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17. Thou, O Lord, who makest men of one mind to dwell in a single house, also
broughtest Evodius to join our company. He was a young man of our city, who,
while serving as a secret service agent, was converted to thee and baptized
before us. He had relinquished his secular service, and prepared himself for
thine. We were together, and we were resolved to live together in our devout
We cast about for some place where we might be most useful in our service to
thee, and had planned on going back together to Africa. And when we had got
as far as Ostia on the Tiber, my mother died.
I am passing over many things, for I must hasten. Receive, O my God, my confessions
and thanksgiving for the unnumbered things about which I am silent. But I will
not omit anything my mind has brought back concerning thy handmaid who brought
me forth--in her flesh, that I might be born into this world's light, and in
her heart, that I might be born to life eternal. I will not speak of her gifts,
but of thy gift in her; for she neither made herself nor trained herself. Thou
didst create her, and neither her father nor her mother knew what kind of being
was to come forth from them. And it was the rod of thy Christ, the discipline
of thy only Son, that trained her in thy fear, in the house of one of thy faithful
ones who was a sound member of thy Church. Yet my mother did not attribute this
good training of hers as much to the diligence of her own mother as to that
of a certain elderly maidservant who had nursed her father, carrying him around
on her back, as big girls carried babies. Because of her long-time service and
also because of her extreme age and excellent character, she was much respected
by the heads of that Christian household. The care of her master's daughters
was also committed to her, and she performed her task with diligence. She was
quite earnest in restraining them with a holy severity when necessary and instructing
them with a sober sagacity. Thus, except at mealtimes at their parents' table--when
they were fed very temperately--she would not allow them to drink even water,
however parched they were with thirst. In this way she took precautions against
an evil custom and added the wholesome advice: "You drink water now only because
you don't control the wine; but when you are married and mistresses of pantry
and cellar, you may not care for water, but the habit of drinking will be fixed."
By such a method of instruction, and her authority, she restrained the longing
of their tender age, and regulated even the thirst of the girls to such a decorous
control that they no longer wanted what they ought not to have.
18. And yet, as thy handmaid related to me, her son, there had stolen upon her
a love of wine. For, in the ordinary course of things, when her parents sent
her as a sober maiden to draw wine from the cask, she would hold a cup under
the tap; and then, before she poured the wine into the bottle, she would wet
the tips of her lips with a little of it, for more than this her taste refused.
She did not do this out of any craving for drink, but out of the overflowing
buoyancy of her time of life, which bubbles up with sportiveness and youthful
spirits, but is usually borne down by the gravity of the old folks. And so,
adding daily a little to that little--for "he that contemns small things shall
fall by a little here and a little there"--she
slipped into such a habit as to drink off eagerly her little cup nearly full
Where now was that wise old woman and her strict prohibition? Could anything
prevail against our secret disease if thy medicine, O Lord, did not watch over
us? Though father and mother and nurturers are absent, thou art present, who
dost create, who callest, and who also workest some good for our salvation,
through those who are set over us. What didst thou do at that time, O my God?
How didst thou heal her? How didst thou make her whole? Didst thou not bring
forth from another woman's soul a hard and bitter insult, like a surgeon's knife
from thy secret store, and with one thrust drain off all that putrefaction?
For the slave girl who used to accompany her to the cellar fell to quarreling
with her little mistress, as it sometimes happened when she was alone with her,
and cast in her teeth this vice of hers, along with a very bitter insult: calling
her "a drunkard." Stung by this taunt, my mother saw her own vileness and immediately
condemned and renounced it.
As the flattery of friends corrupts, so often do the taunts of enemies instruct.
Yet thou repayest them, not for the good thou workest through their means, but
for the malice they intended. That angry slave girl wanted to infuriate her
young mistress, not to cure her; and that is why she spoke up when they were
alone. Or perhaps it was because their quarrel just happened to break out at
that time and place; or perhaps she was afraid of punishment for having told
of it so late.
But thou, O Lord, ruler of heaven and earth, who changest
to thy purposes the deepest floods and controls the turbulent
tide of the ages, thou healest one soul by the unsoundness
of another; so that no man, when he hears of such a happening,
should attribute it to his own power if another person whom
he wishes to reform is reformed through a word of his.