
been neglected and misused in the past, they think father
owes them more than they are getting.
page
126, paragraph 2, lines 1-3
1.
They expect him to give them the nice times they used
to have before he drank, and to show his contrition
for what they suffered. 2. They expect him to give them
the nice times they used to have before he drank so
much, and to show his contrition for what they suffered.
page
126, paragraph 2, lines 4-7
1.
This sort of thing must be stopped. Both father and
the family are wrong, though each side may have some
justification. It is of little use to argue and only
makes the impasse worse. The family must realize that
dad, though marvelously improved, is still a sick man.
They should thank God he is sober and able to be of
this world once more.
2.
This sort of thing can be avoided. Both father and the
family are mistaken, though each side may have some
justification. It is of little use to argue and only
makes the impasse worse. The family must realize that
dad, though marvelously improved, is still convalescing.
They should be thankful he is sober and able to be of
this world once more.
page
126, paragraph 3, lines 1-7
1.
We know there are difficult wives and families, but
the man who is getting over alcoholism must remember
they are sick folk took, and that he did much to make
them worse.
2.
We know there are difficult wives and families, but
the man who is getting over alcoholism must remember
he did much to make them so.
page
127, paragraph 2, lines 4-7
1.
Assume now that father has, at the outset, a stirring
spiritual experience. Overnight, as it were, he is a
changed man.
2.
Assume on the other hand that father has, at the outset,
a stirring spiritual experience. Overnight, as it were,
he is a different man.
page
128, paragraph 1, lines 1-3
1.
He may demand that the family find God for themselves
in a hurry, or exhibit amazing indifference to them
and say he is above worldly considerations. He tells
mother, who has been religious all her life, that she
doesn't know what it's all about, and that she had better
get his brand of spirituality while there is yet time.
2.
He may demand that the family find God in a hurry, or
exhibit amazing indifference to them and say he is above
worldly considerations. He may tell mother, who has
been religious all her life, that she doesn't know what
it's all about, and that she had better get his brand
of spirituality while there is yet time.
page
128, paragraph 1, lines 8-14
1.
They are jealous of a God who has stolen dad's affections.
While grateful that he drinks no more, they do not like
the idea that God has accomplished the miracle where
they failed.
2.
They may be jealous of a God who has stolen dad's affections.
While grateful that he drinks no more, they may not
like the idea that God has accomplished the miracle
where they failed.
page
128, paragraph 2, lines 2-5
1.
They do not see why their love and devotion did not
straighten him out.
2.
They may not see why their love and devotion did not
straighten him out.
page
128, paragraph 2, lines 6-8
1.
Though the family does not fully agree with dad's spiritual
activities, they should let him assume leadership.
2.
Though the family does not fully agree with dad's spiritual
activities, they should let him have his head.
page
129, paragraph 3, lines 1,2
1.
Though some of his manifestations are alarming and disagreeable,
dad will be on a firmer foundation than the man who
is placing business or professional success ahead of
spiritual development.
2.
Though some of his manifestations are alarming and disagreeable,
we think dad will be on a firmer foundation than the
man who is placing business or professional success
ahead of spiritual development.
page
129, paragraph 3, lines 7-11
1.
We have come to believe God would like us to keep our
heads in the clouds with Him, but that our feet ought
to be firmly planted on earth, nevertheless.
2.
We have come to believe He would like us to keep our
heads in the clouds with Him, but that our feet ought
to be firmly planted on earth.
page
130, paragraph 1, lines 6-8
1.
Nothing will help the man who is off on a spiritual
tangent so much as the wife who adopts the self-same
program, making a better practical use of it.
There will be still other profound changes in the household.
2.
Nothing will help the man who is off on a spiritual
tangent so much as the wife who adopts a sane spiritual
program, making a better practical use of it.
There will be other profound changes in the household.
page
130, paragraph 2, lines 6-9 paragraph 3, lines 1,2
1.
Drinking isolates most homes from the outside world,
so the family was used to having father around a great
deal. He may have laid aside for years all normal activities--clubs,
civic duties, sports.
2.
Drinking isolates most homes from the outside world.
Father may have laid aside for years all normal activities--clubs,
civic duties, sports.
page
131, paragraph 1, lines 1-3
1.
Though the family has no religious connections, they
may do well to make contact with or take membership
in a religious body.
Alcoholics who have derided religious people will sometimes
be helped by such contacts.
2.
Though the family has no religious connections, they
may wish to make contact with or take membership in
a religious body.
Alcoholics who have derided religious people will be
helped by such contacts.
page
131, paragraph 2, lines 9-11 & paragraph 3, lines
1,2
1.
If he does not argue and forget that men find God in
many ways, he will make new friends and is sure to find
new avenues of usefulness and pleasure.
2.
If he does not argue about religion, he will make new
friends and is sure to find new avenues of usefulness
and pleasure.
page
131, paragraph 3, lines 5-7
1.
As a non-denominational group, we cannot make up people's
minds for them. Each individual must consult his own
conscience.
2.
As non-denominational people, we cannot make up others'
minds for them. Each individual should consult his own
conscience.
page
131, paragraph 3, lines 13-16
1.
When we see a man sinking into the mire that is alcoholism,
we give him first aid and place everything we have at
his disposal.
2.
When we see a man sinking into the mire that is alcoholism,
we give him first aid and place what we have at his
disposal.
page
132, paragraph 1, lines 8-10
1.
We are the victors, and have been given the power to
help others.
2.
We have recovered, and have been given the power to
help others.
page
132, paragraph 2, lines 5,6
1.
We are sure God wants us to be happy, joyous, and released.
2.
We are sure God wants us to be happy, joyous, and free.
page
132, paragraph 3, lines 4,5
1.
Avoid then, the deliberate manufacture of misery, and
when trouble comes, cheerfully capitalize it as an opportunity
to demonstrate His omnipotence.
2.
Avoid then, the deliberate manufacture of misery, but
if trouble comes, cheerfully capitalize it as an opportunity
to demonstrate His omnipotence.
page
132, paragraph 3, lines 8-11
1.
omitted
2.
One of the many doctors who had the opportunity of reading
this book in manuscript form told us that the use of
sweets was often helpful, of course depending upon a
doctor's advice. He thought all alcoholics should constantly
have chocolate available for its quick energy value
at times of fatigue. He added that occasionally in the
night a vague craving arose which would be satisfied
by candy. Many of us have noticed a tendency to eat
sweets and have found this practice beneficial.
page
133, paragraph 3
1.
We do not know of any case where this difficulty lasted
long. 2. We do not know of many cases where this difficulty
lasted long. page 134, paragraph 1, lines 9,10
1.
The poor children are sometimes dominated by a pathetic
hardness and cynicism.
2.
The children are sometimes dominated by a pathetic hardness
and cynicism.
page
134, paragraph 2, lines 5-7
1.
Father had better be sparing of his correction or criticism
of them while they are in this frame of mind. He had
better not urge his new way of life on them too soon.
2.
omitted
page
134, paragraph 3
1.
