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THE
EMMAUEL MOVEMENT
REMAKING
A MAN
One
Successful Method Of Mental Refitting
by
Courtenay Baylor
OF
THE EMMANUEL MOVEMENT, Boston, 1919
FORWARD
The
writer’s one object in his psychological work has
been to obtain results. He has therefore explained his ideas
to his patients in the language each individual would understand.
Since his experience has been that of a layman talking entirely
to laymen, he has not acquired a technical vocabulary. This
he regrets as he is perfectly conscious of the value of
technical terminology in arriving at an exact expression
of one’s ideas when addressing scientific men. He
asks, therefore, that those readers to whom his terminology
may seem crude will criticize his methods and results rather
than the terms he uses to describe them in this paper.
INTRODUCTORY
STATEMENT
Whatever
progress medicine may make as a science, the treatment of
the sick, as Dr. Weir Mitchell maintained, will always be
an art. It is from this point of view that Mr. Baylor’s
treatise should be judged. It describes as simply and truthfully
as words can describe a method of moral treatment of certain
selected cases which has been productive of good results.
For years I have sat in my study in Emmanuel Church, and
I have seen Mr. Baylor’s patients come and go. Many
have come to the Church, broken and ruined men. They came
to us because life itself had cast them off and they knew
not whither else to go, nor how to escape from the vices
and miseries which were destroying them. Many of them have
gone forth new men, having undergone a change in character,
in physical and moral health and in facial expression little
short of miraculous. These men, I should state, were not
recruited from any single rank in life. They represented
almost all types of education and social environment from
the lowest to the highest. While many presented definite
problems of alcoholism, morphinism or sexual abnormality,
many others have sought relief from the ordinary neuroses
and psychoses-depression, fear, weakness of will, painful
thoughts, insomnia, evil temper, lack of mental concentration,
with the resultant tale of failure, impoverishment and discouragement.
In talking with many of
these men I am have been impressed by the extent to which
they had been able to accept and appropriate Mr. Baylor’s
philosophy and by the use they were able to make of it.
It would be strictly true to say that this teaching has
changed life for hundreds of men and for the families of
such men. I know alas! only too well how far the written
word fails to express the whole personality of a man.
Yet I hope that this little
book, conceived in charity and illumined in every page by
vital experience, may produce upon its readers some portion
of the effect which the same thoughts have created when
informally uttered.
Edward
Worcester
Emmanuel
Church
REMAKING
A MAN
I
There are three reasons
why this paper is written at this time. First the writer
wishes to establish if possible his claim that it is logical,
legitimate, ethical, and safe for one who has no medical
or surgical knowledge and who has no psychological degrees
to do a certain type of psychological work in conjunction
with skilled physicians, provided such a person has demonstrated
by a long period of results that he is competent to handle
certain types of neuroses. Just as officers who have gained
their military knowledge in the practical school have a
place with those who have had theoretical training, so he
feels that the man who has acquired a knowledge of psychology
in a practical way has a proper place in the field of psychological
work. He hopes to justify his own claim to a legitimate
place in this field by the following account of his methods
and of results he has obtained through them. He also wishes
so to present his ideas that this paper may be of value
to any one who is interested in the practical application
of these methods, either for the purpose of helping others
or possibly for his own relief; and finally he wishes to
suggest to the physicians in authority the practicability
of this method for use in the treatment of returned soldiers
suffering from the neurotic conditions known as "shell—shock"
and from other emotional results of war-strain.
He has been working for
some seven years under the guidance of Dr. Elwood Worcester
of the Emmanuel Movement in Boston. During this time he
has handled personally some thousand cases of which fully
two—thirds have resulted successfully. He first applied
himself to the refitting of mental processes by psychological
methods in work with alcoholics-those who obviously and
avowedly wished to give up drink entirely but who, owing
to a condition of mental conflict, were unable to do so.
From this experience with alcoholism he has worked out an
analysis of what he believes to be the condition and the
underlying cause in alcoholic neurosis, and one method of
permanently removing this cause.
But, though he has worked
primarily with alcoholic conditions, his whole experience
has necessarily led him into dealing with many other neurotic
conditions. Every case of alcoholism has behind it what
might be called an alcoholic or neurotic atmosphere. We
can hardly expect a patient to become or to stay cured if
he must remain in an environment which has in all probability
contributed to his own abnormal nervous condition. This
environment must in its turn be "cured." The writer
has therefore, when he has been working directly with the
alcoholic patient, dealt also personally with the individuals
involved in the background of each case.
It is upon this experience
that he bases his confidence in the value of his methods
as an aid to handling the neurotic conditions among returned
soldiers. So often he has found, in the families of alcoholic
patients, persons in whom exactly the same abnormal condition
has obtained, although they have never taken alcohol. They
have presented symptoms corresponding or similar to those
of an alcoholic neurosis; they have shown a mental state
answering to the same analysis; and they have yielded to
the same treatment. For it is evident, the writer feels,
that after all-whatever its cause, whether it be the result
of a long or a short period of sorrow or care or horror,
or merely a precipitation of an existing neurotic tendency,
and whatever the manifestations characterizing the individual
case-there is a particular neurosis which is fundamentally
the same condition always, and which therefore responds
always to the same method of treatment. He believes that
this neurosis is, in many instances, characteristic of "shell—shock"
and of war-strain; and he feels confident that any methods
which have already proved successful in its relief elsewhere
will also prove valuable for the relief of war—strained
men in whom physicians find it to exist.
II
In working with patients
who presented themselves for relief from alcoholism I found
that they fell naturally into three classes: those with
an alcoholic neurosis; those who, while they appeared at
first to have simply a neurosis, proved upon further acquaintance
to be suffering from a definite psychosis or from actual
insanity; and a few individuals who, while they were neither
insane nor psychopathic, seemed incapable of responding
to any method of treatment. For these last two groups I
do not pretend that any permanent reconstruction can be
brought about by this treatment; but for the alcoholic neurosis
I have worked out one method of obtaining permanent relief
which has proved successful in many instances.
It seemed to me that the
condition in this trouble was essentially the same whether
the use of alcohol had been the original cause or was the
outcome and expression of an existing neurotic tendency;
the same analysis seemed to apply to any alcoholic neurosis.
I recognized that the taking of the tabooed drink was the
physical expression of a certain temporary but recurrent
mental condition which appeared to be a combination of wrong
impulses and a wholly false, though plausible, philosophy.
Further, I believed that these strange periods were due
to a condition of the brain which seemed akin to physical
tension and which set up in the mental process a peculiar
shifting and distorting and imagining of values; and I have
found that with the release of this "tenseness"
a normal coordination does come about, bringing proper impulses
and rational thinking.
Alcoholism is characterized
always by the existence of a secondary and false philosophy.
In some cases this abnormal point of view replaces the man’s
normal philosophy to such an extent that he is conscious
of the one attitude, only-the false. In the majority of
cases however, the normal and the abnormal are revealed
to him as existing together and conflicting more or less
noticeably. But in any phase of the trouble and whether
the conflict is revealed or not, it is the existence of
the two different attitudes which characterizes the mental
state in alcoholic neurosis.
Take the man who drinks
moderately. It is safe to say that in the great majority
of cases a man who takes a drink does so with a mental reservation
that it is because the weather is hot or cold, or he is
wet or fatigued or depressed or excited, or his football
team has won, or for the sake of sociability, or because
someone has died. It is almost never that he realizes and
frankly states that he wants a drink because it is a drink
and that drinking has such a hold on him that he cannot
get along without it. He assumes the nonchalant air that
drink in itself is really immaterial to him-that he only
drinks on occasions as above.
But as a matter of fact
even the most moderate drinker-the man who may go through
life without drinking to so-called excess—has an alcoholic
neurosis, and therefore this secondary philosophy, to just
the extent of his drinking. He may have no scruples about
the use of alcohol, and therefore he may not be conscious
of any difference in his philosophy at the moment when he
wants a drink and at any other time. Let him for any reason
attempt to give up drinking entirely however, and he will
discover his inability to do so without a struggle. He will,
each time he wants a drink, offer himself some good reason
for this particular lapse; and the point of view which he
holds at that moment will be to him apparently true and
conscientious.
With the acknowledged victim
of alcoholism this philosophy of excuse becomes more and
more persistent; either it becomes a perpetual state, or
it breaks intermittently-allowing a consciously different
point of view for some time, only to have the excuse return
with full persuasiveness. In the first case with the excessive
drinker, the normal mental attitude has been so completely
replaced by the alcoholic philosophy that there is no consciousness
of any conflicting ideas. In the latter case with the periodical
drinker, the two attitudes exist side by side for a time
and their conflict is revealed. This last is the condition
of the moderate or occasional drinker intensified. Then
the man has not yet identified his drinking philosophy as
anything apart from a normal point of view; but with the
periodical drinker the drinking has reached a point where
it is its own indictment. Here the man himself recognizes
as false the philosophy which justifies it, and the two
points of view are therefore revealed to him in opposition.
The same dual condition
is found in the non-alcoholic neuroses of this type. There
is a conflict of impulses, an instability of thought, a
kaleidoscopic change of values, and with these the lack
of power in the sick person to truly analyze his attitude
and actions. He rarely realizes that business, family, friends,
and politics seem all wrong largely because of his own fear,
depression, irritability, or distorted imagination. He conscientiously
believes that he is fearful, depressed, or irritable entirely
because of negative circumstances or because of the attitude
of other people. Even the difference between his normal
and abnormal periods he usually explains away, if he recognizes
it at all, by attributing it to a change in something outside
of himself. Thus, while the conflicting philosophies of
the non-alcoholic conditions are perhaps less conspicuous
than the two points of view in alcoholism, they are nevertheless
two distinct mental attitudes-the one neurotic and the other
normal, and they have been an important feature of this
particular neurosis in each phase with which I have come
in contact.
In the abnormal periods
the mental state is literally a circle of wrong impulses
and false philosophy-each a cause and the result of the
other. It seems logical in an alcoholic condition to think
of the impulse as starting the philosophy-that is, a man
wants a drink and then thinks up a justification for taking
it; but on the other hand, the neurotic condition which
follows from that drink brings distorted values and as a
result false reasoning and wrong impulses. In non—alcoholic
phases of the trouble a person becomes neurotic and proceeds
to apply his neurotic reasoning to everything-the conduct
of his business, his relations with the members of his family
and with friends-in short, to whatever may hold his attention
at the moment. That is, the impulse to fear or depression
or irritability, which is itself the result of a neurotic
condition, arouses in him an attitude of mind which, as
soon as it becomes apparent in his conduct-and it is inevitably
translated into conduct-creates in reality the condition
which he first imagined in his fear. This new and real condition
now gives him a logical reason to continue and increase
his fear tendency; and so, he goes around the circle again
with ever increasing momentum-fear creating conditions and
conditions creating new fears.
