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CATHOLIC
DIGEST, Vol. 19(4): 29-33, February, 1955
A.A.'s
ELEVENTH STEP
Calix
can make it more practical and specific for Catholic alcoholics
By D. Joseph Michael
"Gert!
Look at those guys out there. Kneeling. And they've got
a statue on the table!" And when she looked , Gert,
too, saw the
group of five men kneeling around the table in a private
dining
room of a small cafe in downtown Minneapolis.
It
was a Sunday morning in August, 1947. Strange sight for
the two waitresses. Strange sight to anyone who might have
walked
in on this scene: five men kneeling in prayer around a table
on
which they had placed a statue of the blessed Mother. But
there
seemed nothing at all strange in it to the five who were
so
earnestly begging the Mother of God to assist them in their
terrifying struggle against alcoholism.
In
the words of the founder of the little group, the men
were "very much determined to become saints because
they had lived
like devils and wanted no more of that life." They
were the
nucleus of Calix, an organization formed for the spiritual
development of alcoholics.
It
might be asked why these men had not tried Alcoholics
Anonymous. They had. In fact, they were all active members
of that
organization. But, to quote the founder of Calix again,
"When a
fellow gets into this thing - this business of laying off
the
liquor - one thing is certain: you just know that you can
never
take another drink. I knew that I would have to break away
from
everything that was evil - not just booze. And so as a Catholic,
I
felt sure that my salvation lay in Mass and Communion. And
I'd
have to learn more about my Catholic religion so that I
could
practice it better."
It
wasn't a question of abandoning A.A. It was simply an
attempt on the part of Catholics to carry out that 11th
Step of
the A.A. program as perfectly as possible. This step reads:
"We
sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious
contact with almighty God, as we understood Him, praying
only for
knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that
out." The
Catholic would seek to improve that contact with God by
using the
practical means afforded him by the Church.
There
is no conflict with A.A. In fact, assurance came from
one of the co-founders of A.A., after his examination of
the Calix
constitution and by-laws, that there was complete harmony.
A
specific definition of Calix is that it is a membership
of
men, who, recognizing common problems, and earnestly striving
to
improve their spiritual well-being, are joined together
for these
purposes:
1.
To interest Catholic men with an alcoholic problem in the
virtue of total abstinence.
2. To promote the spiritual development of the alcoholic.
3. To strive for the sanctification of the whole personality
of
each member.
4. To promote the group reception of Holy Communion by its
members once a month.
5. To conduct a spiritual hour for all members and guests
after
the monthly Communion breakfast.
6. To conduct and promote attendance at an evening Holy
Hour
once each month.
7. To have a Mass offered once each month for the intention
of
the membership.
8. To provide a chalice, or other religious article, for
use in
the service of the Church, as a memorial to each qualified
member
on the occasion of his death.
How
did Calix get its start? In the late summer of 1947, a
small handful of Catholic men, all alcoholics, had a special
interest in one of their number, and were casting about
for means
to help him win his oft-lost battle. One of the number,
assisting
as usual at the 6:15 Mass, felt that this particular fellow
alcoholic could best carry out step 11 there, before the
alter,
and with the help of Him who was Mercy itself.
When
this man (call him Bill) left Mass, he gathered about
him that morning the five or six who were interested in
"their
friend with the problem." For several weeks, as a group,
the men
made it to an earlier Mass, and prayed for their friend.
Happily,
success was won. Nov. 11 of that year, then called Armistice
day,
marked the beginning of an armistice between John Barleycorn
and a
weary, but now heartened fighter. And that armistice is
still in
effect.
But
Bill, and indeed all his group, realized that the
armistice would remain in effect only as long as the victor
remained firm in the practice of his faith. He would have
to
abstain totally, and he would have to seek and use the grace
of
God. Bill dropped around to see his pastor to discuss the
possibility of a society, within the framework of the Church,
to
expand the practice of close spiritual cooperation among
men
striving toward total abstinence.
The
pastor's support paved the way to episcopal approval of
a
society to be known as Calix. A constitution was drawn up
and
submitted to the archbishop. His Excellency added suggestions
and
emendations to the text before him, and at length approved
the
constitution and its by-laws.
In
the meantime, Bill and his buddies decided to make it to
Mass each Sunday, receive Holy Communion, have breakfast
together,
and then spend some time discussing what they could learn
of the
spiritual life from books and pamphlets. It was at one of
these
meetings in the private dining room of a cafe that Gert
and her
fellow waitress peeked through the sliding serving door
and
spotted the five grown men on their knees before a statue
of Mary,
refuge of sinners.