When this happens, they can be invited to join in morning
meditation, then they can take part in the daily discussion
without rancor or bias.
2.
When this happens, they can be invited to join in morning
meditation and then they can take part in the daily
discussion without rancor or bias.
page
134, paragraph 3, lines 2-5
1.
Whether the family goes on a spiritual basis or not,
the alcoholic member must. The others must be convinced
of his changed life beyond a shadow of a doubt. He must
lead the way.
2.
Whether the family goes on a spiritual basis or not,
the alcoholic member has to if he would recover. The
others must be convinced of his new status beyond the
shadow of a doubt.
page
135, paragraph 1, lines 1-4
1.
Though he is now a most effective member of Alcoholics
Anonymous, he still smokes cigarettes and drinks coffee,
but neither his wife nor anyone else stands in judgment.
2.
Though he is now a most effective member of Alcoholics
Anonymous, he still smokes and drinks coffee, but neither
his wife nor anyone else stands in judgment.
page
135, paragraph 3, lines 3-6
1.
First things first! We have two little mottoes which
are apropos. Here they are: "LIVE AND LET LIVE"
and "EASY DOES IT."
2.
We have three little mottoes which are apropos.
Here
they are:
First Things First
Live and Let Live
Easy Does It.
page
135, paragraph 4
1.
One of our friends,whose gripping story you have read,
has spent much of his life in the world of big business.
2.
Among many employers nowadays, we think of one member
who has spent much of his life in the world of big business.
page
136, paragraph 1, lines 1-3
1.
Here are three exceptional men lost to this world because
I did not understand as I do now. Then I became an alcoholic
myself!
2.
Here are three exceptional men lost to this world because
I did not understand alcoholism as I do now. What an
irony--I became an alcoholic myself!
page
137, paragraph 2, lines 1-3
1.
Our business fabric is shot through with it and nothing
will stop it but better understanding all around.
You, an employer, want to understand.
2.
We think the business fabric is shot through with a
situation which might be helped by better understanding
all around.
omitted
page
137, paragraph 2, lines 9-11 & paragraph 3, line
1
1.
Because of the employee's special ability, or of his
own strong personal attachment to him, the employer
has sometimes kept such a man at work long beyond the
time he ordinary would. Some employers have tried every
known remedy. More often, however,there is very little
patience and tolerance.
2.
Because of the employee's special ability, or of his
own strong personal attachment to him, the employer
has sometimes kept such a man at work long beyond a
reasonable period. Some employers have tried every known
remedy. In only a few instances has there been a lack
of patience and tolerance.
page
137, paragraph 3, lines 6-11
1.
This seemed to me like an opportunity to be helpful.
So I spent a good two hours talking about alcoholism,
the malady. I described the symptoms and supported my
statements with plenty of evidence.
2.
This seemed to me like an opportunity to be helpful,
so I spent two hours talking about alcoholism, the malady,
and described the symptoms and results as well as I
could.
page
138, paragraph 1, lines 5-8
1.
My rejoinder was that if I could afford it, I would
bet him a hundred to one the man would go on a bigger
bust than ever. I felt this was inevitable and that
the bank was doing a possible injustice. I felt this
was inevitable and that the bank was doing the man a
possible injustice.
2.
The only answer I could make was that if the man followed
the usual pattern, he would go on a bigger bust than
ever. I felt this was inevitable and wondered if the
bank was doing the man an injustice. I felt this was
inevitable and wondered if the bank was doing the man
an injustice.
page
138, paragraph 2, lines 1-4
1.
I wanted to throw up my hands in discouragement, for
I saw that my banking acquaintance had missed the point
entirely. He simply could not believe that his brother-executive
suffered from a deadly malady. There was nothing to
do but wait.
Presently the man did slip and, of course, was fired.
Following his discharge, our group contacted him. Without
much ado, he accepted our principles and procedure.
He is undoubtedly on the road to recovery. To me, this
incident illustrates a lack of understanding and knowledge
on the part of employers--lack of understanding as to
what really ails the alcoholic, and lack of knowledge
as to what part employers might profitably take in salvaging
their sick employees.
To begin with, I think you employers would do well to
disregard your own drinking experience, or lack of it.
Whether you are a hard drinker, a moderate drinker,
or a teetotaler, you have but little notion of the inner
workings of the alcoholic mind. Instead, you may have
some pretty strong opinions, perhaps prejudices, based
your own experiences. Those of you who drink moderately
are almost certain to be more annoyed with an alcoholic
than a total abstainer would be.
2.
I wanted to throw up my hands in discouragement, for
I saw that I had failed to help my banker friend understand.
He simply could not believe that his brother-executive
suffered from a serious illness. There was nothing to
do but wait.
Presently the man did slip and was fired. Following
his discharge, we contacted him. Without much ado, he
accepted the principles and procedure that had helped
us. He is undoubtedly on the road to recovery. To me,
this incident illustrates lack of understanding as to
what really ails the alcoholic, and lack of knowledge
as to what part employers might profitably take in salvaging
their sick employees.
If you desire to help it might be well to disregard
your own drinking, or lack of it. Whether you are a
hard drinker, a moderate drinker or a teetotaler, you
may have some pretty strong opinions, perhaps prejudices.
Those who drink moderately may be more annoyed with
an alcoholic than a total abstainer would be.
page
138, paragraph 3 & page 139, paragraphs 1,2, lines
1-7
1.
When dealing with an alcoholic, you have to fight an
ingrained annoyance that he could be so weak, stupid
and irresponsible. Even when you understand the malady
better, you may still have to check this feeling and
remember that your employee is very ill, being seldom
as weak and irresponsible as he appears.
Take a look at the alcoholic in your organization. When
sober, does he not work hard and have a knack of getting
things done?
Review
his qualities and ask yourself whether he would he be
worth retaining, if sober. And do you owe him the same
obligation you feel toward other sick employees? Is
he worth salvaging? If your decision is yes, whether
the reason be humanitarian, or business, or both, then
you will wish to know what to do.
The first part has to do with you. Can you stop feeling
that you are dealing only with habit, with stubbornness,
or a weak will? If you have difficulty about that I
suggest you re-read chapters two and three of this book,
where the alcoholic sickness is discussed at length.
You, as a business man, know better than most that when
you deal with any problem, you must know what it is.
Having conceded that your employee is ill, can you forgive
him for what he has done in the past? Can you shelve
the resentment you may hold because of his past absurdities.
Can you fully appreciate that the man has been a victim
of crooked thinking, directly caused by the action of
alcohol on is brain?
I well remember the shock I received when a prominent
doctor in Chicago told me of cases where pressure of
the spinal fluid actually ruptured the brain from within.
No wonder an alcoholic is strangely irrational. Who
wouldn't be, with such a fevered brain? Normal drinkers
are not so handicapped.
Your man has probably been trying to conceal a number
of scrapes, perhaps pretty messy ones. They may disgust
you. You may be puzzled by them, being unable to understand
how such a seemingly above-board chap could be so involved.