Underlying and apparently
causing this mental state, I have always found the brain
condition which suggests actual physical tenseness. In this
condition the brain never senses things as they really are.
As the tenseness develops, new and imaginary values arise
and existing values change their relative positions of importance
and become illogical and irrational. Ideas at other times
unnoticed or even scorned become, under tenseness, so insistent
that they are converted into controlling impulses. False
values and false thinking run side by side with the normal
philosophy for a time; and then with the increasing tenseness
the abnormal attitude gradually replaces the normal in control.
This is true whether the particular question be one of drinking
or of giving way to some other impulse; the same indecision,
changability, inconsistency, and lack of resistance mark
the mental process. In fact a person will behave like one
or the other of two different individuals as he is or is
not mentally tense.
For instance, on Monday
when he is normal and values appear to him in their right
proportion, a man honestly feels he will never take nor
want another drop of liquor. By normal I mean that he is
coordinating physically, mentally, and psychologically,
and is free from fear, depression or exaltation, irritability,
or any of the other children of the tense mental condition.
Yet the same man, on Thursday, when he has developed the
tenseness which prevents perfect coordination and when again
as a consequence the mental confusion and distorted values
have returned, may be debating with a sort of second self
and finally deciding he needs just one drink. He has been
fully conscious of both lines of reasoning at first, and
he has known perfectly well the train of events which is
bound to follow the "just one drink"; yet as the
tense condition increases, he yields to the alcoholic philosophy.
Take the man who does not
drink. He has, we will say, worked up to a very good position;
he is too old to secure any different kind of work; and
it is therefore essential that he retain his present place.
Further, because of long years of companionship and real
love, his wife is necessary to his happiness and it would
seem to his very existence; and his love for his children
and their love for him is a condition he would give his
life to protect. These he knows are the true values; but
what do we find when this man’s brain becomes tense?
He will endanger his wife’s affection by scolding
and finding fault with trivial things which at other times
he would ignore. He will risk losing his children’s
love and respect by unjustly punishing and impulsively and
irrationally criticizing them. Even here he will shift from
day to day as to the things which he chooses for his fault
finding. His position in business he will endanger by impertinence
to his employers and a grouchy lack of cooperation with
his associates. In the background running parallel with
all this for a time is the consciousness that he must retain
his position and that he loves his wife and children dearly
and wants and needs their love in return; but, as the mental
tenseness increases and so long as it holds, it is the false
values which control his conduct.
In normal sleep we are conscious
only of dream—life or of nothing at all; in the normal
waking condition the whole brain is awake and capable of
carrying on its real work of all ‘round balanced thinking
based on true values; in the neurosis which I am describing
it seems as if a part of the brain were awake while the
other part were dreaming, and the result is a mental state
of uncertainty and conflict. This seems to be true whatever
the extent of the trouble; the dream condition may become
perpetual or it may be broken or very slight in proportion
to the mental tenseness; but always with this tenseness,
come the dream values and the irrational impulses and their
consequent philosophy and behavior.
Take our illustration of
the non-alcoholic man who has become mentally tense. His
brain is in the condition of one waking from a nightmare
in which some horror is chasing him and in which he is unable
to make his legs run him away, while at the same time the
thought goes through his mind, "I know this is only
a dream, and yet I must wake up before this thing catches
me." With the part of his brain which is awake he recognizes
the unreality of the values upon which he is acting; but
the tense dreaming part seems to have control of the situation.
Take also the man who reverts to drinking again on Thursdays
after having been so very far from even the thought of such
a thing on Monday. He is sufficiently conscious of his real
philosophy to debate the question with himself at first;
and yet, as the tenseness gradually gains control of his
brain, he surrenders to the dream values and to the action
which they justify.
One important characteristic
not to be overlooked in this neurotic condition is the absence
of any real desire-if not the presence of actual reluctance-on
the part of the patient to reach a point of complete normality.
It is hard to realize that a person suffering from alcoholism
or from fear, melancholy, trembling limbs, or any other
symptom of this neurotic state should not want to get entirely
well; but such is the fact in a great many cases. The patient
wishes to have the symptoms allayed, but there is an unconscious
tendency to secretly hold on to his difficulties while making
believe that he is trying to surmount them. This point is
elusive. It is so hidden by the surface symptoms of the
trouble at first that the patient is honestly unconscious
of it and the instructor is aware of its presence only because
experience has taught him to look for it. It reveals itself
beyond question, however, as soon as the acute difficulties
have been cleared up. Then once the patient recognizes and
understands this tendency to hide behind his illness and
acknowledge its existence, his recovery can become rapid;
but until this can be accomplished he will unconsciously
prevent his own return to complete normality.
The neurotic patient’s
attitude is like that of a person who, in a happy convalescence
from physical illness, dreads getting back into the vigorous
responsibility of life. He realizes that in his neurotic
condition that he is not competent to meet the problems
of life as a normal man would, and he assumes that this
is not expected of him. The fact that he is considered a
sick person is a relief, since it implies that he is to
be looked out for in some degree. He feels that, while he
is sick, either his problems will be met for him or he will
have an excuse for going down before them. He has not sufficient
imagination to realize that those things which seem to be
problems to him in his illness will cease to be anything
more than mere incidents of life when he is well. From his
present point of view they will always be problems. He feels
that he will go down before them without a doubt and if
he is considered well there will be no excuse other than
mental incompetence. That he is mentally incompetent he
fears and admits to himself; but he does not wish to share
his secret. He may talk loudly about being competent; but
in reality he does not believe in his own returning capabilities;
and he dreads to put them to the test.
III
If I am right in my contention
that "mental tenseness" is the underlying cause
of this neurotic condition, we must, to relieve the neurosis,
permanently remove this cause. That is, we must induce as
permanent the mental state which exists in the absence of
tenseness.
Freedom from tenseness in
my opinion is merely a normal state in which the entire
brain is awake and the man coordinates simply and naturally
with his surroundings and within himself. I like to describe
it by the word "relaxed"; and when I use this
term, while I do mean to indicate the opposite of tense,
I mean also something far more than a state of mere limpness.
Relaxation to me suggests a combination of suppleness, vitality,
strength, and force-a certain definite intentional elasticity.
It is always the condition behind good work, physical or
mental. The athlete, the musician, the writer, the teacher,
the businessman, all do their best work when they are relaxed
and running free. Then they coordinate all their powers
without tension; then they do not rigidly charge their problems,
but blend and work with and direct them.
To induce this relaxed state
permanently, the tenseness must first be released temporarily
by some means; the patient must then be taught to prevent
its recurrence; and in order to make these measures lasting
and effective, he must be provided with the inspiration
of an entirely new outlook on life- "a new scale of
values."
The patient must eventually
be re-educated in his hole mental process so as to know
how to recognize and to dissolve certain tendencies at their
very inception and before they get under way, for it is
only by doing this that he can prevent the recurrence of
his tenseness.
Irritability, dread of making
a contact, procrastination, depression, self-pity, a general
feeling of fear-all of these and more-should be labeled
as danger signals and eliminated while they are still tendencies.
This re-educational work is done through logical analysis
and explanation and definite instruction, which are combined,
if the patient can cooperate in relaxation, with direct
relaxing exercises.
But the temporary relaxation,
direct or indirect, is, I feel, an essential preliminary
at each interview, Since tenseness in the brain causes destructive,
negative, and irrational thinking and prevents the normal
action of the mind, whatever tenseness exists must be released
before any attempt is made to re-educate that mind. It is
of little avail to feed logic to a tense mind, for such
a mind cannot digest it. But a brain relaxed and cleared
from tenseness and free from that dream-condition spoken
of works normally. Not that it is necessarily filled with
knowledge; but it is in a receptive and responsive state
in which values can more readily appear in their right proportion
and constructive and consistent impulses arise. Thus the
instructor should always be sure that the patient is relaxed
and in harmony before he attempts any psychological work.
What might be called the
inspirational phase of the treatment is practically bound
up in the two phases which I have just outlined. Every person
suffering from any form of this neurosis needs a new point
of attention, a new philosophy of life, and new courage
with which to face life. The method in itself thoroughly
understood meets these needs. It supplies the patient with
a new interest and a new point of view so big and so different
that they occupy the present moment fully and at the same
time make all life seem worth while to him. It gives him
something new to live for, and with this new purpose, a
new consciousness of power within himself; and so eventually
it arouses and develops his nature to its full capacity.
He need rely no longer upon
the functions and senses which have failed him so often.
He has through this method discovered another, hitherto
unrecognized, sense or function or power upon which he has
learned to draw at will and which enables him to meet the
problems of life with joy and to master them. He knows now
how to release the tenseness in himself and in persons and
conditions surrounding him. More than this, he has learned
how to cultivate right impulses and constructive thinking
and so create within himself and thus in his surroundings
better and stronger and happier conditions; and according
to his new philosophy he realizes that the whole secret
of life lies in creating these right impulses and conditions
rather than in resisting wrong and harmful influences.
To bring about a psychological
change which shall straighten out a chaotic mind into permanent
normality is more than a science; it is also an art. The
physician, surgeon, psychologist, or layman who has this
art may by practice develop various degrees of technique
with corresponding results. But in my opinion the knowledge
of medicine, surgery, or psychology alone, without the art
factor, does not produce concrete results along these lines.
The instructors aim is to
bring about in a sick mind permanent relaxation and re-education.
To do this he must develop intuition and resourcefulness.
To teach a man to relax his body is one thing; to teach
him to relax his mind is a much more difficult problem.
The first is necessary to the second, and there are many
ways of attaining both. There are also many and various
temperaments each of which calls in the refitting process
for a different handling as to details of approach and treatment.
