Step four is the vigorous and painstaking effort to discover
what the liabilities in each of us have been, and are. I want
to find exactly how, when, and where my natural desires have
warped me. I wish to look squarely at the unhappiness
this has caused others and myself. By discovering what
my emotional deformities are, I can move toward their correction.
Without a willing and persistent effort to do this, there
can be little sobriety or contentment for me.
To resolve ambivalent feelings, I
need to feel a strong and helpful sense of myself. Such an
awareness doesn't happen overnight, and no one's self awareness
is permanent. Everyone has the capacity for growth, and for
self-awareness, through an honest encounter with reality.
When I don't avoid issues but meet them directly, always trying
to resolve them, they become fewer and fewer.