But you can generally charge these, no matter how bad,
to the abnormal action of alcohol on his mind.
2.
When dealing with an alcoholic, there may be a natural
annoyance that a man could be so weak, stupid and irresponsible.
Even when you understand the malady better, you may
feel this feeling rising.
A look at the alcoholic in your organization is many
times illuminating. Is he not usually brilliant, fast-thinking,
imaginative and likeable? When sober, does he not work
hard and have a knack of getting things done? If he
had these qualities and did not drink would he be worth
retaining? Should he have the same consideration as
other ailing employees? Is he worth salvaging? If your
decision is yes, whether the reason be humanitarian
or business or both, then the following suggestions
may be helpful.
Can you discard the feeling that you are dealing only
with habit, with stubbornness, or a weak will? If this
presents difficulty, re-reading chapters two and three,
where the alcoholic sickness is discussed at length
might be worth while. You, as a business man, want to
know the necessities before considering the result.
If you concede that your employee is ill, can he be
forgiven for what he has done in the past? Can his past
absurdities be forgotten? Can it be appreciated that
he has been a victim of crooked thinking, directly caused
by the action of alcohol on is brain?
I well remember the shock I received when a prominent
doctor in Chicago told me of cases where pressure of
the spinal fluid actually ruptured the brain. No wonder
an alcoholic is strangely irrational. Who wouldn't be,
with such a fevered brain? Normal drinkers are not so
affected, nor can they understand the aberrations of
the alcoholic.
Your man has probably been trying to conceal a number
of scrapes, perhaps pretty messy ones. They may be disgusting.
You may be at a loss to understand how such a seemingly
above-board chap could be so involved. But these scrapes
can generally be charged, no matter how bad, to the
abnormal action of alcohol on his mind.
page
139, paragraphs 3,4 & page 140, paragraphs 1-3,
lines 1-7
1.
Nearly always, these antics indicate nothing more than
temporary aberrations, and you should so threat them.
2.
Nearly always, these antics indicate nothing more than
temporary conditions.
page
140, paragraph 3, lines 10,11
1.
Of course that isn't so, and you will have to be careful
that such people don't impose on you.
2.
Of course that isn't so, and such people often may impose
on you.
page
141, paragraph 1, lines 2,3
1.
If you make a start, you should be prepared to go the
limit, not in the sense that any great expense or trouble
is to be expected, but rather in the matter of your
own attitude, your understanding treatment of the case.
2.
Your understanding treatment of their cases will pay
dividends.
page
141, paragraph 2, lines 2,3
1.
You know something of alcoholism. You see that he is
mentally and physically sick. You are willing to overlook
his past performances. Suppose you call the man in and
go at him like this:
Hit him point blank with the thought that you know all
about his drinking, that it must stop. Say you appreciate
his abilities, would like to keep him, but cannot if
he continues to drink. That you mean just what you say.
And you should mean it too!
Next, assure him that you are not proposing to lecture,
moralize, or condemn; that if you have done so formerly,
it is because you misunderstood. Say, if you possibly
can, that you have no hard feeling toward him. At this
point, bring out the idea of alcoholism, the sickness.
Enlarge on that fully. Remark that you have been looking
into the matter. You are sure of what you say, hence
your change of attitude, hence your willingness to deal
with the problem as through it were a disease. You are
willing to look at your man as a gravely-ill person,
with this qualification--being perhaps fatally ill,
does your man want to get well, and right now? 2. You
now know more about alcoholism. You can see that he
is mentally and physically sick. You are willing to
overlook his past performances. Suppose an approach
is made something like this:
State that you know about his drinking, and that it
must stop. You might say you appreciate his abilities,
would like to keep him, but cannot if he continues to
drink. A firm attitude at this point has helped many
of us.
Next he can be assured that you do not intend to lecture,
moralize, or condemn; that if this was done formerly,
it was because of misunderstanding. If possible express
a lack of hard feeling toward him. At this point, it
might be well to explain alcoholism, the illness. Say
that you believe he is a gravely ill person, with this
qualification--being perhaps fatally ill, does he want
to get well?
page
141, paragraphs 3,4 & page 142, paragraph 1, lines
1-8
1.
Probe your man thoroughly on these points.
2.
We believe a man should be thoroughly probed on these
points.
page
142, paragraph 2, lines 4,5
1.
Not a word about this book unless you are sure you ought
to introduce it at this juncture. If he temporizes and
still thinks he can ever drink again, even beer, you
may as well discharge him
after
the next bender which, if an alcoholic, he is almost
certain to have. Tell him that emphatically and mean
it!
2.
Whether you mention this book is a matter for your discretion.
If he temporizes and still thinks he can ever drink
again, even beer, he might as well discharged after
the next bender which, if an alcoholic, he is almost
certain to have. He should understand that emphatically.
page
142, paragraph 3, lines 1-6
1.
Some physicians favor cutting off the liquor sharply,
and prefer to use little or no sedative. This may be
wise in some instances, but for the most of us it is
a barbaric torture. For severe cases, some doctors prefer
a slower tapering-down process, followed by a health
farm or sanitarium. Other doctors prefer a few days
of de-toxication, removal of poisons from the system
by cathartics, belladonna, and the like followed by
a week of mild exercise and rest. Having tried them
all, I personally favor the latter, though the matter
of physical treatment should of course be referred to
your own doctor. Whatever the method, its object should
be to thoroughly clear mind and body of the effects
of alcohol. In competent hands, this seldom takes long
nor should it be very expensive. Your man is entitled
to be placed in such physical condition that he can
think straight and no longer physically craves liquor.
These handicaps must be removed if you are going to
give him the chance you want him to have. Propose such
a procedure to him. Offer to advance the cost of treatment,
if necessary, but make it plain that any expense will
later be deducted from his pay. Make him fully responsible;
it is much better for him.
When your man accepts your offer, point out that physical
treatment is but a small part of the picture.
2.
The matter of physical treatment should, of course,
be referred to your own doctor. Whatever the method,
its object is to thoroughly clear mind and body of the
effects of alcohol. In competent hands, this seldom
takes long nor is it very expensive. Your man will fare
better if placed in such physical condition that he
can think straight and no longer craves liquor. If you
propose such a procedure to him, it may be necessary
to advance the cost of treatment, but we believe it
should be made plain that any expense will later be
deducted from his pay. It is better for him to feel
fully responsible.
If your man accepts your offer, it should be pointed
out that physical treatment is but a small part of the
picture.
page
142, paragraph 4, lines 6-18 & page 143, paragraph
1, lines 1-3
1.
He must place recovery above everything, even home and
business, for without recovery he will lose both.
Show that you have every confidence in his ability to
recover. While on the subject of confidence, tell him
that so far as you are concerned, this will be a strictly
personal matter. That his alcoholic derelictions, the
treatment about to be undertaken, will never be discussed
without his consent? Cordially wish him success and
say you want to have a long chat with him on his return.