In order to accomplish anything
by any method, the instructor must first gain the confidence
and cooperation of the sick man’s mind. To insure
these conditions he should remember that the obtaining of
the patient’s confidence does not depend upon what
the instructor thinks of him but upon what he thinks of
the instructor. Thus, while obviously he will hold a position
of dignity in every interview, the instructor must eliminate
at the outset all possibility of any real or imaginary point
of cleavage between the patient and himself—such as
might appear between a man "who knows it all"
and a "poor fool who knows nothing." If such a
feeling of cleavage does appear, it cannot be eliminated
by patronage or make—believe interest. The instructor
must make sure he is honestly interested in the patient’s
welfare, and with this basic truth planted his honesty of
purpose will be revealed to the patient as the interviews
progress.
Further, it is not what
the instructor says but what the patient actually believes
which will determine the latter’s impulses and actions.
There may be some types of mind which will accept and believe
dogmatic statements rigidly expressed; but I am sure that
the average person combats this method. He will, however,
cooperate quickly if ideas are offered for his acceptance
or rejection-as they may or may not appeal to him-rather
than handed to him as something which we have already accepted
for him. The instructor must therefore sense the mental
process of each patient and adjust his manner of conversation
and instruction always to the type of mind with which he
is dealing.
The instructor must also
keep in mind constantly how large a part indirect methods
play in the successful handling of any patient. When he
remembers that all personal interviews are one hundred per
cent "suggestion," direct or indirect, and it
is watchful and skillful he may so arrange his contact with
the patient that everything which is said and done-the entire
atmosphere—shall contribute to the latter’s
recovery. Every quiet conversation and every moment of interest
in anything outside himself and his own affairs is in itself
just so much gained towards the patient’s relaxation
and re-education in any case; and when the points of interest
and the activities offered are deliberately chosen by the
instructor they can be made to carry a "suggestion"
tending very definitely toward reconstruction.
We hear the terms "suggestion"
and "auto-suggestion" used as if they implied
something uncanny and unnatural, weird and oriental, when
in reality they refer simply to the reaction of thought
to something seen or heard or felt and to the natural expression
of that thought in some physical or mental action-an obvious
and familiar process. The salesman meets the customer; there
is the attitude on the salesman’s part of cheerfulness;
this has a definite effect upon the customer. the orator
comes upon the platform; there are certain things about
him which arouse in the individual members of the audience
a positive or a negative reaction; as he speaks, the words
he says start trains of thought in the minds of his hearers;
the audience in its applause or quietness sends back a definite
impression to the orator. A mother kisses a baby’s
bump and makes it well; she raises her eye brows with a
look of surprise and the child draws its hand away from
the sugar bowl. In all these there is the play of "suggestion".
We use and respond to "suggestion"
so continuously and unconsciously that it has very little
interest for most people. It has a new interest however,
when we consider it as it is applied in this treatment,
when we realize that a person can "suggest" to
himself and bring about a desired condition that he can
tell himself to be free from nervousness the following day
,for instance, and find next day that this "suggestion"
is carried out. "Suggestion," then, as the term
is used in this discussion, refers merely to this everyday
process deliberately applied to the reconstruction of a
sick mind.
The direct work-the detailed
explanation-which is necessary for permanent reconstruction
should, of course, be begun as soon as possible; but some
temperaments and conditions react unfavorably to a direct
approach. the patients are embarrassed or frightened or
antagonized, and their mental tenseness is increased, by
direct instructions or even by comments bearing frankly
upon their own treatment. In such cases the instructor should
blend, as soon as he perceives this disturbance, into indirect
methods only and should use them exclusively until he has
brought the patient through to a point where he is ready
for the usual treatment and willing to accept it.
For instance he may tell
a patient how he wishes him to practice definite relaxation
by himself latter in the day describing here step by step
what he wants him to do later on. This postponing of the
time of action relieves the patient of embarrassment by
allowing him to do the exercise by himself, and it takes
out of the situation any possible appearance of insistence,
which is so petrifying to the neurotic. Or if the patient
is annoyed by this discussion of relaxation as such, the
instructor may talk more or less impersonally about some
other phase of his treatment. The tone of voice and the
speed of the conversation will have a relaxing effect upon
the patient, and the result will be some release of his
bodily and mental tenseness for he will unconsciously let
go to a certain extent as he listens.
Or if a patient cannot bear
at first even a direct reference to his condition or to
any part of the process which is to relieve it, the instructor
may introduce some topic apparently wholly unrelated to
the subject of "treatment," trusting to the momentary
self-forgetfulness and unconscious relaxation which usually
follows the patient’s interest in that topic to pave
the way for a change of attitude.
My reply to a patient who
had reached the point of herself asking me what was "indirect
suggestion" will illustrate my meaning. I answered
her:
"1 avowedly want to
get you quiet-your mind at ease and into a habit of thinking
of other things than those about which you have been thinking-to
the end that you may relax and coordinate properly and use
all of your functions in a normal way so that you may walk—for
there is no physical reason why you should not walk. I want
you to get into a habit of a hopeful and happy frame of
mind. I want you to become a natural optimist so that you
will begin to have a feeling of surety that sooner or later
you are going to walk. I therefore have come to see you
quite frequently, told you funny stories to make you laugh,
presented you with a ukulele that you might become interested
in playing it and in singing, and in other ways have buoyed
you up.
"I have never once
directly urged you to walk or cut down on your sleeping
powders. I recognized that to speak of walking fretted you,
and to speak of sleeping powders fretted you, and to the
extent that you fretted you became tense, and to that extent
we were going backwards. All of our work is for the purpose
of getting you well; this is perfectly obvious to you and
does not have to be spoken of. Your intelligent mind realizes
that natural sleep is necessary for recovery from any nervous
trouble; and natural sleep means breaking away from powders
for one thing. Therefore, indirectly, the mere fact of my
continuing to come here suggests those things which we wish
to bring about-walking and the cutting out of sleeping powders.
There is nothing underhand about this indirect suggestion;
we both of us know it is going on; we both of us know what
I am here for; and I shall continue this method as long
as it seems best."
By the time a person is
recognized and classified as a "patient" he is
often in such a condition of mind that he is unable to make
a consistent and persistent effort in any one direction.
His own conscience and often the attitude of his friends
have urged him to continued attempts at activity; he has
been striving to concentrate on some definite line of work
without success; until through discouragement he has finally
settled back into an attitude of laziness. The fact that
he is physically doing nothing brings him no real rest,
however, for-while he may defend his conduct to his friends
and to himself-he is haunted, nevertheless, by a feeling
of unhappy guilt because he realizes that he is not doing
what he should.
This feeling is an important
contributing factor in his general nervousness and disturbed
psychic condition, and it must be eliminated before he can
yield himself fully to the treatment. It is my custom, in
a condition of this kind, to tell the patient that he must
do absolutely nothing for a week (or whatever period of
time I think wise)and to insist upon this in spite of his
declarations that we must work-that he must be active.
Inasmuch as he has been
accomplishing nothing anyway there is no harm in his continuing
his inactivity a little longer; and there is a great mental
and moral relief to him in the fact that he is told definitely
that he must not even try to do anything. Now, for the first
time since his illness, he is making his body and his mind
do what he tells them to do. He is definitely and successfully
doing something, although that "something" consists
of doing nothing; and since he is doing it under instructions
it is the thing to do, and his self-censure passes away.
This interval of rest also gives an opportunity for necessary
psychological and possibly medical work so that, after it,
the patient can be brought gradually from definite inactivity
into definite activity until his tendencies to lack of concentration
and action have disappeared entirely.
As I always explain to the
patient, I want him to learn and to accept for himself and
to be able to apply to himself all that this treatment teaches.
I can help him while he is with me, but I can only see him
in half-hour periods for a limited number of meetings. He
is with himself twenty-four hours a day, and my aim is to
help him to help himself that his reconstruction will be
permanent.
A certain type of mind will
cooperate more or less blindly -that is with perfect confidence
and willingness but with very little comprehension of what
I am really doing; and this type very often shows a temporary
response, sometimes covering a considerable period of time.
But I have found that it is the intelligent cooperation
which comes from a real grasp of the method that makes for
permanent independence. The patient’s ability to grasp
and apply the new ideas depends largely upon his thorough
understanding step by step of all that is done and said.
Furthermore, points which he does not fully understand will
inevitably disturb him; he will be sure to combat them-openly
or silently-and in either case he will be hampered until
the question in his mind is answered. It is important therefore
in order to get the most complete response from the average
person, that he have a full and careful explanation of each
phase of his treatment as soon as possible, and that the
instructor keep his explanations and exercises well within
the patient’s mental capacity, and that he gauge and
keep pace with the speed of his understanding.
One point especially may
cause trouble until the patient understands the situation
fully. This is the necessity of working primarily, not upon
the surface difficulty, but upon the condition behind it
and upon the cause underlying this condition. I discovered
in working with alcoholics that I was getting my best results
when I frankly devoted all my explanations and comments
to the condition behind the physical act of taking a drink
and spoke of alcohol only enough to indicate that I had
an intelligent idea of its effect. In nonalcoholic neuroses
I adopt the same method. I touch upon the things uppermost
in the patient’s mind only enough to satisfy him that
I do not belittle his difficulty, and then I work upon the
general condition behind that difficulty. But this procedure
I always explain clearly to the patient; for unless I do
he may feel that I have failed to grasp and am not going
to get at his particular trouble. Once the situation is
clear to him, however, he will usually cooperate with me
and will set his symptom aside for the moment and help me
to analyze and remedy the underlying cause.
Take, for instance, a definite
"fear." This is in reality, I believe, a general
fear condition revealing itself in this particular way.
Suppose that a person is at some time extremely nervous
and, although perhaps not conscious of it, is already in
a condition of timidity. At this time he walks through an
open space and the recognition of this feeling of timidity
comes to him, either because it is ripe to come or because
it is precipitated by some catastrophe that occurs before
his eyes-a shooting affair or the breaking up of a mob,
for instance. From this time on, this person is always conscious
of having, as he thinks, a definite "fear" of
an open space, when it is really merely one revelation of
a general fear—feeling which has become associated
with open spaces.
Now if we work to eliminate
the space-fear alone, we may remedy that particular out-cropping;
but the underlying condition will still be there to crop
out in some other way. My point is that, by working to eliminate
the general fear rather than the specific manifestation,
we do away with the whole condition so that there is no
fear to be focussed on open spaces, tunnels, audiences,
or any thing else.
