in our relations with others, but the more serious bar
to recovery is that we have been dishonest with ourselves.
We have not been willing to accept the fact that we
are powerless over alcohol and cannot recover by using
our own will power and good intentions. We have been
unable or unwilling to admit that we are alcoholics
and must seek the same solution that has worked so well
for others. We often hear this dishonesty expressed
in statements like these: "I still think I'm man
enough to handle my liquor," or, "I think
I'll be ok if I stay away from the hard stuff and just
stick to beer or a glass of wine now and then."
My continuing dishonesty while drinking was to return
to my old haunts "just to have a Coke and chat
with buddies." One or two Cokes, and I'd order
a beer or a whisky.
honesty required for recovery is sometimes called "self-honesty."
We might also hear of "cash-register honesty,"
which simply refers to avoids stealing in its various
forms. Beyond that, some of us may have lied about our
accomplishments or taken credit for the achievements
of others. Any practice that includes bearing false
witness is certainly dishonesty. I had been in the Navy
in the western Pacific during the last year of World
War II. In talking about it, I always made it sound
as though I had survived ferocious combat when most
of the tour was boring and uneventful.
can we detect and face dishonesty in ourselves? One
way is to face the real motives behind our thoughts
and actions. We've all known people who say and do hurtful
things under the guise of "just being honest."
If we do this, our real motive might be to feel superior
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