To return to the subject matter of this book: It contains,
as you have seen, full directions by which your employee
may solve his problem. To you, some of the ideas which
it contains are novel. Perhaps some of them don't make
sense to you. Possibly you are not quite in sympathy
with the approach we suggest. By no means do we offer
it as the last word on this subject, but so far as we
are concerned, it has been the best word so far. Our
approach often does work. After all, you are looking
for results rather than methods. Whether your employee
likes it or not, he will learn the grim truth about
alcoholism. That won't hurt him a bit though he does
not go for the remedy at first.
I suggest you draw our book to the attention of the
doctor who is to attend your patient during treatment.
Ask that the book be read the moment the patient is
able--while he is acutely depressed, if possible.
The doctor should approve a spiritual approach. And
besides, he ought to tell the patient the truth about
his condition, whatever that happens to be. The doctor
should encourage him to acquire a spiritual experience.
At this stage it will be just as well if the doctor
does not mention you in connection with the book. Above
all, neither you, the doctor, nor anyone should place
himself in the position of telling the man he must abide
by the contents of this volume. The man must decide
for himself. You cannot command him, you can only encourage.
And you will surely agree that is may be better to withhold
any criticism you may have of our method until you see
whether it works.
You are betting, of course, that your changed attitude
and the contents of this book will turn the trick. In
some cases it will, and in others it may not. But we
think that if you persist, the percentage of successes
will gratify you. When our work spreads and our numbers
increase, we hope your employees may be put in personal
contact with some of us, which, needless to say, will
be more effective. Meanwhile, we are sure a great deal
can be accomplished if you will follow the suggestions
of this chapter.
On your employee's return, call him in and ask what
happened. Ask him if he thinks he has the answer. Get
him to tell you how he thinks it will work, and what
he has to do about it. Make him feel free to discuss
his problems with you, if he cares to. Show him you
understand and that you will not be upset by anything
he wishes to say.
In this connection, it is important that you remain
undisturbed if the man proceeds to tell you things which
shock you. He may, for example, reveal that he has padded
his expense account or that he has planned to take your
best customers away from you. In fact, he may say almost
anything if he has accepted our solution which, as you
know, demands rigorous honesty. Charge this off as you
would a bad account and start fresh with him. If he
owes you money, make terms which are reasonable. From
this point on, never rake up the past unless he wants
to discuss it.
If he speaks of his home situation, be patient and make
helpful suggestions. Let him see that he talk frankly
with you so long as he does not bear tales or criticize
others. With the kind of employee you want to keep,
such an attitude will command undying loyalty.
The greatest enemies of the alcoholic are resentment,
jealousy, envy, frustration, and fear. Wherever men
are gathered together in business there will be rivalries
and, arising out of these, a certain amount of office
politics. Sometimes the alcoholic has an idea that people
are trying to pull him down. Often this is not so at
all. But sometimes his drinking will be used as a basis
of criticism.
One instance comes to mind in which a malicious individual
was always making friendly little jokes of an alcoholic's
drinking exploits. In another case, an alcoholic was
sent to a hospital for treatment. Only a few knew of
it at first but, within a short time, it was billboarded
throughout the entire company. Naturally this sort of
thing decreases a man's chance of recovery. The employer
should make it his business to protect the victim from
this kind of talk if he can. The employer should make
it his business to protect the victim from this kind
of talk if he can. The employer cannot play favorites,
but he can always try to defend a man from needless
provocation and unfair criticism.
As a class, alcoholics are energetic people. They work
hard and they play hard. Your man will be on his mettle
to make good. Being somewhat weakened, and faced with
physical and mental readjustment to life which knows
no alcohol, he may overdo. Don't let him work sixteen
hours a day just because he wants to. Encourage him
to play once in a while. Make it possible for him to
do so. He may wish to do a lot for other alcoholics
and something of the sort may come up during business
hours. Don't begrudge him a reasonable amount of time.
This work is necessary to maintain his sobriety.
After your man has gone along without drinking a few
months, try to make use of his services with other employees
who are giving you the alcoholic run-around--provided,
of course, they are willing to have a third party in
the picture. Don't hesitate to let an alcoholic who
has recovered, but holds a relatively unimportant job,
talk to a man with a better position. Being on a radically
different basis of life, he will never take advantage
of the situation.
You must trust your man. Long experience with alcoholic
excuses naturally makes you suspicious. When his wife
next calls saying he is sick, don't jump to the conclusion
he is drunk. If he is, and is still trying to recover
upon our basis, he will presently tell you about it,
even if it means the loss of his job. For he knows he
must be honest if he would live at all. Let him see
you are not bothering your head about him at all, that
you are not suspicious, nor are you trying to run his
life so he will be shielded from temptation to drink.
If he is conscientiously following the Program of Recovery
he can go anywhere your business may call him. Do not
promote him, however, until you are sure.
2.
We all had to place recovery above everything, for without
recovery we would have lost both home and business.
Can you have every confidence in his ability to recover?
While on the subject of confidence, can you adopt the
attitude that so far as you are concerned this will
be a strictly personal matter, that his alcoholic derelictions,
the treatment about to be undertaken, will never be
discussed without his consent? It might be well to have
a long chat with him on his return.
To return to the subject matter of this book: It contains
full suggestions by which the employee may solve his
problem. To you, some of the ideas which it contains
are novel. Perhaps you are not quite in sympathy with
the approach we suggest. By no means do we offer it
as the last word on this subject, but so far as we are
concerned, it has worked with us. After all, are you
not looking for results rather than methods? Whether
your employee likes it or not, he will learn the grim
truth about alcoholism. That won't hurt him a bit, even
though he does not go for this remedy.
We suggest you draw the book to the attention of the
doctor who is to attend your patient during treatment.
If the book is read the moment the patient is able,
while acutely depressed, realization of his condition
may come to him.
We hope the doctor will tell the patient the truth about
his condition, whatever that happens to be. When the
man is presented with this volume it is best that no
one tell him he must abide by its suggestions. The man
must decide for himself.
You are betting, of course, that your changed attitude
plus the contents of this book will turn the trick.
In some cases it will, and in others it may not. But
we think that if you persevere, the percentage of successes
will gratify you. As our work spreads and our numbers
increase, we hope your employees may be put in personal
contact with some of us. Meanwhile, we are sure a great
deal can be accomplished by the use of the book alone.
On your employee's return, talk with him. Ask him if
he thinks he has the answer. If he feels free to discuss
his problems with you, if he knows you understand and
will not be upset by anything he wishes to say, he will
probably be off to a fast start.
In this connection, can you remain undisturbed if the
man proceeds to tell you shocking things? He may, for
example, reveal that he has padded his expense account
or that he has planned to take your best customers away
from you. In fact, he may say almost anything if he
has accepted our solution which, as you know, demands
rigorous honesty. Can you charge this off as you would
a bad account and start fresh with him? If he owes you
money you may wish to make terms.
If he speaks of his home situation, you can undoubtedly
make helpful suggestions. Can he talk frankly with you
so long as he does not bear business tales or criticize
his associates? With this kind of employee such an attitude
will command undying loyalty.