It often happens, however,
that the thought that he must do any work himself is terrifying
to the patient at first. In such cases I drop for the moment
the idea of explanation and assure him that, until he feels
like it, he need do nothing for himself-that I will do it
all; and I follow out for an interview or two the method
of using dogmatic statements without explanation. Then as
he improves I explain more fully and lead the patient into
doing his part; and when he is strong enough, I call his
attention to the fact that for some time he has really been
doing the work. I show him then that, after all, complete
recovery must be brought about by himself; but I assure
him again that I will stand by until such recovery is accomplished.
In this way the patient arrives just as surely at permanent
reconstruction and independence, but he is saved the unnecessary
tenseness from real terror or resentment at having too much
expected of him.
IV
With the foregoing general
points in mind to guide him in possible modifications of
the treatment for each patient, the instructor begins the
process of systematic mental refitting. This work usually
falls, I have found, into definite psychological steps;
but the varying circumstances, temperaments, and conditions
of each individual must be dealt with here also. The treatment
is a series of progressive interviews, each meeting growing
out of the preceding meeting; but any arbitrary plan for
fitting certain points into certain interviews or even any
fixed rule for the order in which these points shall be
attempted is quite impossible. With some persons one point
can be made at each meeting; with others it may be necessary
to devote several interviews to the taking of one step;
with still others one interview may cover several steps.
I have in some instances even seen the complete change wrought
by one long session into which the whole process of instruction
was crowded.
The patient’s attention
must first be caught temporarily and his thoughts diverted
from their habitual channels. Then a certain amount of interest
and curiosity can be aroused by means of the new ideas which
the instructor offers him. This interest and curiosity must
then, in turn, be deepened into a desire on the patient’s
part to try out these new ideas and to prove them true;
and the natural evolution of this desire will be his complete
cooperation with the instructor.
But if he hopes ever to
get the kind of attention which will lead to reconstruction,
the instructor must arouse on the part of the patient a
sub-conscious, or conscious, reaction which is favorable
to him personally; and the moment to establish such a reaction
is when he makes his first contact with the patient. This
is the time, more than any other perhaps, when the latter
should be convinced of the instructor’s personal interest
in his welfare. To this end I endeavor to make my reception
cordial, unhurried, strong, and keenly interested. It is,
I feel, important that the instructor should so cultivate
the habit of thinking only of the person before him that
each patient will feel a perfect confidence in his undivided
attention and interest.
Furthermore, the instructor
should acquire the patient’s inner and deeper attention
at this first meeting. So often we think, because a person
is physically present, gazing at us and listening to us
or even answering questions, that we have his attention,
when subsequent events show quite the contrary. It is the
mental and not the physical attention that we want, for
it is only through this that any active and permanent interest
can be aroused.
An unexpected manner of
approach does much to secure this kind of attention at the
outset. Take, for instance, a person accustomed to harsh
treatment and harangue and criticism who is unconsciously
expecting censure from me. To this man I show a quality
of personal kindness and attention such as he has never
thought of; and I explain to him how natural it was that
he should have acquired the particular habits that are causing
his trouble, I try to make him feel an understanding and
a sincere sympathy on my part. On the other hand, with the
successful man who is accustomed to dominate his office,
his home, and his associates and who because of his position
expects servility and soft words, I deal roughly. I analyze
this man point by point, showing him exactly what are his
shortcomings and why they are largely his own fault and
how, in his present attitude of mind, he is a useless member
of society.
With either type this approach
so surprises the patient that for the moment it disconnects
his thoughts from whatever subjects have been obsessing
them; and in this way we get an effective hold on his attention.
At the same time it tends to establish a footing of confidence
between patient and instructor. In one case the unaccustomed
kindness and sympathy create this feeling at once; even
though it arouses the patient’s anger at first, commands
a respect on his part for the instructor’s honesty
of purpose and so contributes to the same end.
The patient will very likely
show at the outset a tendency to take the situation and
run away with it; but of course he must never be allowed
to do this. On the other hand, he must not feel that the
instructor is doing it either, for if he gets this latter
feeling he combats every suggestion-even the most obvious
truth-or he readjusts his mental process to what he thinks
the instructor would like it to be. Any of these attitudes
is false and does not create the proper appetite in the
sick man’s mind for a true analysis of his trouble.
Therefore, in spite of the fact that we want the patient
to recognize his right to think for himself and his obligation
eventually to conduct his life according to his own ideas,
it is better if he can be brought to have a mental leaning
towards the instructor during the treatment so that he will
have the tendency to accept his leadership regarding matters
in which he needs guidance.
It may seem best to have
the patient begin talking at once; but usually I find that,
just as a host or hostess puts a guest at ease on his entrance
into the room, so the instructor should put his patient
at ease by beginning the conversation. In this way he can
also establish the tone of this and future interviews and
begin at once to make headway towards readjustment.
For instance, after an exchange
of a few commonplace remarks I usually begin somewhat as
follows;
"You are not feeling
very well, are you? (Let the patient answer ) You have made
a good many explanations to yourself and have had a good
many made to you as to what may be the matter with you.
But what you want to know is what really is the matter,
don’t you? ( Let the patient answer ) It is up to
you and me to find that out. We, you and I have got to analyze
you. I do not mean criticize; I mean analyze you—dissect
you-so that we may get at the exact truth. You will act
in a double capacity; you are to be patient and physician
at the same time. What you and I want is to get you well.
If we can get you free from fear, nervousness, depression,
tenseness, ( name other negatives, including his well known
symptoms ), we can give you peace of mind—and peace
of mind will do wonders.
I purposely ask an occasional
question to make sure that the patient is blending with
and following my line of thought. It is necessary, moreover,
in order to establish his confidence in the instructor’s
understanding of his difficulty, to let him rehearse his
own idea of his condition quite fully. I avoid here expressing
anything in the nature of a definite diagnosis, for in my
opinion a psychological diagnosis at this period is a pure
guess and if subsequent events prove one’s guess to
have been wrong the patient’s faith is shattered irrevocably.
It is well however to tell the patient at this time that,
whatever may be his particular trouble, he may reasonably
expect to get well, and then to explain to him how he and
the instructor are to study out certain fundamental psychological
laws, the knowledge of which will enable them to get to
the bottom of that trouble.
When once he sees he has
the patient’s real confidence, the instructor, may
begin the questioning which is necessary for an intelligent
analysis of the difficulty. This point of confidence may
be reached in the first interview, or it may be necessary
to wait for several meetings; but the instructor must be
perfectly sure of this feeling on the part of the patient
before he begins to question him, for without it the patient
is going to answer to satisfy his ideas of expediency and
not his idea of truth.
When I feel sure that we
are ready, I begin with something on this order:
"We have all heard
of mind reading. I do not know of anyone who can use it;
at all events I cannot. But I must know what is going through
your mind and what is going through in order to help you.
If I were a mind reader I would not bother you; as it is,
I must rely on you to tell me what I cannot read. There
is plenty of time and I will help you at first with questions.
Remember these interviews are confidential and mutually
so. Before we get through I shall have to reveal as much
about myself as you do about yourself. Now tell me, for
instance, what you are thinking of at this moment."
It usually takes some time
to get the patient to state exactly what he is thinking
of at that given moment. But after he has acquired the ability
to so focus and express in words his present thoughts, I
lead him through the same mental exercise to his thoughts
of a few hours before, then to a few days before, then back
a few weeks, then a few months, then a few years, and so
back to his earliest memories.
This exercise tends to train
the patients mind to respond to questioning and to cooperate
in the method. It develops a flexibility and a certain facility
of memory which enable him to think back more clearly and
to remember more easily the happenings and mental conflicts
of childhood so that in this way he can do his part in his
own analysis. Also it contributes effectively to attracting
and holding his attention. He concentrates upon his own
thoughts from a new angle; he watches his own mental process
impersonally, for perhaps the first time; and quite unconsciously
he is interested, for the moment at least, in this rather
than in the thoughts he has been dwelling on.
Now before patient and instructor
can work together at all effectively the patient must be
somewhat relaxed physically and mentally, and their two
minds must be working at the same speed. The patient’s
thoughts will probably at first be either racing or lagging.
As he has the sick mind he cannot be expected to take the
initiative in making an adjustment to the instructors speed,
so the instructor must be the mental acrobat and do the
adjusting. If the patient’s mind is working slowly,
he must adapt his own mental pace to the sick mind until
he can bring that up to normal. Or in the opposite case,
he must catch the speed of the patient’s mind and
slowly bring it down and direct it in its course as a mounted
police might seize and direct and bring to a quiet walk
a runaway horse.
When I find the racing mind,
I use the following exercise to relieve it. I begin in a
conversational manner, as I do every interview, asking questions
and receiving answers for the purpose of reviving the atmosphere
and attitude which have been gained in our previous meetings.
Then I lead the conversation naturally into something like
this:
"Before we take up
any new matters, let us see if we cannot get your thoughts
quiet. Let that brain work a little slower—rest your
head against the back of the chair—and close your
eyes. Now put out of your mind all thoughts of anything
outside of this room for two minutes by the watch. I will
keep time. You cannot make any real plans in two minutes.
You cannot get out of trouble or into trouble in here in
two minutes. Nothing will happen to you in these two minutes
but rest. So just stop thinking of anything outside this
room, and get your thoughts down between you and me. (slight
pause ) I will tell you when the two minutes begin and end.
( pause ) To stop your brain racing we shall handle it as
we would any rapidly moving object, starting with it at
the speed it is going and gradually pulling it down slower
and slower. Now we will start the two minute period, and
for our rapidly moving object we will think of a boat.
"Get a picture in your
mind of sailing rapidly down a harbor on a beautiful summer
day, with a stiff breeze. We are going towards an island
in the distance-an island with a hill and trees. We are
flying over the waves—the spray is dashing over the
bow-the boat keeling to the wind. Now we overtake the boat
ahead-Now we are passing it-leaving it astern. We are still
going towards the island-the spray dashing over the bow.
Now we overtaking the next boat—now passing it—now
leaving it astern. Now there are no boats between us and
the island, and we are still going on towards that island
faster and faster and faster.
"Now we are coming
around a point of land under the lee, where the wind is
less, and the waves are less, and the boat is going less
rapidly-less rapidly-and less rapidly; and the farther and
farther and farther under the lee we go, the less rapidly
and less rapidly the boat is moving. Now we are coming around
another point of land into a miniature harbor that is protected
by the hill and trees, and there is no wind, and there are
no waves. We lower the sail, and the boat is coming slowly
in under its own momentum—slower—and slower—and
slower—and— now—it—is—barely—moving.