With
approval of the archbishop, Bill's pastor turned over
the facilities of the parish to Calix. Place was made in
the
organization schedule for attendance of the members of Calix
at 7
a.m. Mass on the first Sunday of each month. One of the
priests on
the parish staff was appointed spiritual director.
At
the monthly Mass, the members receive Holy Communion as
individual members of the congregation, not as a group.
After the
Mass, they go to the parish dining room, where members of
the
parish sodality have a tasty breakfast awaiting them. The
members
kneel and recite aloud together the Prayer Before a Crucifx
and
then ask the blessing before a meal. After breakfast, the
men help
with the dishes, and return for a conference with the spiritual
director. He explains the principles of the spiritual life
by
commenting on such works as Father Fabervs Growth in Holiness,
Tanqueray's Spiritual Life, or passages culled from St.
Thomas.
The
director does his best to see that the points under
discussion are pertinently directed toward the problem drinker.
Surprisingly, great interest is displayed in the matter
presented.
It then becomes the goal of the member to place what he
has heard
and studied into daily practice.
The
period of spiritual guidance over, the group offers a
prayer for the growth and success of Calix, and then settles
down
to a brief business meeting. The business meeting consists
only of
a roll call, minutes of previous meeting, treasurer's report,
business of the day, and "secret bag" collection.
(A paper bag is
passed about the group after breakfast and each puts in
something
or nothing, depending on his financial status at the moment.)
The
members pledge themselves to assist at Holy Hour
conducted on some evening during the month. At first, it
was
thought advisable to hold Holy Hour at a different parish
throughout the city each month. This was to draw upon the
wisdom
and experience of various city priests who would conduct
the Holy
Hour. However, the difficulties of cross-city traveling
soon made
it apparent that a centrally located meeting place had to
be
found. Bill's pastor enlisted the aid of the director of
Catholic
youth activities in the city and obtained the use of the
Catholic
Youth center's chapel.
The
growth of the group was steady; the need and value of its
program was sensed by those who heard of it. It began to
draw
recruits from every walk of life: professional men, business
men,
laborers - all who share that age-old problem of a weakness
and
lack of tolerance for "the juice of the grape and the
the
drippings of the corn." Without fanfare, it has attracted
the
attention of clergy and laity alike, and the original membership
of five or six has grown to more than a hundred.
Branches
of Calix have grown in other cities and towns as
word is passed along that Step 11 is given a real shot in
the arm
for the Catholic by the program outlined and lived by Calix.
And
itself to be the back door to A.A. for many a Catholic who
otherwise found excuses to avoid the philosophy and help
of A.A.
The
members of Calix do their best to carry into practice the
corporal and spiritual works of mercy. Their interest in
mission
work is part of their constitution. They have painted a
Carmelite
monastery (though it must be admitted that the Mother Superior
had
a moment of misgiving when she learned that a group of alcoholics
was at the door, offering to paint the weathered exterior
of the
monastery); they have given blood as a group; they have
formed
retreat groups; they work hard at the usual A.A. program.
All
this has added up to many a successful battle. More than
that, it has provided a solid basis for continued spiritual
growth. It has helped the men beyond the point of mere sobriety,
in some cases a false thing best described as a "dry
drunk."
The
name Calix (Latin for chalice) was given to the group by
its first spiritual director. It derives its significance,
not
from the broader meaning of cup, but the restricted use
of the
word in the celebration of the Mass. The members of Calix
are
pledged to group themselves about the alter of Christ, to
study
His sacrifice for them, to study ways to atone for their
offenses
done to Him. They draw from the Chalice of Salvation their
courage, their strength, their consolation, and their
determination so to live that the chalice of Christ's suffering
need not have been drained in vain for them.
The
chalice became the symbol of the group when the men
decided to provide for each deceased member a memorial in
the form
of a chalice to be donated to the service of the Church
in mission
fields.
Already
a dozen mission chapels have chalices inscribed with
the name of a deceased member.
The
men are convinced that just as total abstinence is the
only known relief for the man who drinks abnormally, so
also total
conversion to Christ and to the following of Christ is the
only
answer for the Catholic. No use to give up liquor and cling
to an
adulterous union; no use to give up liquor and indulge in
shady
business practices; no use to give up liquor and follow
lustful
inclinations; no use to give up liquor and violate every
principle
of charity. In far more than one sense of the word, a sober
re-evaluation of principles by which to live must be the
starting
point on the long, hard road to a full Christian life.
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