The greatest enemies of us alcoholics are resentment,
jealousy, envy, frustration, and fear. Wherever men
are gathered together in business there will be rivalries
and, arising out of these, a certain amount of office
politics. Sometimes we alcoholics have an idea that
people are trying to pull us down. Often this is not
so at all. But sometimes our drinking will be used politically.
One instance comes to mind in which a malicious individual
was always making friendly little jokes about an alcoholic's
drinking exploits. In this way he was slyly carrying
tales. In another case, an alcoholic was sent to a hospital
for treatment. Only a few knew of it at first but, within
a short time, it was billboarded throughout the entire
company. Naturally this sort of thing decreased the
man's chance of recovery. The employer can many times
protect the victim from this kind of talk. The employer
cannot play favorites, but he can always defend a man
from needless provocation and unfair criticism.
As a class, alcoholics are energetic people. They work
hard and they play hard. Your man should be on his mettle
to make good. Being somewhat weakened, and faced with
physical and mental readjustment to life which knows
no alcohol, he may overdo. You may have to curb his
desire to work sixteen hours a day. You may need to
encourage him to play once in a while. He may wish to
do a lot for other alcoholics and something of the sort
may come up during business hours. A reasonable amount
of latitude will be helpful. This work is necessary
to maintain his sobriety.
After your man has gone along without drinking for a
few months, you may be able to make use of his services
with other employees who are giving you the alcoholic
run-around--provided, of course, they are willing to
have a third party in the picture. An alcoholic who
has recovered, but holds a relatively unimportant job,
can talk to a man with a better position. Being on a
radically different basis of life, he will never take
advantage of the situation.
Your man may be trusted. Long experience with alcoholic
excuses naturally arouses suspicion. When his wife next
calls saying he is sick, you might jump to the conclusion
he is drunk. If he is, and is still trying to recover,
he will tell you about it even if it means the loss
of his job. For he knows he must be honest if he would
live at all. He will appreciate knowing you are not
bothering your head about him, that you are not suspicious
nor are you trying to run his life so he will be shielded
from temptation to drink. If he is conscientiously following
the program of recovery he can go anywhere your business
may call him.
page
143, paragraph 1, lines 7-9, paragraph 2, pages 144-146
1.
But you should feel under no obligation to do so, for
your obligation has been well discharged already. In
any event, don't
let
him fool you, and don't let sentiment get the better
of you if you are sure he ought to go.
2.
But you should feel under no obligation to keep him
on, for your obligation has been well discharged already.
page
147, paragraph 1, lines 6-8
1.
There is another thing you might do.
2.
There is another thing you might wish to do.
page
147 paragraph 2, line 1
1.
The firm wants to help you get over it, and if you are
interested. There is a way out, and I hope you have
sense enough to try it.
2.
The firm wants to help you get over it, and if you are
interested, there is a way out.
page
147, paragraph 3, lines 7-9
1.
After reading this book, a junior executive can go to
such a man and say, "Look here, Ed.
2.
After reading this book, a junior executive can go to
such a man and say approximately this, "Look here,
Ed.
page
147, paragraph 3, lines 1-3
1.
The firm wants to help you get over it, and if you are
interested. There is a way out, and I hope you have
sense enough to try it. If you do, your past will be
forgotten and the fact that you went away for treatment
will not be mentioned.
2.
The firm wants to help you get over it, and if you are
interested, there is a way out. If you take it, your
past will be forgotten and the fact that you went away
for treatment will not be mentioned.
page
147, paragraph 3, lines 7-11
1.
We think this method of approach will accomplish several
things for you. It will enable you to restore good men
to useful activity.
2.
We think this method of approach will accomplish several
things. It will permit the rehabilitation of good men.
page
148, paragraph 3, lines 1-3
1.
Alcoholism may be causing your organization considerable
damage in its waste of money, men and reputation. We
do not expect you to become a missionary, attempting
to save all who happen to be alcoholic. Being a business
man is enough these days. But we can sensibly urge that
you stop this waste and give your worth-while man a
chance.
2.
Alcoholism may be causing your organization considerable
damage in its waste of time, men and reputation. We
hope our suggestions will help you plug up this sometimes
serious leak. We think we are sensible when we urge
that you stop this waste and give your worthwhile man
a chance.
page
148, paragraph 3, lines 5-10
1.
But alcoholism--well, they just don't have that.
2.
But alcoholism--well, they just don't believe they have
it.
page
148, paragraph 3, lines 13,14
1.
Perhaps this is a guess, but we have a hunch it's a
good one. If you feel your organization has no alcoholic
problem, you might well take another look down the line.
2.
Even if you feel your organization has no alcoholic
problem, it might pay to take another look down the
line.
page
149, paragraph 1, lines 9-12
1.
As to them, his policy is probably sound, but as you
see, he does not distinguish between such people and
the alcoholic.
2.
As to them, his policy is undoubtedly sound, but he
did not distinguish between such people and the alcoholic.
page
149, paragraph 1, lines 4-6
1.
Being a business man, you might like to have a summary
of this chapter. Here it Is:
One:
Acquaint yourself with the nature of alcoholism.
Two:
Be prepared to discount and forget your man's past.
Three:
Confidentially offer him medical treatment and
cooperation, provided you think he wants to stop.
Four:
Have the alcohol thoroughly removed from his system
and give him a suitable chance to recover physically.
Five:
Have the doctor in attendance present him with this
book, but don't cram it down his throat.
Six:
Have a frank talk with him when he gets back from his
treatment, assuring him of your full support, encouraging
him to say anything he wishes about himself, and making
it clear the past will not be held against him.
Seven:
Ask him to place recovery from alcoholism ahead of all
else.
Eight:
Don't let him overwork.
Nine:
Protect him, when justified, from malicious gossip.
Ten:
If, after you have shot the works, he will not stop,
then let him go.
2.
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page
149, paragraph 4
1.
It is not to be expected that you give your alcoholic
employee a disproportionate amount of time and attention.
He is not to be made a favorite.
2.
It is not to be expected that an alcoholic employee
will receive a disproportionate amount of time and attention.
He should not be made a favorite.
page
149, paragraph 3, lines 1-3
1.
They have a better way of life, and they have been saved
from a living death.
2.
They have a new attitude, and they have been saved from
a living death.
page
149, paragraph 4, lines 3,4
1.
You, Mr. Employer, may have the same experience!*
2.
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page
149, paragraph 4,line 6
1.
*See appendix--The Alcoholics Foundation. We may be
able to carry on a limited correspondence.
2.
*See appendix VI--We shall be happy to hear from you
if we can be of help.
page
150, note
1.
There was an insistent yearning to enjoy as we once
did and a heartbreaking obsession that some new miracle
of control would enable us to do it.
2.
There was an insistent yearning to enjoy life as we
once did and a heartbreaking obsession that some new
miracle of control would enable us to do it.
page
151, paragraph 1, lines 8-11
1.