We throw over the anchor—the boat slowly comes about,
and we are at anchor—and at rest-and at peace-and-we-take-a-long-sigh-of-mental-contentment.
(PAUSE)
"We get out of the
big boat into the little boat-and skull ashore-and pull
the little boat up behind us on the beach-and go over under
the shadow of the trees—and lie down upon the soft
ground beneath. There you rest—completely relaxed—shoulders
and spine and all-and quietly watch the birds in the nest
above you and the clouds in the sky beyond."
If this exercise is successful
the patient is fairly quiet, and I explain that I wish him
to use the same picture between now and our next interview
whenever his mind shows a tendency to race. Now I explain
that I do not ask him to believe in this method of treatment,
but I do ask him to be sure that he does not disbelieve,
and I want him to note the coincidence that to some degree—even
after this short exercise—there is less nervousness,
and fear and depression are less acute. I explain further
that after all I am simply carrying out with adults the
method which all mothers intuitively use with their frightened
babies. A mother puts her child’s body at rest by
taking it in her arms; she quiets its mind by saying "csh—csh—csh—csh";
and when the child is fairly quiet, she changes its point
of attention by supplying a new interest in, for instance,
the birds building their nest outside the window. In our
exercise the body is at rest in the chair; the picture of
the boat journey takes the place of the "csh";
and the island ahead where we eventually arrive and rest
changes and holds the patient’s point of attention
by furnishing for the time being a new interest.
Any story such as this boat
story is in itself one effective method of indirectly relaxing
the patient. The man with racing thoughts is not usually
ready for a direct relaxing exercise; but in listening to
the instructor’s voice and in following the description
he is giving the patient forgets himself to some extent
and accordingly lets go his tenseness to that extent. Also
the fact that his racing thoughts can be quieted and the
simple explanation of how this is done are of distinct interest
to him.
Discussions on matters the
patient has been mulling over do not have any real interest
for him. They hold his attention, and he will talk or think
of them incessantly; but no deep interest sufficient to
change his quality of thought can be aroused by any angle
given to these old ideas. So the instructor, while he speaks
of them sufficiently to satisfy the patient that he knows
what the latter is worrying about, must lead him away as
dexterously as is possible from this "vicious circle
of neurasthenia." He must frankly change the patients
point of attention and then illuminate the new point which
he offers him so that it becomes a matter of pertinent and
absorbing interest.
The direct relaxing exercise
is a method which I have found successful in accomplishing
just this purpose. The experience of relaxing constitutes
in itself a telling factor of the new interest; the new
ideas which the patient is given during this exercise fill
his thought for the moment; and together they render his
mind receptive to further illumination.
For this exercise I proceed
practically as follows;
"Now a little later
I am going to take up with you more fully these matters
that you are speaking of ( calling them by name ); but for
the moment I want to speak of other matters, which may seem
to you irrelevant but which, later on, you will find do
in reality cross-section your difficulties.
"You know I can go
to sleep to—night at ten o’clock and wake up
to—morrow morning at half—past four, or half—past
five, or a quarter past six, just as I wish. If you cannot
do this yourself, you have known someone who could. Now
what does this mean? It meant that six and a half hours
or seven and a quarter hours after we have told our body
to do a certain thing, that body, without any conscious
volition on our part, will proceed to carry out the instructions
given it some hours before.
"We have applied these
principle to what we call WAKING UP. If it will act in waking
up it is reasonable to suppose that the same quality of
mental attitude which will make the body open its eyes may
create some other involuntary reaction, and if it will do
this we are perhaps working with a definite function which
we have never considered before, and it may be of great
value to develop such a power to a point of practical application.
"We know that swimming
is all in the head. That is to say-when a man thinks he
can swim he swims, and when he thinks he cannot he sinks.
By a certain quality of thought, therefore, he starts some
causation which either floats or sinks his own weight. We
know, too, that a certain kind of thought will chase the
blood to the face and another kind of thought will take
the blood out of the face. Or let one be as hungry as may
be and let a sudden, shocking, disagreeable thought come
into his mind, and his appetite immediately vanishes and
a condition of nervousness is noticed. This nervousness,
therefore, has been induced by a certain quality of thought.
If a certain quality of thought will induce nervousness,
it is reasonable to assume that a certain quality of thought
will reduce nervousness; and if these and other phenomena
can happen unintentionally, it is also reasonable to experiment
to see if they can be deliberately induced. This from now
on, is what we want to practice doing.
"Now clinch your fist.
(Pause ) You realize that it is clinched because you thought
it clinched. Now think your arm straightened out and rigid;
now think your fist-your wrist relaxed—and your arm
relaxed. Were you not conscious, as you changed from the
tense to the relaxed muscles, of a different feeling in
your mind also-a different quality of thought? Now think
your shoulders tense; now think them relaxed; now think
your spine tense; now think it relaxed all the way down.
It is no more of a phenomenon for your spine to relax all
the way down in response to thought than it is for your
arm to stiffen in response to thought.
"I was talking to a
friend of mine some time ago. He lives in Tacoma, Washington;
is forty—three years old; has a wife and three children.
He has always been liked by every one; all the people in
the neighborhood have gone to him for advice; he will put
himself out for any one, is generous to a fault, and is
always cheerful and confident although he was in debt for
years. For the last five years, however, he has made good
in business; he has paid off his indebtedness and now has
money in the bank, owns property, has an automobile, and
is able to give his family all they need. People still turn
to him for advice, and he is able to help them more than
ever. Every one wants him around; he is a good singer, a
good mixer, and a generally good fellow.
"You have a pretty
good idea of what kind of fellow this is, haven’t
you? ( Yes, is usually the answer. ) Yet you have not thought
whether he is tall or thin, bald or with flowing hair, has
blue eyes or brown—in fact, you have not thought of
the physical man at all, have you? ( The patient invariably
answers, "No.") Still you have a definite idea
of the man? ( Yes I am giving this example to illustrate
to you how, when we think of a person who is described to
us, we just naturally think of something else besides the
chemicals of flesh and blood called body.
"It is this other thing-different
from the body-which is sick with you, and it makes the body
sick. This thing which I have in mind-this life force-or
psychic force-or personality-or whatever name you may wish
to give it-is the you by which right of eminent domain should
control your body and your mind but which, for causes we
are trying to locate, has lost its position of control in
your life.
"To restore this condition
we want to induce a condition of physical and mental relaxation.
Under this relaxation, physical conditions will be relegated
automatically to the outer rim of your consciousness so
that the realization of your personality may take the center
and you may again direct your body and your mind normally
and effectively.
"Now do not forget
that this power we are after is you. It is you who makes
the arm move in the air. It is you who makes the body sit
up and sit down. It is you who makes the feet walk. It is
you who makes the thoughts go to the floor, the ceiling,
or the window. It is you who control the body and the mind,
for the moment at least; and if you can do this for the
moment, you can cultivate this momentary power so that it
will become permanent and automatic. Now your body and mind
are all tied up in a knot, and we want them to be untied;
so I am going to show you how to untie or relax them. We
will take a little exercise in relaxing now.
"Rest where you are
and close your eyes so that you can quietly hold your thoughts
on what we are going to do. Now just think your shoulders
relaxed-don’t think then stiffened-think them relaxed;
and your responsibility is over when you have thought of
your shoulders as relaxed. Now think of your spine as relaxed-from
the back of your neck all the way down-think of it as being
relaxed. Think of the muscles of the back and of the chest
and of the abdomen-as being relaxed-and the legs all the
way down—relaxed—and the ankles, and the feet,
and the toes, even—move the toes and feel that they
are relaxed. Now think of the arms—all the way down—as
relaxed-and the wrists and hands and fingers-and now the
cords of the back of the neck and the throat-the jaw muscles-(
don’t clinch the teeth )-the face-and the forehead-and
the mind. Just let the thoughts drop as if they were feathers
floating down—down—down. (Pause ) Just let the
chair ( or bed ) hold you up ( Pause ) and now ( Pause)rest."
When I am sure that the
patient is really quiet, I explain the effect of relaxation
to him in this way:
"Your nervousness is
less just to the extent that you are now relaxed, and the
same is true of your fear and depression. It is not that
you think these feelings are less or that you are credulous
and believe they are less because I say so. Under this relaxation
you are functioning more normally in every way, and the
more normal you get the more nervousness and fear and worry
and irritability pass away. You do not just think that you
slept last night; you did sleep last night. Sleep is a phenomenon
that follows a certain attitude of mind and body, and so
it is with the phenomenon following an attitude of relaxation.
As relaxation progresses, tenseness is released and nervousness
and fear and worry begin to pass away."
Following this explanation,
I instruct the patient to carry out this simple method of
relaxation when he goes to sleep at night and when he awakens
in the morning and at times during the day if he feels tense
and nervous. I warn him not to overdo this exercise however,
for I have found from experience that patients sometimes
become so interested at first that they work the exercises
over—time with the natural reaction of soon becoming
bored.
As soon as possible, sometimes
at the beginning of the treatment, I begin to combine with
the personal interviews a line of simple reading which is
so chosen that the "man of the street" may understand
it and benefit by it. I use also the method of having the
patient write down, for five minutes at a given hour each
day, his exact thoughts. I explain to him that he is not
to write what he thinks I would like to have but what he
is really thinking of at that time-whether it be of drink
or sex or music or murder. I feel that it is important,
in order to get at just what is in his mind, that he should
be assured that his daily writing will be destroyed immediately
after the instructor has read it. This diary method enables
the instructor to become familiar with the patient’s
mental process-with the reasons prompting his philosophy,
and it often brings out many hidden and important thoughts.
It also enables him to learn the patient’s mental
language, as it were, so that he can make himself better
understood.
V
When we have brought the
patient to the point where he really wants to get well,
there is usually such a blending and understanding between
him and the instructor that they are working as one. The
patient is not only interested and willing to cooperate;
he is eager to learn and to practice more of this method
in the hope of securing permanent results. He believes now,
because of the actual results of the meetings so far, that
he will entirely recover his health and normality; and this
confidence has diffused his whole mind with hope-has colored
every thought with new light. His values on life are beginning
to be readjusted; new desires are coming into play; and
he is changing from a pessimist to an optimist.
Subsequent interviews are
for the purpose of deepening and extending and making permanent
these changes; and they should cover a period of a year—the
interval between them being extended as time goes on.