As ex-alcoholics, we smile at such a sally.
2.
As ex-problem drinkers, we smile at such a sally.
page
151, paragraph 4, lines 3,4
1.
These are to be your companions.
2.
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page
152, paragraph 4, line 4
1.
The practical answer is that since these things have
happened among us, they can happen again. Should you
wish them above all else, and should you be willing
to make us of our experience, we are sure they will
come.
2.
The practical answer is that since these things have
happened among us, they can happen with you. Should
you wish them above all else, and be willing to make
us of our experience, we are sure they will come.
page
153, paragraph 1, lines 4-8
1.
Our hope is that then this chip of a book is launched
on the world tide of alcoholism, defeated drinkers will
seize upon it, following its directions.
2.
Our hope is that then this chip of a book is launched
on the world tide of alcoholism, defeated drinkers will
seize upon it, to follow its suggestions.
page
153, paragraph 2, lines 1-3
1.
They will approach still other sick ones and so the
Fellowship of Alcoholics Anonymous may spring up in
each city and hamlet, havens for those who must find
a way out.
2.
They will approach still other sick ones and Fellowships
of Alcoholics Anonymous may spring up in each city and
hamlet, havens for those who must find a way out.
page
153, paragraph 2, lines 5-8
1.
Nearly four years ago, one of our number made a journey
to a certain western city.
2.
Years ago, in 1935, one of our number made a journey
to a certain western city.
page
153, paragraph 4, lines 1,2
1.
Little could he foresee what that simple decision was
to mean. How could anyone guess that life and happiness
for many was to depend on whether one depressed man
entered a phone booth or a bar? 2. omitted
page
155, paragraph 1, lines 1-3
1.
It was the usual situation: home in jeopardy, wife ill,
children distracted, bills in arrears, and reputation
damaged.
2.
It was the usual situation: home in jeopardy, wife ill,
children distracted, bills in arrears and standing damaged.
page
155, paragraph 1, lines 4-6
1.
He told how he lived in constant worry about creditors
and others who might find out about his alcoholism.
2.
He told how he lived in constant worry about those who
might find out about his alcoholism.
page
155, paragraph 2, lines 5-7
1.
Why, he argued, should he lose the remainder of his
business, so bringing still more suffering to his family
by foolishly admitting his plight to his creditors and
those from whom he made his livelihood?
2.
Why, he argued, should he lose the remainder of his
business, only to bring still more suffering to his
family by foolishly admitting his plight to people from
whom he made his livelihood?
page
154, paragraph 2, lines 9-12
1.
As we shall see, he now means a great deal to his community,
and the major liabilities of thirty years of hard drinking
have been repaired in four.
2.
As we shall see, he now means a great deal to his community,
and the major liabilities of thirty years of hard drinking
have been repaired in less than four.
page
156, paragraph 2, lines 2-5
1.
But he's a grand chap when he's sober, though he's been
in here six times in the last four months.
2.
But he's a grand chap when he's sober, though he's been
in here eight times in the last six months.
page
156, paragraph 4, lines 3-5
1.
Many a distracted wife has visited this house to find
loving and understanding companionship among women who
knew their problem, to hear from the lips of men like
their husbands what had happened to them, to be advised
how her own wayward mate might be hospitalized and approached
when next he stumbled.
2.
Many a distracted wife has visited this house to find
loving and understanding companionship among women who
knew her problem, to hear from the lips of their husbands
what had happened to them, to be advised how her own
wayward mate might be hospitalized and approached when
next he stumbled.
page
160, paragraph 1, lines 5-11
1.
But life among Alcoholics Anonymous is more than attending
meetings and visiting hospitals.
2.
But life among Alcoholics Anonymous is more than attending
gatherings and visiting hospitals.
page
161, paragraph 2, lines 1,2
1.
Four years ago one of our number was a patient there.
2.
Six years ago one of our number was a patient there.
page
161, paragraph 3, lines 4,5
1.
We are greatly indebted to the doctor in attendance
there, for he, although it might prejudice his own work,
has told us his belief in our work.
2.
We are greatly indebted to the doctor in attendance
there, for he, although it might prejudice his own work,
has told us of his belief in ours.
page
161, paragraph 3, lines 7-9
1.
Then, in this eastern city, there are informal meetings
such as we have described to you, where you may see
thirty or forty, there are the same fast friendships,
there is the same helpfulness to one another as you
find among our western friends.
2.
Then, in this eastern city, there are informal meetings
such as we have described to you, where you may now
see scores of members. There are the same fast friendships,
there is the same helpfulness to one another as y western friends.
page
162, paragraph 1, lines 5-10
1.
We know a former alcoholic who was living alone in a
large community.
2.
We know of an A.A. member who was living in a large
community.
page
163, paragraph 2, lines 1,2
1.
This was only a few days ago at this writing.
2.
This was only a few days ago at this writing. (1939)
page
163, paragraph 2, lines 5,6
1.
Agreeing with many competent and informed physicians,
he said he could do little or nothing for the average
alcoholic.
2.
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page
163, paragraph 2, line 11
1.
*See appendix--The Alcoholic Foundation. It may be we
shall be able to carry on a limited correspondence.
2.
*Alcoholics Anonymous will be glad to hear from you.
Address P.O. Box 459, Grand Central Station, New York,
NY 10163.
page
164, note
1.
THE ALCOHOLIC FOUNDATION
In our text we have shown the alcoholic how he can recover
but we realize that many will want to write us directly.
To receive these inquiries, to administer royalties
from this book and such other funds as may come to hand,
a Trust has been created known as The Alcoholic Foundation.
Three Trustees are members of Alcoholics Anonymous,
the other four are well-known business and professional
men who have volunteered their services. The Trust states
these four (who are not of Alcoholics Anonymous) or
their successors, shall always constitute a majority
of the Board of Trustees.
We must frankly state however, that under present conditions,
we may be unable to reply to all inquiries, as our members,
in their spare time, will attend to most of the correspondence.
Nevertheless we shall strenuously attempt to communicate
with those men and women who are able to report that
they are staying sober and working with other alcoholics.
Once we have such an active nucleus, we can then refer
to them those inquiries which originate in their respective
localities. Starting with small but active centers created
in this fashion, we are confident that fellowships will
spring up and grow very much as they have among us.
Meanwhile, we hope the Foundation will become more useful
to all.
The Alcoholic Foundation is our only agency of its kind.
We have agreed that all business engagements touching
on our alcoholic work shall have the approval of its
trustees. People who state they represent The Alcoholic
Foundation should be asked for credentials and if unsatisfactory,
these ought to be checked with the Foundation at once.
We welcome inquiry by scientific, medical and religious
societies.
This volume is published by the Works Publishing Company,
organized and financed mostly by small donations of
our members. This company donates the customary royalties
from each copy of Alcoholics Anonymous to The Alcoholic
Foundation.
To order this book, send your check or money order for
$3.50 to:
The Works Publishing Company,
17 William Street
Newark, N.J.
The
notations on the following pages were added to the printing:
16, 25, 27, 34, 47, 104, 121, 155, 156, 161, 162.
STORIES IN THE FIRST EDITION
THE
DOCTOR'S NIGHTMARE
THE
UNBELIEVER
THE
EUROPEAN DRINKER
A
FEMININE VICTORY
OUR
SOUTHERN FRIEND
A
BUSINESS SLANT
TRAVELLER,
EDITOR, SCHOLAR
THE
BACK-SLIDER
HOME
BREWMEISTER
THE
SEVENTH MONTH SLIP
MY
WIFE AND I
A
WARD OF THE PROBATE COURT
RIDING
THE RODS
THE
SALESMAN
FIRED
AGAIN
THE
FEARFUL ONE
SMILE
WITH ME, AT ME
A
CLOSE SHAVE
EDUCATED
AGNOSTIC
ANOTHER
PRODIGAL STORY
THE
CAR SMASHER
HINDSIGHT
ON
HIS WAY
AN
ALCOHOLIC'S WIFE
AN
ARTIST'S CONCEPT
THE
ROLLING STONE
NOW
WE ARE THOUSANDS
APPENDIX
STORIES IN THE SECOND EDITION
PIONEERS OF A.A.
DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE
1.
ALCOHOLIC ANONYMOUS NUMBER THREE
2.
HE HAD TO BE SHOWN
3.
HE THOUGHT HE COULD DRINK LIKE A GENTLEMAN
4.
WOMEN SUFFER TOO
5.
THE EUROPEAN DRINKER
6.
THE VICIOUS CYCLE
7.
THE NEWS HAWK
8.
FROM FARM TO CITY
9.
THE MAN WHO MASTERED FEAR
10.
HE SOLD HIMSELF SHORT
11.
HOME BREWMEISER
12.
THE KEYS OF THE KINGDOM
THEY STOPPED IN TIME
1.
RUM, RADIO AND REBELLION
2.
FEAR OF FEAR
3.
THE PROFESSOR AND THE PARADOX
4.
A FLOWER OF THE SOUTH
5.
UNTO THE SECOND GENERATION
6.
HIS CONSCIENCE
7.
THE HOUSEWIFE WHO DRANK AT HOME
8.
IT MIGHT HAVE BEEN WORSE
9.
PHYSICIAN, HEAL THYSELF!
10.
STARS DON'T FALL
11.
ME AN ALCOHOLIC?
12.
NEW VISION FOR A SCULPTOR
THEY NEARLY LOST ALL
1.
JOE'S WOES
2.
OUR SOUTHERN FRIEND
3.
JIM'S STORY
4.
PROMOTED TO CHRONIC
5.
THE PRISONER FREED
6.
THERE'S NOTHING THE MATTER WITH ME?
7.
DESPERATION DRINKING
8.
ANNIE THE COP FIGHTER
9.
THE CAREER OFFICER
10.
THE INDEPENDENT BLONDE
11.
HE WHO LOSES HIS LIFE
12.
FREEDOM FROM BONDAGE
APPENDICES
1.
THE A.A. TRADITION
2.
SPIRITUAL EXPERIENCE
3.
THE MEDICAL VIEW OF A.A.
4.
THE LASKER AWARD
5.
THE RELIGIOUS VIEW OF A.A.
STORIES IN THE THIRD EDITION
PIONEERS OF A.A.
DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE
1.
ALCOHOLIC ANONYMOUS NUMBER THREE
2.
HE HAD TO BE SHOWN
3.
HE THOUGHT HE COULD DRINK LIKE A GENTLEMAN
4.
WOMEN SUFFER TOO
5.
THE EUROPEAN DRINKER
6.
THE VICIOUS CYCLE
7.
THE NEWS HAWK
8.
FROM FARM TO CITY
9.
THE MAN WHO MASTERED FEAR
10.
HE SOLD HIMSELF SHORT
11.
HOME BREWEISTER
12.
THE KEYS OF THE KINGDOM
THEY STOPPED IN TIME
1.
TOO YOUNG?
2.
FEAR OF FEAR
3.
THOSE GOLDEN YEARS
4.
THE HOUSEWIFE WHO DRANK AT HOME
5.
LIFE SAVING WORDS
6.
PHYSICIAN, HEAL THYSELF!
7.
A TEEN-AGER'S DECISION
8.
RUM, RADIO AND REBELLION
9.
ANY DAY WAS WASHDAY
10.
IT MIGHT HAVE BEEN WORSE
11.
A FLOWER OF THE SOUTH
12.
CALCULATING THE COSTS
13.
STARS DON'T FALL
14.
GROWING UP ALL OVER AGAIN
15.
UNTO THE SECOND GENERATION
16.
ME AN ALCOHOLIC?
17.
DOCTOR, ALCOHOLIC, ADDICT
THEY NEARLY LOST ALL
1.
A FIVE-TIME LOSER
2.
PROMOTED TO CHRONIC
3.
JOIN THE TRIBE!
4.
BELLE OF THE BAR
5.
JIM'S STORY
6.
OUR SOUTHERN FRIEND
7.
THE PRISONER FREED
8.
DESPERATION DRINKING
9.
THE CAREER OFFICER
10.
ANOTHER CHANCE
11.
HE WHO LOSES HIS LIFE
12.
FREEDOM FROM BONDAGE
13.
A.A. TAUGHT HIM TO HANDLE SOBRIETY
APPENDICES
1.
THE A.A. TRADITION
2.
SPIRITUAL EXPERIENCE
3.
THE MEDICAL VIEW OF A.A.
4.
THE LASKER AWARD
5.
THE RELIGIOUS VIEW OF A.A.
6.
HOW TO GET IN TOUCH WITH A.A.
SELECTED PORTIONS OF
THE PRE-PUBLICATION MANUSCRIPT
COMPARED WITH
THE BOOK ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS
3RD EDITION
1.
Shows how the text as it appeared in the pre-publication
manuscript.
2.
Shows how the text appears in the third edition. The
portions of the text which were modified are underlined.
Page information references the 3rd edition
1.
To show other alcoholics PRECISELY HOW THEY CAN RECOVER
is the main purpose of this book.
2.
To show other alcoholics precisely how we have recovered
is the main purpose of this book.
page
xiii, paragraph 1, lines 1-3
1.
(Signed) - - - - - M.D.
2.
William D. Silkworth,M.D.
page
xxiv, paragraph 3, line 2
1.
But as ex-alcoholics, we can say that his explanation
makes good sense.
2.
But as ex-problem drinkers, we can say that his explanation
makes good sense.
page
xxiv, paragraph 3, lines 3-5
1.
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2.
William D. Silkworth, M.D.
page
xxx
1.
Most of us feel we need look no further for Utopia,
nor even for Heaven.
2.
Most of us feel we need look no further for Utopia.
page
16, paragraph 3, line 1
1.
But the ex-alcoholic who had found this solution, who
is properly armed with certain medical information,
can generally win the entire confidence of another alcoholic
in a few hours.