An important indication
of the patient’s recovery, which is revealed in his
daily notes and in his conversation as these interviews
progress, is the improvement in his thinking process. He
comes gradually to distinguish almost unconsciously between
true and false thinking, until he learns to recognize any
reasoning which does not ring true so promptly that his
old "false philosophy" is in evidence less and
less frequently.
Gradually he learns his
true relation to the forces of life, and so he comes to
realize that now he can become in reality whatever he has
hoped in the most idealistic moments of his youth. He knows
that he is in fact "the captain of his soul" and
in a new self-confidence-in the glorious certainty that
he need never fail again—he finds perfect freedom
and happiness.
ILLUSTRATIVE
CASES
COMMENT
In the previous pages I
have discussed my observations and methods from the angle
of successful reactions only, because it is almost entirely
upon these that my ideas are based. Unsuccessful cases,
of which there have been nearly one—third, are purposely
dismissed with the following recognition and classification.
In my experience the educational
value of failures has been almost nil. Very little reliable
information can be gleaned from the unsuccessful case. He
is seen only when he comes back at periods of remorse or
depression; and practically all our knowledge of his reactions
must come from his own statements, which may or may not
be true.
It is easy to see in medicine
or surgery how much constructive knowledge can be gained
through mistakes; but in this work we are dealing with a
much more elusive proposition, and I have found that a method
which fails with one patient is not at all sure to fail
with the next. Because one man does not respond to a given
procedure in this work is no sign that that procedure may
not be worth trying with the next man. On the other hand,
certain methods have always been found to bring favorable
results; and every favorable reaction is worth noting, because
any method which has worked successfully with one individual
has a chance of proving effective with another.
The reason for failure is
in every case the same. I fail when I am unable to get a
man’s attention sufficiently to impress upon him the
need for prompt relaxation and for the immediate elimination
of wrong tendencies at their very inception. No one can
help himself to complete a permanent recovery until he realizes
that his waves of drinking or depression or irritation,
or whatever the condition may be, begin with and grow out
of a barely perceptible tenseness and its resulting tendency
to a negative condition and that these waves can be avoided
only through promptly relaxing that tenseness and dispelling
that tendency.
I fail to get this necessary
attention either because the patient has an innate lack
of desire to change his life and ideas and no spiritual
element out of which to build such a desire, or because
he has an actual mental defect, or because his illness is
so deep-seated and his spiritual side so buried that the
stimulus dynamic enough to reach and arouse him or the time
and personal attention necessary to get through to him have
been lacking.
The first classes I have
found hopeless. The last-the hard shelled type-has suggested
no practical constructive method. The possibility of success
through the described method would call for such constant
personal attention and authority that it would become impractical
if one considered taking any other patient.
The successful case, however,
is under close observation, and his mental process and reactions
can be watched first hand. Thus it has been through successful
cases that I have learned most, and it is in these only
that the working of the treatment are really demonstrated.
Therefore in the following report, which is intended to
illustrate the application of the method in individual cases
of different types, I have described successful cases only.
THE
CASE OF A
The A’s, a man, wife,
and two children, had been sustained for several years by
a well known relief organization which, because of the native
intelligence of the man and the brave struggle of the wife,
had made vigorous though futile attempts to put him on his
feet and prevent the breaking up of the family.
A, had seen actual service
in the Spanish War and had been wounded in action. He returned
a hero and became the center of attraction to many of his
friends who gathered about him at the bar and at the table
to hear his experiences and to show their appreciation by
treating him. For two years or more this idle drinking life
continued, leaving A an alcoholic and his family a burden,
first on the battery to which he belonged, next on his friends
and acquaintances, and finally upon charity.
The long suffering Relief
Organization at last decided that the situation was no longer
tenable; but before taking definite action to arrange the
final break, asked me if I would disregard my rule and call
upon A., as he could not be induced to come to me.
We met on neutral ground
at a settlement house. He told me that his only reason for
coming was to give me "a strong touch" for twenty
dollars.
When we were alone, I said
to him; "You know what this meeting is for, and I suppose
that you expect me to ask you to give up your drinking,
to sign a pledge, or something of that sort. I may discuss
drinking with you some time, but not to-night. What I want
to call to your attention tonight is that you are tied up
in a knot-physically and mentally. You are worried; you
cannot sleep, cannot concentrate, could not hold a job if
you had one, and for that reason really do not want one.
You are sore with yourself and with the world; you have
lost confidence with in yourself and therefore you have
lost confidence in humanity; and there are a lot of other
things the matter with you that you do not know about.
"If you were going
to teach a child to swim, you would not, if you were wise,
continue while the child was rigid from fear or from any
kind of protest. In my opinion it is just as unwise to try
to teach an adult who is physically rigid from fear or protest
to swim or to do anything else.
Every one is a potential
teacher. Your little boy could teach me where you live.
You could teach me about the conditions among soldiers under
fire. You could teach me a good many interesting ways of
the East Side-about the dangerous dives and about the sporty
places. I don’t imagine there is much about the East
Side that you do not know. You can teach me these things,
and still you do not pretend to know it all; and so I have
a few things I can teach you, but I do not pretend to know
it all.
"What I wish to teach
you is how to let go of your tense physical, mental, and
nervous conditions—how to let these conditions pass
away from you that your efficiency may increase and logical
success and happiness follow. I want to show you how to
relax without becoming limp. You may think you know how
to relax; but you probably do not. There is not one person
who knows anything about it until he is shown.
"Do not be afraid that
this relaxing exercise will take us away from your difficulties.
We shall reach them, but not merely for the purpose of helping
them temporarily. We are going to dispel them forever; and
we shall not be in a position to carry this out until you
have learned what relaxing is. Do you care to try this relaxing?
You need not unless you wish to."
The reply was, "Yes."
"All right. Get into
an easy position with both feet on the floor. Let your arms
rest on the arms of the chair and rest your head back. Close
your eyes so that your thoughts will not wander and put
out of your mind all thoughts of anything outside of this
room. ( Pause)
"Now bear in mind that
your arms and legs and body move in response to thought.
You think of your arms as stiffened and it stiffens. Your
body gets up and sits down according to your thought. If
you tell your feet to walk, they do so. If you tell your
thoughts to go to the floor or the ceiling or the window,
they do so. If you tell your shoulders to become rigid,
they do so; and if you tell your spine to become relaxed,
it obeys you. It is no more of a phenomenon for your spine
to relax all the way down in response to a thought than
it is for your arm to stiffen all the way down.
"Now think of your
shoulders as stiffened, for instance; now think of them
as relaxed. Now think of your spine as relaxed all the way
down — the muscles of the back relaxed. Now think
of the muscles of the chest and of the abdomen as being
relaxed - and the legs all the way down - and the ankles
— relaxed — and the feet — relaxed. Think
of the arms all the way down - the wrists - the hands -
and fingers -relaxed - just as the cells of the body were
opening out. Think of the cords in the back of the neck
as relaxed. Your responsibility is over when you think of
them as relaxed.
"You of course will
not suddenly relax the first time, but you will get some
effect. Now think of the throat as relaxed -and the jaw
muscles - and the face and the forehead — relaxed.
Don’t clinch the teeth - let the tongue lie quietly
on the floor of the mouth. Now let the thoughts just drop
as if they were grain falling down through a hopper ( pause
) and now rest — and listen to me.
"If your thoughts wander
off from what I am saying, bring them back quietly to the
main road as you would bring back sheep you were driving
if they wandered from the path. You would not violently
rush them back. So with your thoughts -don’t bother
if they seem to wander a little - simply guide them quietly
back.
"Before you get through
this evening, your nervousness and depression will be a
great deal less and you will have learned of new laws which
will certainly arouse your interest —laws which may
be of practical use this very night. We shall deliberately
work with the power which enables a person by assuming a
certain mental attitude to dictate to his body that it shall
wake at a given time the following morning and causes the
body to obey directions later without any conscious volition
on the part of the person. I can wake any time I wish by
arranging for it in my mind the night before. If you cannot
awaken in this manner, you know other people who can and
therefore know it to be a fact that this can be done.
"Now if the body will
respond to the instruction of "waking up" as we
call it, it is reasonable to believe that if the same mental
attitude is assumed it will respond to other instructions.
If this proves to be the case, it is also reasonable to
believe that we may possibly be working with a function
which we have not consciously recognized before. We all
know that by assuming a certain mental attitude we are able
to swim. The man weighing two hundred pounds thinks he can
swim, and he swims; he thinks he will sink and he sinks.
Two hundred pounds is floated or sunk by a certain quality
of thought. This is a point that we will take up at some
future time and investigate.
"What I want to demonstrate
to you tonight is this -that by thought you have relaxed
your body and mind. You have relaxed your shoulders, your
legs, ankles, feet — your arms and wrists, hands and
fingers -the cords in your neck and throat, your jaw muscles,
your face, and forehead — and your thoughts. Just
let go. Now you have relaxed or let go your physical and
mental self with the result that your tenseness is less;
and to the extent that you have released that tenseness,
to that extent you are coordinating more normally. Your
blood is circulating more freely; your brain is working
more normally; fear and depression, irritability, and nervousness
in general are passing away.
"It is not that you
think that these feelings are passing away; they are passing.
It is the phenomenon that follows relaxation just as the
phenomenon of sleep follows a certain attitude of mind and
body. It is not that you think that you slept last night;
you did sleep last night; and it is equally true that your
nervousness is actually passing away. To whatever extent
you are now relaxed, to the same extent nervousness is passing
away. It is not that you are credulous and that I am making
an arbitrary statement which you accept. Results will show
that you are less nervous and that the brood of troubles
from nervousness will be distinctly less.
"I want you to note
as a coincidence that tonight you will sleep better than
you have been sleeping and that tomorrow you will be more
hopeful and freer from all these negatives. I am calling
your attention to these things that you may note the coincidence
of their coming true. They would be true whether I called
your attention to them or not; but the calling of your attention
to them is for the purpose of giving you confidence in this
method, that we may proceed to further steps to the end
that not only will all desire for drink pass away but you
will have found a new method of conducting life’s
battle.
"Because you have recognized
a new function, or another sense perhaps, you will have
a hope that you can handle life instead of having life handle
you. If you sense this idea yourself — and you will
if you are sure you are getting the results I predict from
this method - then you are going to have a new confidence
in yourself; and that very confidence is going to build
efficiency; efficiency is going to build success; and success
is going to result in happiness enveloping you. For one
never obtains happiness by going after it; happiness comes
to us — envelops us. Happiness is a state of mind.
"To exercise this method
properly we must change your point of attention from those
things on which it has been riveted to this newly discovered
function. What we wish to induce is a craving on your part
to work, a craving to be sober, a craving to live a respectable,
successful, and happy life. This craving must be as definite
as thirst.
"You are at present
expressing your impulses; and we wish you to continue to
do so. We are not seeking suppression but expression; for
it is only through expression that a man can be free and
can develop his efficiency and his life. There are impulses
that a man obviously should not continue to express; but
to concentrate upon those impulses for the purpose of suppressing
them only increases their activity. Surely the thing to
do is to fill the mind with thoughts that can be expressed
without calamity.
"One of the children
in our family was sitting in front of the open fire in his
nightgown just before going to bed. He murmured, starting
in a low voice, "My knees are hot — my knees
are hot — my knees are hot." Each time he said
this more quickly and louder until his voice had reached
a shriek and the tears were rolling down his face. Even
the other children were impressed with his folly in not
changing the condition which was causing his distress instead
of holding his position and trying to suppress the reaction.
Now that in a sense is the matter with you. Your knees are
hot, and you are still sitting up against the fire.
"I do not wish to impress
you with a desire to stop anything; but I do wish to see
you build up and bring about in yourself a new set of impulses,
which will keep you so active in another direction and make
you so successful that your present impulses will seem like
counterfeit money. Then when the counterfeit impulses have
been revealed to you as such, they will take their proper
place and drop away out of your life. There will be no fighting
temptation. No man ever fought temptation and won; the only
way to win is to have no temptation, and the way to have
no temptation is to "resist not evil." Don’t
waste time resisting; use your energies along new lines
of thinking. Your old philosophy and wisdom have proved
a failure.
"Now rest for a few
moments in silence. Let yourself relax once more —
from the top of the head right down all over the body -
and realize that it is you who control the body and control
the thoughts; for the body gets up and sits down and the
arms and legs move at your bidding, and the thoughts go
to the floor or the ceiling or the window at your bidding.
You control the body and you control the thoughts for the
moment, and if this control can exist for the moment it
can be made to become perpetual.
"If so far these things
interest you, think of tomorrow as a beginning - the first
day of a new study, which, if this new study proves to be
what I say it is, will be the first day of a new life. (
Pause ) Now rest."
Here I allowed two minutes
of silence, and after the silent period I said to him:
"If you have gotten
anything out of this interview we will not weaken it by
talking it over now. I will go with you so that I may know
where you live and call at your own house tomorrow night.
On the way home we said
very little. I instructed him not to talk much to the family
but to go right to bed.
At the second interview,
on the following night, I called upon him in his three rooms
back in the sixth story of an East Side tenement. He reported
that he had gone to sleep the night before in a remarkably
short time and he had had the best night’s sleep for
years; that he was so much calmer through the day and so
much freer from irritability that he could hardly attribute
the condition to coincidence; and that he had no desire
for drink — which might be a coincidence, as he had
not felt like going out but had stayed in the house all
day and had done a lot of thinking.
After some talk I decided
to have him go to bed and repeat the exercise of the previous
night in bed. While A. was preparing for bed I talked with
the wife, who of course was dumbly discouraged, had no confidence
in his ability or desire to reform, no confidence in my
method — which I outlined quickly - and no confidence
in me.
I explained to her how the
Chinese had plays that ran for days at a time and drew a
picture of the actors practically living their assumed characters
during the entire period. I asked her - as things could
not be worse — if she would make believe for two weeks
that we were in a play and that she was an actress. In the
play the husband had been sick; the delirium. of sickness
had passed away; and he was now convalescing. He was supposed
not to remember any of the events of the past and therefore
was not to be censured for the past nor urged to take actions
for the future. ( I wished his actions to come quietly from
himself, and hope to avoid friction which would throw the
mind back into chaos.)
She thought all this sounded
very silly and very foolish. She did not see why a man should
be let off for his misdeeds without having a good talking
to and be petted just because he was a loafer and a drunkard.
Besides, there had been a number of other people who had
"prayed" with him and tried to reform him in this
same way. She thought if he could be sent away and made
to work good and hard and the money sent to her it would
be better. What he really needed was somebody to come along
and give him a good licking.
However, I finally induced
her to be the leading lady in my play. And I want to say
here she was a success; in fact, she filled the role to
perfection and has from that day to this — six years
and more.
After a little further talk
with A., in which it was revealed that on the following
day the landlord was to make vigorous demands and present
just ultimatums, I repeated the exercises of the night before.
After getting him to relax and summing up the points that
had been made, I showed him how it was possible not only
to relax the body and the mind but also to relax a tense
situation.
The landlord would come
the following day with a tone and manner supposed to be
a sure receipt for getting blood out of a stone. A. was
not to listen in detail to what he would say, but was to
think back to the night before and the effect of relaxing
upon his (A’s) body and mind. This would give him
a memory of relaxation if not the actual feeling; and if
only the memory, the effect upon him would be one of calmness.
This would allow him to reply to the landlord calmly, which
in turn would have a calming effect on the latter. Passion
and tenseness would be eliminated from the situation. The
subject under discussion would then be whether the landlord
felt there was a possibility of A’s getting work and
paying the overdue rent. There would be no conflict.
The following night I called
again. The result with the landlord was what had been predicted.
At first the calmness made him madder than ever; he took
it for insolence. But A. had himself in an attitude of real
and not assumed calmness and therefore did not consider
it beneath him to explain that he had started on a campaign
of calmness, giving his reasons why and what he expected
the result to be. The landlords reaction was all that was
looked for; an extension of time was granted, and a friendly
hope of success was expressed.
This third interview was
a summing up of the two previous ones. We went over the
difficulties in the situation, bringing out psychological
points that had developed. We frankly accepted the fact
that these points might very possibly be coincidences; but
we noted however that there had been good sleep, a reviving
appetite, practically no nervousness, no irritability, and
still no desire for drink, and that there was a dawning
feeling that it was possible for one to have a quiet, hopeful,
and even happy mind in the face of unhappy conditions, and
that this attitude of mind seemed to bring about a vision
of ways and means of eliminating such negative conditions.
"If all this is really
true," queried A., "why won’t it go further,
and not only energize a man so that he will unearth a job
but build up in him qualities that will create efficiency
to hold and improve the job? But one thing," he said,
"I am sure of. I shall never take another drink, for
I shall never want to. Discouragement, depression, unhappiness,
and all the former things I took a drink for, I can eliminate
with this new idea."
The six years that have
passed have proved that he was right.
It was very interesting
to see how he used this new idea in his work. This was Thursday
night; on Monday A. had a job at twelve dollars a week.
At half-past three that afternoon he realized with a shock
that he had been looking at the clock for half an hour wondering
if the time to close would never come. This involuntary
attitude on his part he recognized as a familiar one and
realized that it must be eliminated. That night he relaxed
and "suggested" to himself that on the following
day he would have an actual craving for his work; and the
result, or coincidence, was that this habit of watching
the clock disappeared never to return. As he expressed it,
As he expressed it, it was like putting a pin into a toy
balloon.
The next step was the overcoming
of irritability. His employer, who was himself irritable,
would arouse A.’s anger, and while he never answered
back, it was by a mighty effort. The blood was in his head;
the bitterness of thought had an actually sickening reaction;
and he realized that this was suppression. By the now familiar
method he pursued this condition and almost immediately
acquired the ability to relax to the situation when the
employer began his tirades. He had the satisfaction before
the end of the week of having the employer say, "You
are doing your work well; don’t take my gruff way
too seriously; my bark is worse than my bite," and
of finding in his pay-envelope on Saturday fifteen dollars
instead of twelve.
A. is still working out
this method. He is now at the head of an accounting department
for a very large organization. He is receiving a salary
of over four thousand a year. There have been some sickness,
surgical operations, and other difficulties of life to meet;
but they have all been met calmly and strongly. The whole
family are now living in proper quarters and environment
and are healthy and happy.
THE
CASES OF B. AND C.
B. was thirty—eight
years old, married, no children, an architect. He had been
drinking since he was seventeen or eighteen. As usual, he
first took beer to see what it tasted like; then took enough
to get a "whiz"; then, at about twenty, increased
the "whiz" by whisky. The "whizzes"
themselves multiplied on ever increasing occasions, such
as Saturday nights and celebrating the getting of good jobs,
the winning of bets, and so forth, — until now he
was intoxicated practically all the time.
His wife succeeded in having
him sober up sufficiently to come and see me. His attitude
was very friendly; he was frank about his drinking and also
about his bewilderment at the results. This bewilderment
proved to me that it was impossible for him to give up drinking
without help, for while he had always felt that he could
stop whenever he wished, actual results were proving that
notwithstanding a deep desire on his part he was unable
to do so.
My method with this man
was psychologically the same as with A., and his reaction
was somewhat similar, although a lack of fine mental caliber
in the man made it impossible for him to achieve the same
striking material success as A.
This case was interesting,
however, because of certain physical symptoms which entirely
disappeared under this method of treatment. The man was
obviously very tense. He talked in a short, quick, snappy,
metallic manner, bringing out each word separately, so that
his speech always reminded me of a chain of separate links.
The movement of his arms was quick and mechanical, and he
had a jerky, spasmodic, undirected way of using the left
leg which gave him a limping walk. After the first relaxation
and interview - which took about an hour and a half —.
he was much impressed when he noticed in walking out of
the room that the limp had almost entirely disappeared.
After the fourth meeting it had gone. By this time also
the movement of the arms was natural, and the separate links
of his speech had become like a connected chain. His whole
being, in fact, seemed to co—ordinate and blend; and
under this normal coordination the desire for drink passed
away.
C. was fifty—one years
old, a widower with three sons who had turned him out because
of his drinking. A man who I had helped brought him to me
one evening. He was sober but utterly discouraged and remorseful.
I asked my friend to stay
outside while I had my preliminary talk with C. It was night
and he was so very tired that he responded easily to relaxation
which followed. It was probably the first time he had been
thoroughly relaxed since he was a baby, and the result was
that he went into a natural and restful sleep. I timed him
and found that he slept for seven minutes.