2.
But the ex-problem drinker who had found this solution,
who is properly armed with facts about himself, can
generally win the entire confidence of another alcoholic
in a few hours.
page
18, paragraph 4, lines 1-4
1.
Our very lives, as ex-alcoholics, depend upon our constant
thought of others and how we may help meet their needs.
2.
Our very lives, as ex-problem drinkers, depend upon
our constant thought of others and how we may help meet
their needs.
page
19, paragraph 4, lines 10-12
1.
That may be true of certain nonalcoholic people who,
though
drinking
foolishly and heavily at the present time, are able
to
stop
or moderate, because their brains and bodies have not
been warped and degenerated as ours were.
2.
That may be true of certain nonalcoholic people who,
though drinking foolishly and heavily at the present
time, are able to stop or moderate, because their brains
and bodies have not been damaged as ours were.
page
39, paragraph 1, lines 1-5
1.
They piled on me heaps of medical evidence to the effect
that an alcoholic mentality, such as I had exhibited
in Washington, was a hopeless condition.
2.
They piled on me heaps of evidence to the effect that
an alcoholic mentality, such as I had exhibited in Washington,
was a hopeless condition.
page
42, paragraph 1, lines 5-8
1.
To be doomed to an alcoholic hell or "saved"
-- not easy alternatives to face.
2.
To be doomed to an alcoholic death or to live on a spiritual
basis are not always easy alternatives to face.
page
44, paragraph 2, lines 4-6
1.
Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly
followed our directions.
2.
Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly
followed our path.
page
58, paragraph 1, lines 1,2
1.
If you have decided you want what we have and are willing
to go to any length to get it--then you are ready to
follow directions.
2.
If you have decided you want what we have and are willing
to go to any length to get it--then you are ready to
take certain steps.
page
58, paragraph 2, lines 3-5
1.
Remember that you are dealing with alcohol--cunning,
baffling, powerful! Without help it is too much for
you. But there is One who has all power--that One is
God. You must find Him now!
Half measures will avail you nothing. You stand at the
turning point. Throw yourself under His protection and
care with compete abandon.
Now we think you can take it: Here are the steps we
took, which are suggested as a program of recovery:
2.
Remember that we deal with alcohol--cunning, baffling,
powerful! Without help it is too much for us. But there
is One who has all power--that One is God. May you find
Him now!
Half measures availed us nothing. We stood at the turning
point. We asked His protection and care with compete
abandon.
Here are the steps we took, which are suggested as a
program of recovery:
page
58, paragraph 4 & page 59, paragraphs 1,2
1.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over
to the care and direction of God as we understood Him.
2.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over
to the care of God as we understood Him.
page
59, step 3
1.
7. Humbly, on our knees, asked Him to remove our shortcomings--holding
nothing back.
2.
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
page
59, step 7
1.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became
willing to make complete amends to them all.
2.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became
willing to make amends to them all.
page
59, step 8
1.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve
our contact with God, praying only for knowledge of
His will for us and the power to carry that out.
2.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve
our conscious contact with God as we understood Him,
praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the
power to carry that out.
page
59, step 11
1.
12. Having had a spiritual experience as the result
of this course of action, we tried to carry this message
to others, especially alcoholics, and to practice these
principles in all our affairs.
2.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of
these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics,
and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
page
60, step 12
1.
Our description of the alcoholic, the chapter to the
agnostic, and our personal adventures before and after,
have been designed to sell you clear three pertinent
ideas:
(a) That you are alcoholic and could not manage your
own life.
(b) That probably no human power can relieve your alcoholism.
(c) That God can and will.
2.
Our description of the alcoholic, the chapter to the
agnostic, and our personal adventures before and after
make clear three pertinent ideas:
(a) That we were alcoholic and could not manage our
own lives.
(b) That probably no human power could have relieved
our alcoholism.
(c) That God could and would if He were sought.
page
60, paragraph 2
1.
If you a are not convinced on these vital issues, you
ought to re-read the book to this point or else throw
it away!
2.
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page
60, paragraph 3, right after (c) above
1.
This is the how and why of it. First of all, quit playing
God yourself. It doesn't work. Next, decide that hereafter
in this drama of life, God is going to be your Director.
He is the Principal; you are to be His agent. He is
the Father, and you are His child. Get that simple relationship
straight. Most good ideas are simple, and this concept
is to be the keystone of the new and triumphant arch
through which you will pass to freedom.
2.
This the how and why of it. First of all, we had to
quit playing God. It didn't work. Next, we decided that
hereafter in this drama of life, God was going to be
our Director. He is the Principal; we are His agents.
He is the Father, and we are His children. Most good
ideas are simple, and this concept was the keystone
of the new and triumphant arch through which we passed
to freedom.
page
62, paragraphs 3, lines 1,2
1.
Get down upon your knees and say to your Maker, as you
understand
Him:
2.
We were now at Step Three. Many of us said to our Maker,
as we understood Him:
page
63, paragraph 2, lines 1,2
1.
Remember they are fatally ill. The kick you will get
is tremendous. To watch people come back to life, to
see them help others, to watch loneliness vanish, to
see a fellowship grow up about you, to have a host of
friends--this is an experience you must not miss.
2.
Remember they are very ill. Life will take on new meaning.
To watch people recover, to see them help others, to
watch loneliness vanish, to see a fellowship grow up
about you, to have a host of friends--this is an experience
you must not miss.
page
89, paragraph 1, line 7 & paragraph 2, lines 1-5
1.
Admit that he probably knows more about it than you
do, but call to his attention the fact that however
deep his faith and knowledge, there must be something
wrong, or he would not drink. 2. Admit that he probably
knows more about it than you do, but call to his attention
the fact that however deep his faith and knowledge,
he could not have applied it or he would not drink.
page 93, paragraph 2, lines 11-14
1.
No person on this earth can stop his recovery from alcohol,
or prevent his being supplied with whatever is good
for him.
2.
omitted
page
98, paragraph 2, lines 2,3
1.
Let the alcoholic continue his new way of life day by
day.
2.
Let the alcoholic continue his program day by day.
page
99, paragraph 2, lines 9,10
1.
Experience proves this is nonsense.
2.
Our experience shows that this is not necessarily so.
page
100, paragraph 4, line 9
1.
If you do this thoroughly, no decent person will ask
you to drink.
2.
If you do this thoroughly, few people will ask you to
drink.
page
102, paragraph 1, lines 9-11
1.
If he adopts this view, the slip will help him.
2.
omitted
page
120, paragraph 1, line 9
1.
We are the victors, and have been given the power to
help others.
2.
We have recovered, and have been given the power to
help others.
page
132, paragraph 2, lines 5,6
1.
As ex-alcoholics, we smile at such a sally.
2.
As ex-problem drinkers, we smile at such a sally.
page
151, paragraph 4, lines 3,4
1.
We know a former alcoholic who was living alone in a
large community.
2.
We know of an A.A. member who was living in a large
community.
page
163, paragraph 2, lines 1,2