He opened his eyes, gaped
and stretched, and then looked at his left arm - which was
still outstretched - with an expression of amazement. He
then jumped from his chair; moved the arm up and down; open
and shut the hand; took off his coat and put it on; called
to his friend, who came in and said, "look at this!",
and took off his coat and put it on again.
The friend, also with an
expression of amazement, said, "What in the world has
happened?"
C. Answered, "This
man has performed a miracle."
I had purposely said nothing
up to this time as I wished the situation to develop under
perfect freedom, but I now asked them to explain what had
happened for I was in the dark. It seemed that the left
arm had been partially paralyzed according to various diagnoses,
and that C. had not only been unable to use it, but had
always had to be assisted in dressing.
I explained to them that
obviously this was not a case of true paralysis and gave
them my theory of the condition being one of a purely functional
nature which had disappeared under the treatment used.
Prompted by experience with
other patients, I asked C. if the room we were in seemed
to be the same one he had come into; and he replied, "Yes,
but it looks different." I then explained that perhaps
everything around him, seemed clearer because his mind had
become clearer, and asked him if he did not notice that
the pictures showed more sharply against the wall and that
the angles of the window frames and the piano were sharper
and more distinct.
"Yes," he said
eagerly, "that is true, and my whole body feels different
and my limbs are freer."
I also suggested to him
that on the following day he would notice the sky - line
of the building where he had not noticed it before; that
the branches of the trees would stand out clearly; and that
upon a familiar walk he would see objects which he had never
noticed before. On our next interview two days later he
told me that these predictions had come true.
I kept track of this man
for three years, and during that time the condition of the
arm never returned.
It was this case which suggested
to me an especial value, with patients who have any purely
functional physical symptoms, in obtaining complete relaxation
at the outset. At that time, had I known about the arm condition
and had it been diagnosed as functional, I should have discussed
the matter with the patient before proceeding to any relaxation
and have attempted to give him a rational explanation of
how it would be possible for him to recover the use of his
arm. But in this case nothing was said by either of us in
regard to this condition, and the relief came without even
the knowledge on my part that any such symptom had existed.
Complete relaxation alone brought about the result which
I had formerly thought could be induced only through psycho
- analysis or suggestion. Since this experience I have worked
upon the theory of inducing complete relaxation immediately
whenever possible so as to eliminate any functional symptoms
at the outset and leave a clear field for the psychological
and re—educational work.
I offer this case, and the
case of B. preceding, as suggestive of the peculiar value
of this method in the treatment of war—strained men
in whom physical conditions which are purely functional
may exist. While only a small portion of my patients have
shown conditions of this kind, my experience with these
has been such that I am convinced of the practicability
of using the same methods for the relief of corresponding
conditions in war—strain.
The
Case Of Mrs. D
Mrs. D. was fifty-three
years old, an intelligent, talented women, who had formerly
been a singer in a high class opera troupe. Her husband
had deserted her, and she had suffered much adversity, finally
becoming confined to the house for two years by reason of
her fear of going out. She was nervous and irritable to
the last degree, could not sleep well, and had no appetite,
suffered from pains in various parts of her body, and had
always thought she had heart trouble, though her physician
could find no organic difficulty of any kind.
She was prevailed upon one
day to take a taxi and come to our rooms. Upon arriving
in the hall where I came through to meet her, she wheeled
on her heel and fell in what appeared to be an honest unconsciousness.
After she revived we walked to my room, but she trembled
and was so very unsteady that I thought she might fall again
at any moment. She sank into a chair and was evidently in
much fear and real pain. She held on to her side breathing
short laboring breaths, and her face was pallid and distorted.
She kept her eyes closed
and maintained a silence through the whole interview, but
I learned from the woman who was present with her and from
the physician’s message that she suffered a great
deal of pain and was in constant fear. Her companion explained
that for years she had been afraid of open spaces, tunnels,
elevated trains, crowded streets, railroad trains, and so
forth, and that this had finally reached a point where she
would not leave the house. These were the more definite
points, but it was evident that she was in this condition
of fear over anything upon which her mind was focussed.
She of course heard her
own symptoms described by here companion on this first interview
so that, although she had not spoken to me personally, she
felt when I talked about her condition that I had at least
an understanding of what she was going through. Nevertheless,
I realized that she was very combative, and it did not take
highly developed intuition to discover that her attitude
was extremely disagreeable.
I held her attention by
moving slowly about the room, opening a window, fixing the
open fire, and doing a number of different , definite things,
and occasionally speaking quietly to her. The result was
that she relaxed somewhat under this indirect method and
the general atmosphere of calm.
Then I said to her:
"Mrs. D.,I am not going
to tell you it is foolish for you to have these fears. The
fact remains that you have them, and my purpose is to help
you to get rid of them. Logically you know as well as I
that nothing is going to hurt you in an open space such
as the Common or the Public Garden; and you would so advise
any other person suffering from the same fear. Notwithstanding
this, you do fear, and this condition of fear is psychological
and is just as much to be considered as though there were
a logical reason for it.
"One cause for this
mental reaction is the tenseness not only of your body but
of your brain. You are all tied in a knot and you would
feel much easier if you would let your shoulders lower.
Don’t keep them hunched up to your ears -just let
them drop. That’s it. Let your arms and wrists relax
too, while I am talking to you. That’s it; take it
easy. I also wish you would not clinch the teeth. It keeps
the muscles of the jaw and of the face tense; it affects
the forehead and the mind itself. If you will just let those
jaw muscles relax and let the forehead and the face relax,
the blood will go out of the head to some extent, and you
will find that your thoughts are quieter and slower.
"Also to help the situation
a little, won’t you please take two or three deep
breaths. If you have ever done any singing you will know
what I mean - inhale through the nostrils a deep breath
and exhale through the mouth. This deep breathing will help
your nervousness; in fact, you will notice that the more
nervous you get the shorter are your breaths and when you
are in a panicky condition you are breathing way up in the
throat - panting. Now once more take a deep breath and deliberately
let yourself relax all over."
Here I repeated the relaxing
treatment as with A. so far as the psychological steps went,
and explained after she was somewhat relaxed and free from
twitching:
"We have found in a
great many cases that this relaxation brings about a certain
coordination which reduces nervousness. The blood seems
to circulate more normally; the mind seems to do less racing;
and following this condition fears become somewhat less,
and a great many times a new hope springs up that possibly
one has found a method by which she can get some relief.
As I say, this proves to be the case with many people who
come here. It is possible that even this little relaxation
may be of assistance to you — not just at this moment
necessarily — but you may this evening feel a little
calmer than you have been. Of course, you may be one of
the people this method does not help; but I see no reason
why you should not be one of the fortunate. So if you feel
encouraged to do so I shall be very glad to have you come
tomorrow morning, and we will try to get this relaxation
down a little finer.
"There is one point
that I want to advise you about. Do not try to overcome
this fear by common—sense; you are going to get rid
of it, but it is going to fade away; so if you feel like
having a fear, go ahead and have it."
"Mrs. D. appeared the
next morning; she did not faint but seemed to be just as
trembling in her walk. She would answer occasionally in
monosyllables, which was an improvement over the day before.
To my question she gave me to understand very curtly that
there had been no benefit whatever from yesterday’s
interview and that her coming to-day indicated neither hope
in the method nor confidence in me personally. I explained
to her that it would be a paradox if she were in her present
condition and had confidence in anything or anybody. I had
better results in relaxation at this interview; and she
thought upon leaving that she might as well come every day
for a while as long as she had started with the idea.
We kept to the relaxing
and philosophizing for four more treatments. by this time
she was coming to church on her bicycle. Curiously enough,
she derived some confidence and courage from wheeling along
the sidewalk this bicycle, which after a time she was able
to ride. This was her own idea; and it was encouraging to
me as it indicated that, notwithstanding her surface attitude
of indifference, she was in reality making an effort.
On the fifth call I got
her to walk out on the street with me a little way. On the
sixth I went with her to the entrance of the Public Garden
which was near the church. This nearly caused her collapse;
but I assured her that she need never go in until she was
willing and that she would never have to go any further
than she wished, for it would do no good to walk through
it a thousand times physically if she were not at ease mentally.
We went to the entrance a number of times after this. By
this time she was relaxing physically and mentally very
well, she was sleeping better, was less irritable, and in
many ways showed a distinct improvement. However, her face
still had a peculiar pallor, and there was as yet no color
in her lips.
My training at this point
was that she might relax to her fears; and one day when
we were talking about her theatrical experiences, we walked
to the Public Garden again and continued on through. When
we had come out on the other side, I said, "You realize
what you have done, do you?" She nodded and answered
that she had not had any fear or panic while going through.
I explained to her that I believed that this was due to
the transfer of her point of attention to something so interesting
that it was of much more value to her momentarily than the
fear which she had been cultivating, and that I thought
if she would directly or indirectly build up some interest
to which she could shift her attention at will she would
find it a great aid in relaxing mentally and in evaporating
that fear which had so persistently clouded her mind.
From now on we tried the
Garden walk, lengthening it each time. Occasionally it was
unsuccessful, but on the whole we obtained better and better
results, going ‘further downtown until we arrived
at the shopping district. There we would look at the shop
windows or sometimes, while I stood at a given place in
a store, Mrs. D. would go to some counter out of sight and
make a purchase, coming back to find me.
Then one day when she was
with me I remembered that I had an appointment to speak,
and asked her to go with me. She accepted my invitation,
but her courage failed when we got to the entrance of the
elevated. However, she knew that I was late and that I could
not leave her to go home alone, and upon being encouraged
to relax in this situation she did so and rode in an elevated
train for the first time in twelve years.
After this experience she
developed very rapidly. There were certain definite streets
which she dreaded, but upon one visit to these with me the
complex disappeared. The hot weather began at this time.
Formerly this had been a period of the most intense nervousness
and fear; but now, while she felt the heat tremendously,
she exercised the methods she had been practicing and the
fear feeling was practically nil.
In the fall there was a
change in her family arrangements, and it became necessary
for her to conduct her own affairs -that is to keep the
house, rent the rooms, and so forth, without any assistance
from her family. She took this up quite naturally, and from
that time on has improved in every way.
The pallor is gone from
her cheeks and lips, and she looks years younger. She is
apparently singularly free from fears and apprehensions
for she has much that would worry the average person. Her
attitude of chronic pessimism and antagonism has entirely
disappeared. She now firmly believes that whatever she makes
up her mind to will come about and that, this being the
case, she can make for herself a life full of richness and
happiness.
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